Should I buy an expensive gift for my girlfriend?

[sergioanderson]

We are dating like 9 months and I know that she wants new phone which is really expensive and she can't pay for it right now.

I want to buy it for her, but in past she told her opinion to me, that she will not accept expensive gifts.

I can buy this gift but I don't know what will be her reaction.

Please help me, should I buy it or not?

[Hannah591]

If she's quite a stubborn minded, serious girl then she probably wouldn't accept it. But if she said that in a joking manner, then she probably would accept the gift, reluctantly. You could buy it for her but keep the receipt and keep it in the box and so if she does completely turn it away, you could bring it back and get your money back.

I say I wouldn't want/accept expensive gifts but if a guy actually got me an expensive gift, I'd probably refuse it in the beginning and say he shouldn't have spent so much money on me but eventually just give in because it's considered rude to refuse a gift apparently. If they'd gone out of their way for me and wanted to spend that amount of money on me, then it's their choice and the least I could do was accept it, even if I don't want too!

She may be like me and accept it but then there's a chance she won't so just keep it in the box and keep the receipt just in case. Make sure with the shop that you can return it for a full refund if you do return it.

[RositaV]

When a girl says she doesn't accept expensive gifts, she's telling you that she is not materialistic and not a golddigger.

If you can afford to buy her the phone, then do it. It will blow her mind.

If you can't afford it, and she knows this, then don't get it, it will make her feel guilty.

(Take it from a non-golddigger herself)

[Zuzuka]

Thats a very cute thought. I think you should buy it for her anyway, because it sounds like she is just being modest. I'm pretty sure that if she really wants it and its from you she will take it. Just say its a token of your love for her. Trust me, not a lot of guys are willing to buy expensive phones for their girlfriends. :)

[yaddayaddayadda02]

You should not. Get her something, but not a phone. I balk at buying my wife a phone, and we've been married 14 years ;).

[EntropicDecay]

Next time she mentions it, you can always ask her if she would be OK with you participating in buying it.

Something like "now that you mention it, I think I can tell you : I've been thinking about buying it as a gift for you, but I know how you feel about expensive gifts. How about you and I buy it together ?"

This way you can show her you remember what she said, yet let her know you thought about giving her the phone she wants as a present.

[MorbidPrincess94]

She is just being modest. I don't think she will refuse to take it if you bought it with so much love for her.

[Anonymous]

no, well I know I don't like things like that, I would prefer something more meaningful like a special date or a trip somewhere together. maybe a piece of jewelry to symbolize your love... a phone is something disposable...

[AliceWonders2013]

Buy it and if she doens't want it then send it to me please, I need a new phone.

[nergiz]

9 months is not a long term relationship and it doesn't qualifies the expensive present.

[Anonymous]

Don't buy it. She will just feel guilty and it might ruin your relationship.

[Anonymous]

Yes you should