My dad doesn't like my girlfriend for no reason!!?

[Anonymous]

She's an awesome girl, she's so sweet, and caring and she tries so hard to get him to like her. He's so stubborn. His problem is he has tried to engrain in my head to not find true love or get married and I just don't agree with that. He put her down my telling me she's ugly when all my friends think she's adorable. Then he said she's a snake and doesn't trust her when she has done NOTHING wrong to me or him and he knows nothing of her at all. What's his problem? Someone tell me what I should do?

[Anonymous]

I think you and her are in the relationship not him, don't let him influence your decision to be with her. If there is no reason to break up then don't.I hate how some people just end things with a person just because their mother or father hate the person and not even truly know them or have a good reason. He is bashing her and hating her for no reason. he can just feel it? God is telling him? wth if that's the only reason then don;t take him on. I would say speak to him and tell him "if you hate her so much, have nothing to say about her to me, I love her, I am staying with her, and you don't need to like her at all"

I just don't think parents have the right to force us out of a relationship cause they don't want us in it. Parents are stoop to low measures to break up their kid's relationships.

[alchemy12]

Who knows. Is he a negative person in general? Is he one of those people who thinks you should be actively dating around in your youth? Maybe he's jealous of the time you spend with her or just doesn't like women or is secretly attracted to her? Have you asked him or challenged him when he's said these things, for example, "Why do you think she's a snake?" Keep questioning his rationale and maybe as he tries to explain himself he'll realize how ridiculous he sounds.

Tell him to knock it off with the insults, that you care for her very much and to disrespect her is to disrespect you. If he keeps it up, leave the room or something. Whatever his reason, it's his problem.

[Asker]

yeah I asked him and he said "I can just feel it, god is telling me", like wtf he's jesus now? This is ridiculous.

[alchemy12]

Strange and ridiculous, I agree. He obviously has some issue that he's projecting onto her. Whatever, just ignore him.

[NightBlindness]

Maybe he has the hots for her? Who knows, what does it matter anyway?

You like the girl then date the girl, prove to your Dad that you have strong feelings for this girl by not backing down. Step up and tell him if he has nothing decent to say then say nothing at all because you don't want to hear it.

Yes he's your Dad and everyone loves a bit of parental approval but sometimes it doesn't work out that way and you need to show them that they where wrong to now believe in you.

Don't give up is all I'm saying!

[GuyAdviceFromGuy]

Dude, your dad is jealous you found true love between the age of 18-24. He couldn't find it after many years of dating, being in relationships, getting married and settling down, so obviously he has no wisdom about anything. Clearly, he's jealous of what you two have and to spite him you two should go get married in Vegas.

[Asker]

Are you being sarcastic?

[GuyAdviceFromGuy]

Dude, of course not, sarcasm doesn't go too well with written word, things get lost in translation. Go to Vegas, get drunk get married at some cheap vegas chapel get it videotaped and send it to your dad.

[HotPepper302]

Maybe she reminds him of someone he used to love, so he associates her with whatever hurt he feels from that past relationship? Or maybe he's just had bad experiences in love, in general. You just have to remember that what every parent really wants is for their kids to be happy… Eventually, he'll see that you're not him, and that you're perfectly capable of finding happiness with this girl, regardless of your father's less fortunate situation. Eventually he'll get over it.

[Anonymous]

he's projecting his own issues onto your GF, he's been hurt in the past and now he can't see past his own feelings and experience or believe that there are good women out there.

There's probably not much you can do to influence him on that, but you can demand that he at least have the decency to be respectful.

[evette]

he jealouse of you