What Is (True) Love?

[Stacyzee]

True love begins when the infatuation stage (which is often confused with love) has ended.

The first several months that you spend together, everything about your partner seems perfect.

You are head over heels for this person.

Everything is fresh, new and exciting in your relationship.

You find yourself overwhelmed with feelings of joy, intensity, and pleasure.

Like a magnet, the force draws you both together as these feelings reach its length.

The infatuation stage ends when the curtains are pulled.

Your partner's negative qualities that you did not see in the beginning of your relationship, shine so ever clearly now.

You are at a cross road point where either those differences:

• Better blend you together.


• Or further separate you.

People with differences that become blended, share compatibility.

They are allowing their relationship to thrive instead of letting it sink.

They are working out their differences in order to benefit and grow from each other.

You don't know if your love is true until it is put to the test.

True love is often times opposite of what is displayed in movies, stories and fairy tales.

It can be filled with rage, anger, sorrow and disappointment.

When you are at the very bottom and your partner is there offering support,

then you know your love is true.

When you've had the ugliest of arguments and you find a resolution to them,

then you know your love is true.

When you accept your partner for who they are, not who you want them to be,

then you know your love is true.

When this person is your rock and doesn't run away when times get tough,

then you know your love is true.

When this person builds you up instead of smashing you down,

then you know your love is true.

True love survives the storm because it knows there will be sunshine after.

Love sees unrecognizable circumstances, that at times allows us to be who we aren't.

True love makes its way through each and every challenge.

The bond eventually becomes so powerful that it's unbreakable.

Anyone could say, “I love you” but how many actually mean it?

Through all of its trials and tribulations, like a bird love soars.

It is free.

It is wonderful.

It is beautiful.

But like a plant, if not properly cared for its existence can deteriorate.

So true love, takes time, dedication and work on both parts for it to

last to its full extent.

[knight1986]

Hi, thank you for this great take. You mention some really valid points, so hats off to you. You know i married the girl i loved and after 5 years it has really been the best decision in my life. I have always tried to comprehend our love for each other but somehow i cannot seem understand the nature of that love we share.

In the beginning of you take you mention the infatuation stage and i do agree with you because i have felt that with other girls i have seen in my life (like how attractive she is, etc), however when i first met the girl who i believed is my soul mate i felt something different and its so hard for me to describe that feeling but it almost felt like i had known her for eons... i did't feel any sexual attraction but more of a peace in my heart type of feeling... not sure if that came out right. I don't really know if there are really soul mates out there for each one of us but with her and even now... our love seems deeper... like there is something there, something intangible that has drawn us together.

I often battle with my mind trying to figure what that actually is. When we first met we just got on so well and we were both so intuitive about knowing each others faults and habits that it was almost scary. I don't really believe in past lives... but sometimes i wonder if its true... becausee sometimes its uncanny the things we like to do... like sitting outside watching the sunset... it feels like i have done it before with her... sometimes it scares me.

We do have small arguments but nothing significant to undermine our deep love for each other. I know some might say that our love has never been tested but what if the love is so strong that there is nothing to test. I know this might sound strange but with her i don't think i share a bond... i think its almost like we are one soul in two bodies... haha can't believe i just said that... and i don't think its an extreme case of infatuation but something else which i have been struggling to put my finger on.

Anyway thanks for the take and if you are interested read myTake about her
www.girlsaskguys.com/.../a10257-syra-my-heart-i-give-to-you-till-the-very-end

[Stacyzee]

Thanks for sharing ! Such a sweet story.
Anyone can say, "I love you" which is why I feel in order for those words to be validated something significant needs to happen. Often times , when we are left in vulnerability we are left to see someone's true colors. Are they standing behind the love that they claim they have? Or are they running away when the going gets tough?
"Lots of people will ride the limo with you but what you want is someone that will ride the bus with you when the limo breaks down".
Not everyone needs a test if they are certain of their love. What a test does... is it just reinforces whether that love is real or not.
Some people need that test
Often times, that is enough to tell anyone if they've been lied to all along about their significant others love being true.
I'll read your take and let you know what I think.
Again, Thanks for sharing your beautiful experience.

[knight1986]

Wow, thank you for you myTake :)

Absolutely its so sad though to see that relationships need to be validated in some way... but i guess that's just how it is. What you say is so true and pertinent and it almost seems like so many relationships are build on these false perceptions of love. Yes some people do need that test, sad but i guess its needed.

Cool thanks for taking the time to respond, appreciate it. Its my pleasure and continue to write myTakes like this one... :)

[knight1986]

*your

[Stacyzee]

Thanks :) have a good day !

[knight1986]

Pleasure, You too :) :)

[awilliam360]

That is the sweetest thing i've ever read! I want that too. You're so lucky that you found her.

[HookingSwan]

That was just beautiful to read...

[bomba78]

I think I have just heard a gazillion panties drop, man! It is really refreshing to read this coming from a guy. what you say is really hard to put into words and it makes perfect sense, because it is the exact same feeling i have towards my fiance. it IS scary sometimes, but incredibly beautiful :-)

[knight1986]

@HookingSwan Thank you :)

@awilliam360 Thank you, i appreciate your kind words. Just hold onto that though, it will come true :) i waited for such a long time to find her and when i eventually did, i could never let go... maybe it was "fate" that we met outside that office building.

[knight1986]

@bomba78 , Wow, haha, never heard anyone describe it like that before, haha. THANK YOU SO MUCH :) Yeah, initially when i wrote that i struggled to express that feeling in words and i am glad i was able to convey some of it so that it made some sense. :)

Wow, its such an amazing feeling to go through that with someone, oh yes... it is indeed scary sometimes but really beautiful experience. Thank again for your lovely words... made my day :)

[awilliam360]

@knight1986 thank you so much! And yes, you're right, it probably was fate. It was bound to happen :)

[knight1986]

@awilliam360 Fate works in mysterious ways... one in a million chance we were both there at the right time. Coincidence or fate?

[awilliam360]

@knight1986 that's a very good point

[HookingSwan]

I just read this

I can say I feel the same way as you do. Sometimes I struggle to understand what made the kind of connection I made with my boyfriend, the 1st time we talked, be so easy, so effortless...

I dont know.

I just hope that, like stacyzee said, he will ride the bus with me and not only the limo. Because he had gotten me convinced that I want this. I don't think I will give up on it easily, despite the obstacles.

[HookingSwan]

oh lol

I had read this before :o oh haha

[knight1986]

@HookingSwan Thank you. Well i know what you feel having gone through that. I dont know how to explain that connection i had with my wife but i loved every second of it. Its such a beautiful human experiance that feeling when you feel so connected to someone that you just can't bear to leave their side. For me i just wanted to listen to Syra talk and learn everything there was to know about her. Even as we age i still feel that connection to her that my heart keeps looking for. Its weird that the conversations are so effortless like we know each other for years, i felt so comfortable with her even from the very start and i loved how she had a way of taking out my emotions that i never knew i had.

Yes, its a pity that so many guys and girls use each other and play around with such a powerful human emotion as love *silently cries a tear for the world. I know its difficult and you still can't wear your heart on your sleeve... today breakups seem to be the norm, so always think. :)

[awilliam360]

I want something like this one day. You are incredibly lucky you have each other. The stories that you always tell in here are amazing, I am always left in awe

[knight1986]

@awilliam360 Aww, thank you so much, your words certainly mean a lot to me. I really appreciate your kind words. I'm feeling happy. Thank you. Its a pity, i don't post much because i often feel hurt that men and women on this site fight so much with each other when we have so much to offer each other. I feel sad to come onto to Gag. Thank you again for your wonderful words... its put a smile on me. This might sound silly, but just have faith that you will have that soon. :)

[HookingSwan]

lol just wanted to drop by and say hey, knight :)

[lovedcursed]

love is safety, and security in my opinion, it is when you feel safe like you are with someone who won't tear your heart and leave you naked in the middle of the street, it is knowing that whatever happen you will end up together again and he won't just go f or someone else, it is getting ill and sneezing loudly and looking bad sleeping on the sofa with a big pull-over and down yourself you know they love you and know how good you can look on better days, it is being able to show your body freely no matter this stretch lines or these dark blue bruises.. it is knowing they won't just go sleep with someone else if you are on your period for 3-4 days. it is being happy to go to the club with him and not afraid of the other sexy girls, it is cooking for him and wanting him to get full and warm from a meal you have made.. it is security in knowing they won't just contact that ex , although they know that would hurt you. It is knowing that in bad times they will get angry and bored but won't leave you with a broken heart to fight life alone.. it is simply trust and safety.. any relationship that gives other vibes of being scared, jealous or worried about your partner's actions is not true love, you can't give love when you are scared...

[Anonymous]

If I speak in the tongues[a] of men or of angels, but do not have love, I am only a resounding gong or a clanging cymbal. 2 If I have the gift of prophecy and can fathom all mysteries and all knowledge, and if I have a faith that can move mountains, but do not have love, I am nothing. 3 If I give all I possess to the poor and give over my body to hardship that I may boast,[b] but do not have love, I gain nothing.

4 Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. 5 It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. 6 Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. 7 It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.

8 Love never fails. But where there are prophecies, they will cease; where there are tongues, they will be stilled; where there is knowledge, it will pass away. 9 For we know in part and we prophesy in part, 10 but when completeness comes, what is in part disappears. 11 When I was a child, I talked like a child, I thought like a child, I reasoned like a child. When I became a man, I put the ways of childhood behind me. 12 For now we see only a reflection as in a mirror; then we shall see face to face. Now I know in part; then I shall know fully, even as I am fully known.

13 And now these three remain: faith, hope and love. But the greatest of these is love.

[Opinion Owner]

I always found this description to be poetic and beautiful :)

[Stacyzee]

Beautiful , thanks for sharing :)

[BCRanger10]

This is what I've been saying for a long time. Thank you for this take.

You and I would differ slightly on compatibility though. I more believe now that compatibility is more of a guideline. You might be thinking of it in a different way; perhaps I say this because I observe people saying "we need to do this, that, and the other to see if we're compatible", as if they expect compatibility to do the work for them. What do you think about that?

Though you did touch on that too, when you said that "When you accept your partner for who they are and not who you want them to be". Another concern I have about modern views of compatibility is that a couple isn't so much thinking "we need to find out if we're compatible with each other" as much as one is thinking "I need to find out if she/he is compatible with me."

Love is a choice, an apprehension of the whole of another person rather than the mere comprehension.

[Stacyzee]

Compatibility by definition means two things that exist without conflict. My idea of it, is two people with differences being able to make things work together.

I don't think compatibility should be looked at as a set of rules which one needs to follow. That sort of sounds like a handbook to me.

[Arturo23]

Actually this is not true, that's what your brain believes is true love, you have your right to have an opinion... But love is a gift from God... You see God loves us unconditional, even if we do bad or whatever the case God loves us no matter what, he just doesn't like what we do, this is why we love someone even if they hurt us they will still die for them just like Jesus did for us, he said father forgive them for they not know what they do, when he was sacrificed on the cross Jesus still died for us & to be forgiven for our sins because Jesus was born a spirit/soul so us that are souls/ spirits where born human so that's why you confuse what you believe is true love when in fact true love is unconditional...

[Stacyzee]

Truth is matter of perception. What holds true for one may not hold true for you at all.
You must also take into a account that religion is a belief and holds true to you (it isn't a fact). By telling one their view is wrong and God is the way, you are being hypocritical in a sense .

[Stacyzee]

Subconsciously you are attempting to brain wash views by inflicting your religion on someone else. To me, that's negative.
I accept your view point though because I want people to respect mine.

[Stacyzee]

Lastly, I like to discuss topics without bringing religion into it. It is a topic that brings emotions out of people. I try to discuss topics by taking into account that not everyone shares the same belief.
"Belief" not fact.
True love is accepting, non judgmental.

[Arturo23]

Yeah I had a feeling you would say that but you see what you're telling me is that my belief is based on religion, but what I was really trying to show you was a perfect example of love... I understand how you're mind works when it comes to love... You feel as if love doesn't go your way then it's not true love... If you base true love on what you wrote on your take then true love doesn't exist... Your talking about being perfect wich no one on planet earth is perfect you can only be close to perfect if you wanna be real for a second... Unconditional love means that you can love someone even if they hurt you the only things you can do it make it work out... But if you believe true love is what you explained then you'll never find a "true love"... I don't need scientific proof I have my own mind & I'm wise enough to know what is real... theirs a lot of stuff that most minds are not capable of understanding or comprehending... or proving..

[Arturo23]

By the way Einstein I'm not attempting to brain wash anyone, your mind is playing tricks on you.. Suckka

[Stacyzee]

How am I speaking about perfection? When I blatantly stayed that true love isn't always nice and can be ugly , angry and full of rage? I even stated that true love still holds true even when things are at the bottom.
Doesn't that describe unconditional terms? I don't think you read the take , only just the title.

[Stacyzee]

*blatantly stated

[Arturo23]

Then your right but it's kinda hard to find someone like that it takes time, hope everyone gets to have someone real in their life it's a cold world

[Stacyzee]

Some people find it right away. Some people take years to find it. Others never do. This is why we must be grateful and cherish when we have it. Hopefully the other person does the same.

[abzence]

I find it interesting that many people seem to explain love from the perspective of a romantic type of relationship. As if it's there love is created or only expressed.

If you want to get to the bottom of what this "true" love is about then I think you must put this romantic notion aside for a moment. Love can be for a parent, a child, a sibling, a friend, a dog or a garden. It's all love, perceived and expressed in a different way, yet remain the same. The love is the same, the accompanying emotions are different.

Love is beyond emotion and beyond just two people. Love is not about who you project it into or from whom you receive it. Love is not an emotion and not an action, but rather a state of being.

Just my two or three cents on the matter.

[Stacyzee]

I am speaking about love from a relationship stand point. Of course there are different types of love.
The way I love my Mom is not the same way I love my partner or even a job (for that matter).
This site is mostly for users who are looking to date or already in relationships, I wanted to make a take directed to those people from that perspective.

[Stacyzee]

But thanks for your addition and view of the different kinds of love.

[abzence]

My point is that there actually isn't different kinds of love. There is only love, period.
This love is often confused with different kinds of emotions or perceived as different when it's mixed with other emotions. For example love for a child has not sexual emotions yet love for a partner usually has. The love is the same, the accompanying emotions are different.

I made note of this because you used "true" in the title with I interpreted as an attempt to boil down to the essence of what love actually is an not how it is perceived from a specific perspective. Because there is endless perspectives and only one love even though the experience of this love might be different.

Just like fear is always fear regardless of what makes you fearful or how it makes you react, feel or think.

[Stacyzee]

I put "true" in the title because I know there are people that claim they love you, but do everything possible to inflict that pain.
Also

[Stacyzee]

Interesting perspective. I guess people think love is different because it feels that way. I guess you are right , love is love regardless. The difference is how it manifests itself from person to person.

[Stacyzee]

I never looked at it that way. Thanks for sharing.

[abzence]

Yes, it manifests differently. That's my point.
I try to find the essence of things and don't really care about how it manifests.

It uncommon to only feel ONE emotion at a time. It's usually a blend of emotions. Many people seem confused about their emotions. So they lump all these emotions into one and call it love or something else when in reality it's maybe 5 emotions that they experience as one but can't differentiate between the emotion and the actual experience.

[Stacyzee]

Yes it is a a combination of emotions which I stated as well in my article.

[abzence]

Maybe you stated that. I'm trying to demonstrate that it's not.
But it doesn't matter anyway. Nice take and have a nice day!

[Stacyzee]

I think love Is a blend of various emotions. You experience many that all become just "one powerful word".

[Stacyzee]

Either way , we agree on some things. If you ever write a take on how you view love I'd be interested in reading it. Take care

[abzence]

I personally think that love is not even an emotion but rather a state of being where emotions may or may not arise from. I conciser love to be very different from emotions. But that is my personal opinion and experience of it.

[Stacyzee]

Your perspective is truly unique. I have a hard time understanding "state of being" considering that literally every act a human does is based off of emotion (subconsciously ). We aren't always well aware of it, but it's true

If u ever write a take on love , I'll be interested in reading a view that's different than my own.

[Stacyzee]

Thanks for sharing <3

[abzence]

And thank you for sharing your perspective : )

[abzence]

I just remembered that I made a comment some time ago about describing what I mean by this "state of being". If you are interested in further reading then it can be found in the comment section of this take: www.girlsaskguys.com/.../a21985-the-top-strongest-feelings-that-i-think-are-often-mistaken-for-love

[Stacyzee]

I'll check it out.

[ReneDS]

Love is, when you feel a connection to someone that you can't explain, you love being around that person, because you feel happy and accepted. It's hard to explain in words. Love is sharing things with someone , you won't share with anyone else. It's passionate , and if it's true it overcomes obstacles and never leaves you. In good and bad times. Its not just a smile on your face, but also a tear on your cheek. When you love someone you dont always think, but you act. Taking care of someone , seeing that person happy and safe, goes even before your own personal health. Love isn't perfect, and we all make mistakes, but it depends on the type of mistake you make. Was it or did we know, we would hurt our loved one intentionally by making this mistake, or was it a mistake because you made a judgmental mistake.

[HookingSwan]

the tear on your cheek thing... I had never cried tears of happiness before meeting him.

[ReneDS]

@HookingSwan thanks, well there are various reasons why someone cries, maybe because you miss that person, or like in your case you feel happy, or because you truelly love (d) that someone. There will be hard times in a relationship but those who can overcome it, will only bound stronger

[Junlian]

True love. Ah, the pain it brings, the joy it brings. Until find out your partner has his/her own agenda and what you thought was real, basically turned out be a nightmare cause they dont want to commit. Even though they do everything as a couple. When this generation can get over the illusion that love is not a game.

[Stacyzee]

"turned out to be a nightmare cause they don't want to commit". Painful indeed. This is why I feel that some people should be a single for a while (do their own thing) before getting into a mature relationship.

[Junlian]

Yes, maturtiy is the factor. Not all but some, to the woman it applies to: in there teen years they are quick to get into relationship prematurely, as they reach high school they look fir bad boys and may be pop a kid or two. After 3 or less heartbreaks. The woman tends settle down. Thus a good man will not take her in. Guys, same goes. To shoes it fits and it dont go for all of the guys. Teen years they are influenced to have 3 gurls before high school and dump them. When get to highschool guys want to be players, bad boys and jerks. The maturity of guy won't settle in until he 30 and single cause the woman learned her lesson from poping kids, heartbreak and etc dont have time fir players, games, and so on. The cycle of learning true love is just now starting. Let me make it clear this not always the case. But maturity plays a huge role in life.

[HookingSwan]

I agree on the maturity part @Junlian

On point there ;)

[Skadouchebag]

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Amen. :-)

[Stacyzee]

Nice...:)

What's your view on love?

[Skadouchebag]

Good Lord. That is NOT something that can be summed up in under 1,000 characters. If you really want to know, read "The Four Loves", by C. S> Lewis.

[Stacyzee]

I know what love is since I wrote an entire mytake explaining my view. I am just interested in hearing other people's perspectives. Some users did a great job of summing up what love means to them in less than 500 characters. I just wanted to hear more from you. That's all.

[Stacyzee]

And may I add, I sensed a bit of an attitude in your response but I will not reciprocate that behavior.
Good day !

[Skadouchebag]

Oh? Sorry, I didn't mean it like that. I meant it more like "*chuckle* don't even get me started." Basically, Love is the center of my existential and metaphysical worldview.

[Stacyzee]

Oh ok. I've never seen u be rude to anyone here, so I'm like am I reading this right? So hard to tell tones through impersonal messages.
Thanks for commenting !
<3

[becca123]

I think the difference between love and infatuation is:

Infatuation is all about how someone makes you feel. It is almost selfish in nature.

Love is when you think on a deeper level; what can I do for him/her, or how do we move forward as a team? Your sense of "you" and "him/her" turns to "us" and "we."

[Stacyzee]

I agree with this 100 percent.
I stated a similar differentiation between the two to one of the male anonymous below .
I find that the people that get confused with the two tend to have never felt in love with anyone before. When you've been in love with another before, telling the difference is much easier.
Love can be confusing when someone know so little about it.
Thanks for commenting !

[rahul1307ghosh]

I really loved this take. Its true to each part. I can't agree more. Yes it survives cuz there is sunshine afterwards but now that i feel for her im okay and all happy as long as she is wid me. I can bare anything as long as i have her. I dont need the sunlight shinning on my face. I dont need perfection to have the perfect day. I just want to see u happy a smile on ur face. Nothing else matters cuz u r everything to me. :D Just love my angel

[koibito]

I agree so much with this! My relationship is still too early to encounter tribulations, but I also agree that true love is being able to find the reason to love someone again even when your emotions fail you. Not just out of blind devotion but to truly recognise, accept, and forgive because of the kind of person your partner is, being too precious to give up.

[Anonymous]

its not about forcing religion and its not my opinion. its the truth. true love is the love of God, who sent His only Son for the salvation of humanity. And only through Christ humans can have true love. relationships end only when they are ungodly. everything godly is eternal. also humans with divine love have it equally and unconditionally towards everyone. "love" towards one partner and only there is a pathology of the soul dressed as a virtue in society's mindset.

[Stacyzee]

I agree that "truth" holds valid based on one's perception. I don't like to turn everyday topics into a discussion of religion. So, I'd appreciate it if that wasn't brought to my trend.
I'm open to everyones views , but not so open to those that make religious beliefs seem like the only outlet to ones truth.

[Opinion Owner]

but its exactly how it works dear. its the spiritual that is before, through out and beyond the physical and mundane. everything goes back to spirituality eventually. even physical sciences in their higher end today, begin coming into contact with the metaphysical realm. the FACT that humans have bodies wrapped around an immortal soul with a certain prospect and purpose, either if most people are aware of it or not, will eventually be revealed to everyone sooner or later. (at the moment of their death if they never practice spirituality. now if people wait till then it might be too late for them to change their mindset and life).

[Opinion Owner]

when Christ said love your enemy. and defined that as perfect love: to love your ENEMY as you love yourself, and God with your whole body, mind and soul, how can we ever claim we have true love or even basic love? love, repentance, humility, all godly things are so deep and eternal that this short life is not enough to fully dwell in them and develop them. they are not static and dead meanings, they are fluid, dynamic, and much deeper than we can ever and logically imagined. christianity is NOT about beliefs and theories. in christianity, with the grace of God, you EXPERIENCE all these things and become a part of you. christianity its only about experiencing.

[Stacyzee]

I wish not to discuss this in my trend. However , if you wish to carry this on feel free to message me.
Ones religion is a very personal topic. I will not discuss that here.

Thanks for sharing your view of where you feel love stems from.

[happypuppet]

True love is 20% emotional and 80% rational. Emotions will get you through the good times. Rationality will get you through the bad ones.

[Aeon_Flux_21]

As I said before below

Love is a chemical reaction and nothing more. Just natures little trick of getting humans to reproduce/have lots of sex.

[Stacyzee]

"Chemical reaction" sounds extremely vague. A lot of things are chemical reactions. That doesn't say much about the feelings of love. But I'll thumbs up you for your view because I respect honesty

[Stacyzee]

www.wikihow.com/Understand-Love-As-a-Chemical-Reaction << This link goes more in depths of what you mean. Very good perspective.

[Stacyzee]

(My previous response to you got jacked up, my apologies.) This link: www.wikihow.com/Understand-Love-As-a-Chemical-Reaction goes more in to depths of what you mean by "chemical reaction". Your response was brief. And I agree with your point. Amongst all of the emotions love causes us to feel, it is a chemical reaction that one as.

[Stacyzee]

*one has.

[John_Doesnt]

True love is when the person farts in the room and you don't break up because of it.

[Stacyzee]

:-O I can't believe what I'm reading

[Bards]

When you still love them when they are no longer young and beautiful
For better or worse
All that good shit

[black_skinny_jeans]

Lana del Ray, is that you?

[Bards]

@black_skinny_jeans you already know 😎

[DiegoO]

True love comes from God and it's visible on everyone who fallow his word.

[Anonymous]

https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=HEXWRTEbj1I

Fill fill

[Stacyzee]

Nice song. But anything to personally say about love , instead of dropping a video that could be removed as spam?

[Opinion Owner]

LOL ok. It all depends on what your world view is. If you just believe love is a chemical reaction in your brain, then that's what you believe. If you believe love exists in an absolute sense outside of the physical world, only then can it actually mean anything. It is suspension of typical reason in favor of unconditional acceptance. It is knowledge.

[Stacyzee]

Thanks :)

[animeboy]

True love is sexual attraction. Sexual attraction leads to becoming a love slave.

[Stacyzee]

Thumbs up for your honesty.
However, if you truly believe that... watch how quickly that definition changes in 10 years for you.

[HookingSwan]

Love isn't only sexual attraction

It can also be a connection of souls made in an instant in time. Love can begin like that.

At least it was like that for me and I dare say for my boyfriend too. We didn't see each other at 1st.

[kaylaS91]

@animeboy
Sure, love can start with sexual attraction and often will. That's how love and being the best of friends differs after all, no?
If you sexual attraction leads to you feeling like you're a 'love slave', you know right away that's not love. Sounds more like manipulation to be quite honest.

[animeboy]

@kaylaS91 Love is an addiction. How many people would exist now if it wasn't an addiction? I would guess 0. If someone is sexually attracted to you, then you can manipulate them to do stuff for you that will make you happy. They will be happy when you are happy.

[animeboy]

@HookingSwan I'm atheist

[HookingSwan]

I see

[Anonymous]

True Love: Wanting to kill someone then not wanting to.

Like my wife could say some serious shit and we can go to bed furious with each other then the next day we're both just over it. I think it's actually a t-shirt somewhere...

[HookingSwan]

Beautiful...

And you couldnt have described if any better.

[HookingSwan]

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