My boyfriend hates my nose piercing should I take it out?

[Anonymous]

so i just got my nose pierced a few days ago... just a tiny little diamond stud and my boyfriend hates it... he made vomitting faces and sounds when he saw it and told me to turn my face to the side so he didn't have to see it... he said its a turnoff to him and looks trashy and like its a new image of me he doesn't like... not classy. should i take it out? do u think he'll get used to it? =/

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alright thanks guys for all of your responses... i think im going to have it taken out... as much as i do like it i know in a few years when im looking for a real job its not going to look very professional and its just not worth it

[Dandeus]

Lots of stupid, immature reactions from girls in this question. All good relationships revolve around a heavy degree of compromise, and tons of women try to change their men all the time... tell them how to dress, how to cut their hair, how to behave, what to do. Women's magazines are full of stories about "project" and "fixer upper" boyfriends and how to mold men into dream partners. How would you women react if we all started dumping you and calling you worthless bums and selfish bitches every time you told us to stop playing so many video games or something like that?

If the worst thing he has to say about how you look is that a nose piercing looks trashy, it's a simple question: which do you value more? His opinion and attraction to you, or a $30 piece of metal stuck in your face? If the stud is more important, then just dump the guy because a relationship that means less than a piercing done on a whim is doomed to failure.

[Averageusername]

Quit crying

[jesseray]

@Averageusername, quit being an asshole. He's entitled to his opinion as much as anyone else is to theirs. And for what it's worth, his opinion actually makes sense. The opinions being offered by the girls here are just self-obsessed to an obnoxious degree. What happened to that simple world where boy likes girl, girl likes boy, boy does things to please girl, girl does things to please boy, and boy and girl are happy? How can so few women be on board with such a reasonable way of interacting with people? They're just being crazy.

[Averageusername]

@jesseray go home

[Anonymous]

First off, the way he reacted is crap. I think he could have said he's concern in a more mature manner and no he won't get used to it. It's you're body (i personally am not crazy about them) do i as you wish.
Second, he sounds like an asshole honestly and bit controlling.

[Darkfairie17]

Wow, what an ignorant jerk you have for a bf. in my opinion I would dump him. He seems pretty superficial to be bothered by something as small as a diamond nose ring.

I had a bf who did this to me too. No he didn't do the vomiting face, but he told me that I would no longer be beautiful to him with a nose ring. I love my nose ring and got it as soon as we broke up. He was a controlling jerk at times and I'm glad that I have my nose ring instead of him in my life.

Your not some paper doll he gets to dress up as he pleases. You are a human being and have an identity and preferences and a sense of style. Be yourself and let this loser go!

[XRabbitHeartX]

Tough situation... I guess you should decide just how important your nose piercing is. If it's something you enjoy and feel good about then keep it. But with that said, if it's not THAT super duper important then just take it out. Obviously it's your body, no doubt about it so the final choice should be a decision YOU made. Only take it out if it's not something worth the "vomiting faces" that you are getting :P

And yes, in time he should get used to it. Just like people sometimes need to get used to a new hair cut on someone.

[xHoneyxBeex]

I think it's your body and if you want a nose ring then you should keep it. It sucks that he doesn't like it but he needs to realize that you can do what you want in regards to your body and if you like it, then he needs to stop putting you down because of it. He doesn't have to like the nose ring but that doesn't mean it's okay for him to be mean and rude to you about it.

[PinkAcid]

Tell him to like it or lump it, he's not your owner if you like it keep it. You shouldn't live your life to please everyone else and a tiny nose stud is hardly going to turn you into a completely different person he's over reacting it's not like you walked in dresses like a hooked with all your privates pierced

[bluepassion]

Nope! Keep it in. He has to learn that it's something you like, and that it's a part of you. If he cannot then he not the guy your looking for because no matter what you look like, wear, and anything else that makes you look different is you, and people have to understand and accept that.

[MissConfused93]

Nope. Your body not his. He has no say in what you do with it. He's allowed to voice preferences but draw the line there.

If you like it, keep it. Nose rings are cute and not a measure of how classy or trashy someone is. What is this, the 1950s?

[MissConfused93]

Also who gags at their girl friend? What a douche.

[washize]

Apparently we are still in the 1800's those damn harlots, with their piercings, tattoos, and phonograph music.

[MissConfused93]

No kidding like wtf. If my boyfriend did that I would slap him. How judgmental and what right does a guy have to dictate what fashion choices you make? Not like she's gauging her septum or anything like geez.

[MissConfused93]

Like I know TONS of women with nose studs. They're very common and cute. I'm mind blown.

[washize]

ITs no wonder many of these guys are still single. They're 100 years behind the curve. Looks like they don't understand that women aren't forced to wear corsets any more lol. But honestly it bothers me when people have an issue with tattoos and piercings, its normal is most of the world except for the united states. Body modification/alteration has been around since the dawn of time. I suppose the mentality from colonization and "savagery" still exists in our current culture, which is really twisted and disgusting.

[MissConfused93]

Yeah I know. Makes me sick. I'm sure I make some choices my boyfriend doesn't agree with but he knows enough that it's my choice. We don't dictate each other's style. God damn.

Really don't understand how someone can think of body mods as ugly and trashy. Don't know too many trashy people who can afford $600 tattoos and expensive piercings. Like really.

One day I think body mod will be the norm here and people will crawl out of the stone ages. Hopefully.

[washize]

I agree In most societies tattoos/piercings are a cultural/religious symbol. I also agree about not dictating your partners style. My BF cuts his hair all the time and I hate when he gets it super short, but its his fucking hair. I don't have the right to tell him how to dress and/or what to do with his body. Sadly it seems like more women understand that then the men here, and that is a HUGE problem.

[MissConfused93]

Yeah I know. Some men just want little pretty dolls to run around with for arm candy or something. I don't know what causes that kind of thinking.

[washize]

Its the Elliot Rodgers syndrome.

[MissConfused93]

Absolutely. It's disgusting.

[jesseray]

He'll probably get used to it. If not, take it out. There's no good reason to value that piece of metal and rock in your nose over your relationship. The fact that so many people say otherwise just boggles my mind.

[523206720]

I think if you remove it which you can - you might have a scar on your nose that stays there. I'm not sure though. You might have to ask your doctor to see if I'm right.

[lumos]

Keep it if you like it. Your boyfriend should just deal with it and stop acting like a 10 year old.

[ajay143]

Nose Pierce looks sexy to females. If he was not interested to see just try to explain it ur interest on it. if u love him much sometimes u have to compromise.

[RasmusAiken]

Men tend to come and go. . . diamonds are forever.

Srsly, ask yourself which you like more the piercing or the guy and get rid of one of them.

[SailorMars]

At the end of the day, it comes down to what you want. If you like it, then keep it. Don't base your choices on what other people like

[HappyToBeAlive]

Sometimes you compromise things for relationships. As long as it doesn't get to "my boyfriend doesn't like my nose, should I get cosmetic surgery". Something small like that I guess is okay.

[MissConfused93]

Yes and the appropriate compromise here would be it's her body he has to deal with it. For the sake of the relationship.

[HappyToBeAlive]

She's only taking out a piercing though. Sure the dude should accept it but I mean if it's big enough a problem that she has to ask someone about it, then take it out. It's not like she's remodeling her face.

[MissConfused93]

Still disagree. They're expensive and you shouldn't ever alter yourself for someone else. If you like something, keep it and your partner has to suck it up.

[poppunk]

It's your decision if he's being a pussy over a piece of metal you dont need him in your life.

[AidenBlue]

Agree with him 100%.

Why do you have it? It's optional and if it is offending the person you are trying to attract. Ditch it.

[mario1321]

He is just insecure that you may get more attention from guys.

[God_Bless_Texas]

I don't blame him. I think they look tacky too. At the end of the day though it's still your body and 100% your decision.

[christianivan]

I don't like girls with piercing. Trust me, get rid of it. There's nothing good about piercing.

[washize]

Dump him and don't date another shit bag like him.

[NoblesseOblige]

Ugh. I hate those, too. Just get rid of it.

[Internet_Monster]

If you like it then keep it, who cares?

[epworthman]

if you like it then don't change for someone else!

[Averageusername]

Tell him to man up