When a guy says 'I love you', how can you tell if he means it?
says 'I love you', how can you tell if he means it?
Backtracking a lil' bit; I have a bad history with guys ( big surprise here, I know) & being lead on a bit. I've described myself as an eternal pessimist on multiple occasions.
Now, I have this really great guy who I feel like myself around & am happy with. . . until the other day, when he said that he thinks he loves me.
Is it so wrong for me to be cautious? I just want to know what some of the signs are that a guy has these feelings for you, besides the obvious confession.
So what is it? How do guys say those three words without saying anything? :]
What's Your Opinion?
Most Helpful Opinion
Personally, I'm not the kind of person that says "I love you" unless I really mean it. I can easily say that I've only said it to 2 people in my life.
I am very aware of the fact that a lot of people have the habit of calling someone "love" or saying "I love you" WAY too easily... even when they don't mean it. Or better yet, they dilute the meaning of it, rendering it insignificant.
It's the actions that really count, you can't have a TRUE "I love you" if the actions don't correspond with the words.
Otherwise it's an INFATUATION. Learn the difference.
Infatuation is a "selfish passion".
Want a great example of what love is supposed to be about? Here, just as written in the greek scriptures in the Bible.
Love is long-suffering and kind. Love is not jealous, it does not brag, does not get puffed up, does not behave indecently, does not look for its own interests, does not become provoked. It does not keep account of the injury. It does not rejoice over unrighteousness, but rejoices with the truth. It bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things. Love never fails... (1 Corinthians 13:4-8)
What Guys Said 4
Dunno. I have never loved a woman other than my mother. So I cannot say. I remember my last girlfriend wanting me to tell her I love her and only then will she let me sleep with her. I said I don't.. sorry. so I didn;t get to. But I was cool with that.
I guess ur question is IS this GUY a straight fellow? Does he say what he thinks and means what he says in general?
Well he said he "thinks" he loves you. I personally have never told another woman I love you, not even my mother... I have issues.
I remember I was 18 and I told girls that I loved them. Did i? Yes I did, the same way a child loves his toy until he finds a better one.
At the ages of 16-20, my definition of love was pretty lame. With such little life experience and understanding of what a relationship means, don't take those words too literally.
I don't know why girls goo gaw so much over those words, look at his actions. Saying I love you is easy, the actual work is hard.
What Girls Said 3
From my experience its actions not words,and there are no exact signals since all men are different but generally...He will show you in small ways.
Simple things to show he cares like checking your cars okay before you go on a long journey,ringing you up just to see how your days going and to say he was thinking of you,he will do little practical things for you without you asking,want to spend time with you,meet the parents and show you off to people,not let you down,...treat you as you want to be treated without you saying anything to him.
The biggest clue is that you won't find any reasons to doubt it.
I don't think your wrong to be cautious,i think you should give him a chance to prove it ;o)