I have never had children. In fact -- I've taken every measure never to have been pregnant and at my age, that is an accomplishment in my opinion. You should be very proud that you are doing and that you want to be a success! Please don't make your goals get in the way of some dork who won't find it a valuable trait in you! Your question "is it a turn off" might be to men who are threatened by women going after what they want that is not traditional, but it will be sexy to men who are looking for a partner who in this day and age will be able to help financially. I have been told all this time what a great decision I made to never have kids. I am in a relationship, but I have men frequently tell me that they wish I was single because I don't have the baggage and I'm goal-oriented.
Let's say a few guys answer you here and say, "Yeah, it's a turn off." Would you just quit your dreams and stop what you're doing just because of advice from a few people you don't know on Girls Ask Guys? I think you know your answer already. You will find the guy that wants to be a part of your life because he's attracted to the whole package, and you will have options. And if you don't meet that guy right away, so what -- you are looking after yourself! Be proud of that! Your glow from being happy with yourself will inevitably attract a man.
I hope every answer here is no. I think it's really cool that you're trying to be a successful doctor. Personally I want to have a career and kids, but if my career takes up too much I won't have kids until later.
men and women are different.
a woman having a career doesn't itself turn men off. but its not a turn-on either, unlike a man having a career is for women.
however the problem is, a lot of things that often apply in the case of a career women are turn-offs. the most common example is: career women are more likely to be aggressive and otherwise unfeminine (because a career is tough and requires that kind of qualities). also if a woman is career oriented, it might make men doubt whether she wants kids or, even if she wants kids, whether she will be there for the kids. so if you're looking for a serious relationship, that could count against you.
so you see why career women often have romantic toruble?
Anyone can cook, clean, and have children. Women that can cook, clean, have children and still manage to have a career that they enjoy are on the right track. I'd be completely fine with being with a doctor. I'm a scientist myself and have a lot of common interests. I'd say go for it, just don't let your career kill your family life. There are plenty of areas of practice where you can have a normal schedule. If you really want to be an ER surgeon that is on call all the time though, it will interfere with your relationships and deprive any future children you have of good childhood. Everything thing in moderation...
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The thing is, most men want to settle down at certain point and have kids. Your decision may scare off a few guys but as long as you're open minded about it and let them know your goals from the start, you'll save both a lof of time. You may want to stay away from olders guys (28-40) that really want to start a family right away.
I don't think it's a turn off at all. I think everyone should pursue their dreams and careers. So you're gonna be an M1 this fall? Have fun in gross anatomy.
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