My crush likes me but his best friend likes me too?

[Anonymous]

My crush told me he likes me in June 2014, but his best friend likes me too. This month he has been really sweet and nice and sat next to me a couple times and teases me as usual (my face turns red instantly). My heart hurts for him not to be asking me out, I've loved him for so long but since his friend is interested in me, I know he wants to be a good guy and not take away his friend's crush (whom is me, again). I'm too shy to be able to say anything about asking him out, we do flirt a lot. I don't know what to do I'm way to shy to ask him, I'm still waiting for him to make his move, but for how long, I cry for him because I love him so much, my feelings has grown bigger and bigger for him.

P. S. I've had these emotions for 4 years

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Forgot to add: He's my first crush since I was 12

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I like my crush, I don't like his friend, his friend is so rude.

[martmi29]

This reminds me; when I was your age my friend and I made a pact not to like the same girl in order to not get in the way of our friendship (knew each other since age 3). If we ended up attracted to the same girl neither one of us would go for her except for when she would make a move on which one of us she was interested in. We only did this as long as we weren't crushing on a girl. If he was crushing on a girl, I would consider her 100% off-limits until he was completely over his crush even if the girl was interested in me instead of him and vice-versa. But usually neither one of us would be crushing unless we had known the girl for a long time. This is why we made it part of the pact that we had to tell each other when we liked or were attracted to a girl.

Thanks to our pact, girls never got in the way of our friendship.

You should tell his friend that you are not interested in him, then tell your crush that you are interested in him. Don't wait too long.

[Asker]

Thank you but he already knows I like him, he confessed his feelings a couple months after he knew I likes him.

[martmi29]

Ok, so you know he likes you, and he knows you like him. What's the problem? If it's your crush's friend, that's unfortunate for him, but he needs to move on. Maybe you need to make it clear to the friend that you like your crush and not him. Maybe you should talk to your crush about the best way you two can to handle his friend.

Unless he has some sort of a pact with his friend like the one I described above there should not be anything holding you two back. If that's the case, he doesn't want to make his friendship awkward.

[Asker]

The problem is that like why won't he ask me out why is he taking to long to make the move and does he still like me and does his friend actually likes me or was it just a joke that he is just in denial of telling me he likes me.

[martmi29]

Maybe you should just ask him out. It's 2014, it's ok for the girl to ask the guy out especially if the guy already told you that he likes you. If he says no, remind him of the time he told you that he likes you. Tell him it doesn't make sense if you both like each other. If it's about the friend, remind him that YOU are not interested in his friend. It's about mutual interest between 2, not just 1. Then you two can discuss the best way to deal with the friend.

At the same time, be careful not to put too much pressure on him. Be as gentle with this as you can.

[Asker]

The other day people was trying to set us up but he said let's be friends, but he told me he likes me and he was blushing. Oh and I'm too shy to ask him out, that's why people are trying to set us up.

[Realistic07]

well there is one way to solve the issue all in one shot but it really depends if your willing or even able to make it happen and follow threw.

[Asker]

Thanks I wish I wasn't too shy to tell him how I feel and I wish I didn't feel so insecure about myself.

[Realistic07]

it's okay we all have insecurity and fear what we do not know or understand. we feel insecure because we don't think we are strong enough or good enough to deserve more in life and because of that we begin to doubt ourselves. what we often don't realize is that by facing our fears and insecurity's we become strong. So face your fear and don't worry things often more than not work out better than what we think.

[Realistic07]

the key is to except that no mater what there will be uncertainty's that you have in what will happen the only way to deal with that is to be selfish. We often think of selfishness as something bad but the reality is that there is nothing bad to want more in life and to love. Allow yourself to be strong and you will be.

[Asker]

Thank you

[Realistic07]

your welcome.

[PeachSunset]

If you really do like him, and you're too awkward to ask him out, wait till something happens, if his friend asks you out first, tell his friend nicely that you like his best friend ( your crush ). He'll probably tell him for you and could possibly move on, making things much easier for you. If you wait a while and nothing happens, i'd confess to your crush.

[Asker]

He already knows I like his friend and I told my crush I like him before he tole me he likes me.

[Asker]

Okay so his friend already knows I have a crush on someone else and I told my crush I like him in Feb. he realized his feelings fro me in June.

[Asker]

Hey you think I should tell one of my friends why I like him while his other friend is eavesdropping so he could tell my crush why I really like him?

[PeachSunset]

Yes, but you'd have to say it loud enough, though my concern is, if his friend really likes you enough to have the nerve to eavesdrop on you i'm not so sure he would want to tell your crush, knowing then it would be over him. I'd also just tell your crush again, that you know that his friend likes you as well, but you really like him, and you're not ready to give up or move on, and tell him that you know its a tough decision to make because its almost like choosing either your friend or your feelings. But tell him why you like him, and he'll understand you like him more than his friend likes you.

[PeachSunset]

knowing then it would be over for you* and its almost like choosing either his friends feelings or your feelings* (sorry I made some typos lol)

[PeachSunset]

KNOWING THEN IT WOULD BE OVER FOR HIM* LOL.

[Asker]

huh?

[Asker]

No the one that's eavesdropping is not the one who likes me, I want his other friend to eavesdrop, the one who doesn't likes me

[Asker]

But one of his friends (who doesn't like me) asked me what I see in him and I just ran away from the question, the next time I see his friend I'll tell him and then he'll tell my crush.

[PeachSunset]

Oh ok, sorry I didn't see "other", this is starting to get really confusing lol..

[Asker]

Well sorry about the confusion

[TheNewClassic]

Ugh i wish i had those problems...

But anyways, just pick the guy you like (more).

[Asker]

I don't like both of them

[TheNewClassic]

Then tell them

[Gemstone2411]

Then what's the problem? Just say you don't like them and walk away.

[Asker]

No I mean't I like one of them

[Asker]

I like my crush but his friend likes me but I don't like his friend (gosh sorry for the typo)

[Asker]

So of course I'll pick my crush but I'm too freaking shy to confess

[thetrueone]

Go for your crush and if he's any friend to your crush he'll under stand

[Asker]

Thanks.