I cheated on my boyfriend with his best friend help?

[Anonymous]

My boyfriend and I became a couple about a year ago. Around finals time my boyfriend was so overwhelmed with school and we didn't get to talk as much as both of us would have liked so this caused a lot of fighting and bickering between us. One fight was so bad I just needed someone to talk to so I called the person who knew my boyfriend more than anyone, his best friend. I was a mess and called his best friend and we hung out. We went bowling, just to get my mind off of things. We we're at a resort and went swimming. He had a room at the resort for the night so we went up and one thing lead to another and we ended up in the shower together but nothing happened. We went swimming and thats when it started to get heated. Next thing I know we are back in the room and we had sex. It just happened. I wanted so bad to tell my boyfriend but his best friend convinced me otherwise, saying it was only going to do a lot more harm than good. We had sex over 15 times in a 2 month period. I thought that he cared about me and I devoloped a small crush on him. I guess I just needed someone physically there for me. There were times where we wouldn't have sex and just hang out but it got to the point where something sexual always happened. A few times he would take out his penis and force my head down to give him oral. I would say no but he made me give him head. I hated it but I don't know why I kept cheating. His best friend and I stopped having oral and sex around Valentines day because we had a pregnancy scare and because my boyfriend was starting to get suspicious. His best friend and I both lied to his face for 6 months before someone finally told my boyfriend the truth. I don't know why I did it, I knew what it would cause but yet I continued to do it. I lied because I had a hope that he wouldn't find out that I slept with his best friend. My Boyfriend forgave me and dropped out of school to be with me. I just want him to know that I still love him.

[BluesBoy]

Well you and his "best friends" (if we can even still call that piece of shit like that) are a fucking disgrace.

You don't fucking love him, you fucking betray him, stab him in the back.

I don't really know who is worst, you or his "best friend". I would said that it is his "best friend" cause a best friend is supposed to be family, a brother to you and watch your back while you watch his.

I feel really sorry for your "boy friend", I hope he will discover the truth and move on in his life and clear his memory from you and his "friend". You are really the kind of people that cannot be trust under any circumstances, no honor, no word, no trust, an absolute disgrace.

[dogbert444]

You are damned lucky he's forgiven you. BUT! And a big BUT! At some time in the future, you may have another row. At best, he will throw it all back at you. Next, he could repay YOU be cheating. At worst, he could dump you.

It ain't over you, by a long way. What you did, as far as I'm concerned, is unforgivable. There are no excuses.

[Asker]

Why?

[dogbert444]

Why what?

[Asker]

Why unforgiveable? Everyone makes mistaked

[dogbert444]

Cheating is never a mistake. It is always a deliberate act. You let yourself get into a situation where it was inevitable that cheating would happen. You should have thought a lot more, and said, "I have a boyfriend. I'm NOT going to let this happen".

[dogbert444]

This is why it's always better to admit it straight away. Your boyfriend finding out from a third party is a lot worse than you telling him yourself. It shows your boyfriend that you would have kept it from him, maybe forever, and forced him to live a lie.

[Luna12]

Firstly, you have no excuse for what you did. You're a basic cheater. Secondly, I feel really bad for your boyfriend, he should break up with you ASAP. Thirdly, his friend is a complete fake jerk. Furthermore,, say goodbye to your relationship. Lastly, and yet, people (mostly girls) still argue that guys and girls can be just friends. Gimme a break...

[Vesuvius87]

I think if I had to describe you as a girlfriend, I would say you win the prize of obtaining one of the top worst names possible for a cheating woman.

It doesn't really sound like you're truly remorseful and even if you were, more than likely you would do it again. Sincerely I hope he dumps you ASAP.

[Vesuvius87]

Congrats on making the hall of fame of cheaters.

[Asker]

What do I mean not remorseful!!

[Vesuvius87]

Even if you were, that doesn't take away that you still cheated a lot more than once, you enjoyed every single moment while ripping someone's heart and that you will definitely do it again. It's only a matter of time before you guys argue and you do it again since you need validation from another guy so much every time you feel lonely.

[Iasabella]

Damn girl. You already know you fucked up so I'm skipping that. But on a more suspicious note... Are you sure they're not in this together? How good friends are they?

[Asker]

What do you mean?

[Iasabella]

Ok I should ve asked you a few questions first.
1. Are they still friends?
2. How hurt did he seem when he found out and after when he forgave you?
3. Are you still seeing his bestfriend?
I'm just trying to say that there's a small chance they're in this together... Sometimes guys do that it it sucks.
I'm not speaking from personal experience but I have a lot of guy friends

[Iasabella]

It just seems a bit suspicious that he forgave you so easily

[madhatters4]

he was trying to focus on school so you went and slept with his friend? your boyfriend dropped out of school to be with you?

this sounds rather unbelievable and i hope it is. otherwise i'm sorry but you may go down in the worst girlfriend hall of fame

[ANITKUMARVERMA]

cheating is unforgivable. and. it's never an option
maybe he forgave you.
but he cannot forget that you cheated him.

one day he will pay back or maybe you are very lucky.

[Decentguy]

stop fooling yourself, you dont love him, you never loved him. if you really loved him, you wouldn't even think of cheating on him and hurting him. and if you really love your boyfriend then leave him so he can find a better girl.

[ilannnnnn]

I hope he dumps you , you deserve it. You even let him quit his school for you , a good supportive girlfriend would never let her boyfriend quit school for her.

[Anonymous]

I'm convinced this person is a troll. She asks "why" like she's a 5 year old trying to understand why she can't have all the treats in the cupboard, and likes answers that shame her. Whether any of what she says happened, she only said it here to see how people would respond, not to get any help.

[willwhitez]

No coming back from that you done lost him. Fuck his friend he could have forgave anyone else. But it's you or his friend and most likely both will be told kick rocks.

[markmonkey]

leave the poor guy. you deserve to be dumped.. cheating is not a solution

[sodaa_popp]

Sad to say that your boyfriend has no dignity to drop of school to physically be with you. Double whammie that his "best friend" and girlfriend consistently hooked up for months. Poor guy. If you have an ounce of integrity left, you would let him go.

[Dingsbums]

That wasn't very clever of you and his best friend.
So what's the question? He forgave you so everything should be fine.
still u cheated kinda easily on him so are u sure that he is the right person for u?

[LastNightmare]

you love him only with words not worth your true heart.. your action doesn't support your words. you don't love him, you're just feeling guilty

[Anonymous]

''It just happened''

The thing that everyone says when trying to avoid taking responsibility for their own poor choices and questionable actions.

Self honesty and taking responsibility are the only way, anything less is a cop out.

[truthbeknown]

@snowangle needs to read this! This is exactly what I was talking about when I said guys CANNOT be friends with girls!

[snowangle]

First of all, she wasn't friends with the guy; her boyfriend was. He was just a guy who she saw an opportunity with.

Second, don't use this one girl's shameless cheating as an example of most people's behavior. This isn't the norm; this is horrible.

Third, my opinion on male-female friendships must have really bothered you if you're bringing it up like this days later! 😛

In conclusion, you can believe what you want and I will continue to enjoy my friendships with my guy friends of 7+ years. Cheers.

[truthbeknown]

@snowangle LOL, no bother. Just a good memory. I can find you more examples if you are still in denial about this. Here is another; www.girlsaskguys.com/.../q2307311-why-can-t-guys-just-be-friends-with-me I am just trying to help because you appear too trusting. You still seem really defensive though. Did you want to talk about it?

[snowangle]

Nope! Like I said, I'm good.

[thrush70]

i would never have taken you back you will do it again

[dogfish]

i can't help you. it didn't happen. most guys dont forgive this shit.

[Anonymous]

yea you fucked up he's dumb for staying with you after he learned what you did

[ButtHurt]

He's an idiot for staying with you.

[jacquesvol]

Bye, bye boyfriend.

[CT_CD]

Sloot