Why are women so shallow these days?

[Anonymous]

What happened to women just wanting to be loved? Have a great guy by their side regardless of what they look like? These days it seems women only want "hot" guys. Well, "hot and good" guys are VERY hard to find. Look past the candy coating, and you'll find majority are real pricks. Appearance shouldn't have so much of an influence. WTF

[Anonymous]

Aw, c'mon, give us more credit. We're not all bad, promise!

Yeah, girls can be real stupid when it comes to guys sometimes. But the cold, hard truth is that women (AND men) notice looks before personality. I mean, let's be honest here -- if you met a girl that was as sweet as ever but you had no physical attraction to her at all, it just wouldn't work, right? Girls are the same way. But on the flip side, anyone mature enough to want a relationship for substance and not just sex wouldn't stay with a gorgeous jerk for long. The difficult thing is finding a mature woman who is looking for more than just a handsome face.

The nice thing about us girls is that a guy can become more attractive to us over time if we really dig his personality. If you have a negative opinion of women as all being shallow, you'll never find anyone that way. Be open and friendly to all kinds of women, and remember that it's a two way street -- if you don't want her to be hung up on just looks, don't refuse to go after any woman that doesn't look like a model or a porn star.

[Asker]

But she dated him for four years and he looked the same way? sounds like ugly duckling hatched into a swan and suddenly thinks she can do better. seems she forgot where she came from.

[izzybolden]

why do you always think men wanna go after models or pornstars? LOL

[Reeses-pieces777]

i've never been the shallow type, I did fall for a guy who happened to be hot in appearance but his personality was that of a low life and I'll shall never talk to him again. my other ex wasn't that great looking but I liked him a lot better than my first boyfriend who was kinda pathetic and hurt me physically and emotionally. my current boyfriend is cute and I love him. I agree appearance isn't everything but guys also judge girls on looks too sometimes. it depends on the person. I used to be chubbier but now I'm thinner but I understand what it feels like to be judged on looks. the hot guys generally are pos's but some are decent (rarely) because I mean, they know they'll attract more girls but if a girl can see past that and actually use her head, she won't fall for the loser who just looks good.

[izzybolden]

They only use their head once they've been damaged. Naw I take that back, they use their heads once they're past their 60's and start sagging lol

[Cool-Relax]

Women haven't changed, and they're not all shallow, so don't assume that that's your problem. Everyone judges by appearances initially, but that doesn't make looks the most important thing.

You seem pretty bitter to me. I have a feeling that you're one of the "nice guys" who sits on the sidelines and blames everyone else for the fact that you're single. Well, being nice doesn't mean all the girls should come running to you. Sometimes you have to take some initiative and put yourself out there if you want attention.

[xirus11]

Yes they have, and yes they are, and yes it is, and no I don't.

Except they aren't women, and neither are you.

Guys, don't listen to this sociopath's gaslighting. She's the one who is bitter, and is hoping you'll masochistically take her advice and go out and give types like her fuel to falsely accuse you of sexual harassment, and if you get police brutality, they'll get off to thinking its "punching up at the patriarchy/white supremacy"".

She's the one who is entitled because of her belief that she's a victim and you're the perpetrator. That's why she's baiting you into coming out to give her more snuff porn to get off to at your expense.

I'm sorry that you're going through what you're going through, but this chick is not going to give you the time of day. She's too busy sexually enabling the "patriarchs" that she projects on us as being. She's never going to give you the time of day unless you share her statist politics, or have something she wants to manipulate out of you as much as she thinks you do, albeit looks or money.

You are a good person and deserve good people in your life, and I'm sorry that there are such pernicious projecting sexual predators like this commenter gaslighting and projecting on you as lacking personal responsibility. I would advise trying to move to a different country because this one is full of "men" and "women" who are just like her. I advise someplace where prostitution is legal so you can just earn some money, go out, and get a guaranteed sexual interaction with someone as opposed to being manipulated and abused by self-awareness-devoid, perpetually-self-rationnalizing sociopaths like this commenter. I know you probably want a relationship and not just sex, but, well, its current f***ing year, so, sorry. Have a good Night.

[PatriceONeal]

@xirus11 she's 33. Nobody will ever take her seriously again. Rightfully so.

[seldin]

I think your the one only looking at the shallow parts of people. Women haven't changed at all. They may judge you at first on your physical characteristics, just like they have for all of history, but if you ever get an in to talk to them you have all the opportunity you need to make a woman love you. Showing that you're funny, interesting, and caring is all you need to make a woman go crazy. Its better than rock hard abs believe me. Try reading up on the subject at websites like askmen.com or books on body language dating. You'll find that all the experts agree.

[Dela1111]

Unfortunately appearance is the first thing they see, not your personality. This just can't be helped.

[Anonymous]

alot of girls are that way but you shouldn't let that get to you ...Now if a girl sets high standards and goes for the personality then they won't be shallow like for ex yes I know someone that sets high standards but way to busy for a relationship.their are some that way . Thou another reason girls are so picky and like to go after hot guys its a thing even guys do it none of us can help it its just something we do right off the back but everyone has a long journey to find who they are really looking for so don't be in such a hurry or jealous about other guys getting someone you like your time will come to.

[Mellene]

The girls who are interested in casual encounters, sex of course could be shallow, but

what about girls who want real long term relationship? They are interested in personality

as well as looks and if the guys aren't able to stop this girls than it's their problem really.

And if the girl doesn't fancy a guy and he is not a super hot type than it doesn't mean

she is shallow, she just don't fancy him and there can be many many reasons for that.

[klg808]

I don't go for the hot guys - yeah, the six-pack abs, chiseled jaw, and come-hither look is nice to gaze at in magazines, but to me they just don't seem like REAL people. Somthing about the "perfect" hot guy is always just a little bit off to me. I'd rather have the quirky, maybe goofy-looking but sweet, caring guy.

[Miss_Desirae]

Not all girls are shallow. Some girls are, but not all of them. It's the same with guys, too. Honestly, I could care less about physical appearance, so long as the guy was sweet, caring, and made me feel good about myself. It's not a big deal to me at all. Personality is definitely much more important to me (and no, I'm not just saying that).The only thing I ask is that he takes care of himself and keeps himself clean and tidy.

[Anonymous]

you know I'm sick of this generalization BS on here women are this women do that I never knew there were so many women haters in this world lol geeez! understand that not all women are shallow and it just so happens that appearance is the first things we see everyone judges everyone and I just think your around the wrong girls.

[Anonymous]

Not all woman are shallow. It is really ridiculous to generalize all women like that. If a guy was nice, a good person, and was into the same things I was into, then I wouldn't care what he looked like.

Oh and if we are going to generalize people: men are just as, if not more, shallow than woman in general.

[Rose123]

girls like to show off their boyfriends that's why...im not shallow at all..but I have friends that are. they wanna show their freinds how they can do better than them...basically girls love competition. that is my opinion :)

[Anonymous]

They're not shallow you just don't have the skills to dig down to the good stuff.