Should I tell my husband that his friend kiss me? Do you think this can go any further if I didn't stop it?

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First i didn't kiss him back or allow him to kiss me but it happened suddenly and i was surprised at the time. Now after it happened i have weird feelings when i see him i even don't know what those feelings means but i want to stop it at this point but he still keep an eye on me all the time when he visit visit us or give me flowers and it's really annoying. I love my husband and we're waiting for a baby boy but i really want to tell him about what happened when he gone Although I'm afraid of ruining their friendship.

ChallengerBanks · Accepted Answer

You're worried about ruining their friendship?

They don't have a friendship. A friend doesn't kiss his friend's wife. He's sounds like a loser who can only get close to the type of woman he wants via someone else like his friend and he would betray your husband again in a heartbeat.

Think about if the situation was in reverse and your friend kissed your husband. Would you want your husband and your friend hanging out with you like normal, knowing what they did while you're sitting there like an oblivious fool?

Normally I would say not to tell him if it was a random moment or a random guy, but in this case you should tell him and deal with the consequences.

BamLife · Accepted Answer

the guy ruined his and your husbands friendship when he kissed you. He totally disrespected your husband as your husband and as his friend. Not to mention the position he's now put you in and the feelings you're having. Tell your husband and let their friendship be whatever it'll be that's not on you. They guy should have thought about that when he kissed you.

NovemberLady · Accepted Answer

TELL YOUR HUSBAND.

But DO NOT TELL YOUR HUSBAND about the weird feelings you have!

Your husband needs to know that his "friend" kissed you and brings you unwanted flowers. Tell your husband that you feel very uncomfortable. 1) because you are married and you love your husband, 2) because you were afraid because he is your friend. But LET YOUR HUSBAND KNOW that you love him and have only eyes for him.

Kick that scallywag of a friend to the curb!

Debara · Accepted Answer

What kind of friend? I would tell my boyfriend about that bad guy. I think your bf deserve better friend. And good friend don't do that. And that is women sexual harassment. You have to stay strong for yourself. What if next time he do something worst more than kiss? Don't let him do that.

crazyincalifornia · Accepted Answer

I don't think so. It may not have been that sexual. Red flags yeah. Be honest! did you do ANYTHING to encourage it.

mauzeson · Answer

Honestly talk to that guy and tell him that you don't like that way and he should stop or you will tell your hubby..
I said that bcoz people make mistakes and they need to know it especially in a situation of sexual behaviours... may be there is a situation that he notice from you which make him attracted to you... so him how you feel... please.

unlucky555 · Answer

but it happened suddenly and i was surprised at the time. I think thats an excuse u did wrong

If u will not tell him he will know it in the future so u will be cheater then he will dump u

If u told him he will think he forced u to kiss him and u have no faults but he won't dump u

TheWiseOwl · Answer

Tell him because he deserves to know what sort of "friend" he has.

L_gant · Answer

Tell your husband he kissed you without you saying yes and you didn't want it he will honestly probably be a little upset but he won't want a divorce or anything he'll understand this guy just kissed you.

Leonaidas · Answer

Just tell your husband everything.. if you don't tell, that guy will take it as a positive response and will continue doing this kind of shit.

sizedoesnotmatter · Answer

i realy don't know how some ppls think ur husband trust him and he comes to ur house and insted of beeing grateful and be like a brother for u and him he trys to tack his woman

babygirl41398 · Answer

You should tell him he has a right to know even if it does ruin his friendship you will have done the right thing

chasaree · Answer

Yes Tell Your Husband. Do Not Wait To Tell Him. Waiting then if it keeps going on. Your Husband Will Loose Some Trust In You. And I Would Kick that ass in his Balls. What a Jerk. Good luck.

Anonymous · Answer

I know it's tough, but it's not your responsability to worry about their friendship. When your husband's friend kissed you he was very well aware of the consequences. It sounds to me like he's not a very good friend anyway, and you shouldn't be keeping secrets from your husband

juliaanita · Answer

It will go as far as you let it go. Do you want a ruined marriage? definitely on it's way. As to telling your husband, how much do you believe that honesty is the best policy?

Put a stop to this now. Now.

Imupforit · Answer

You should tell your husband.
The more time that passes, the less believable your assertion that it was unwanted and not reciprocated, will become. Don't carry the shame around. That belongs on your "friend's" shoulders.

Jersey1 · Answer

Actually, he really isnt't your husbands friend. Your husband needs to know.

yuki_ibanez · Answer

I would have punched on his mouth in the first place... tell your husband, It's the right thing to do =)

Anonymous · Answer

Since you did nothing wrong, don't ask don't tell would be the best policy but never lie to him if he asks. You definitely want to talk to his friend to ensure it does not happen again though.

blondfrog · Answer

Those feelings you have I'd say are normal we are humans and even when we are already taken we still can find others sexually attractive. You should tell your husband about it

cool-man · Answer

yes you should inform your husband because it is not your fault, just suppose his friend again kiss you or do something more than kiss & your husband saw it, you could not be able clear your position

Stacyzee · Answer

His friend should have thought about all of that before he did it.  You need to expose his "friend" for the piece of crap that he really is.  Tell your husband!

LonerGirlBree3 · Answer

You should tell him. It's only right. If you don't and he finds out, you'll be the one to end up looking bad. Honesty is the best policy.

paperfriendd · Answer

Yup he may possibly end up believing his possible lies of denying because, of how long you kept quiet

Prof_Don · Answer

U should tell ur husband about this... he shouldn't have shady friends like that.

Should I tell my husband that his friend kiss me? Do you think this can go any further if I didn't stop it?

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