What confuses you most about the opposite sex?

[Imupforit]

We'll get into same sex relationships later or you can post your same sex relationship quandaries here. I'm sure they correspond to opposite sex frustrations anyway.
So here's mine: I've only met two women in my life that I thought were "good in bed." Why is that? Most women set out to please the man they love. I have loved many more than two and I believe they loved me as well but they just don't feel as I do about what makes for good sex. They seem to be ignorant of their own needs. In that, it is impossible to fulfill their desires because they remain unknown.
Just tell me for gawds sake! It is so frustrating to know what I do, to not be able to use it.

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The chief complaints here by the genders seem to be "signals" the other person doesn't see as one or is incapable of interpreting.
I can vouch for the guys and say the most important signal we want to have interpreted is the one that indicates you're into us. If we are flirting, making you laugh and holding a conversation or just staring at you and smiling, what is your "Bat Sign" that you want to go farther?
As far as guys go, the fact we are doing all that, only with you, is ours.

[Prof_Don]

How they, as an entire gender, complain about douchebag, asshole, delinquent, & "player" behavior in guys...
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... but reward them with the ULTIMATE gift a female can give a guy;

sexual pleasure.

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Don't these females understand that if douchebag, asshole, delinquent & "player" guys never got ANY SEXUAL PLEASURE AT ALL... how quickly these types of dudes will change their ways and become more gentlemanly, kind & nice?

But no, they're rather fuck these guys, enforce all that negative behavior in men,

and absolve themselves of all blame by their reinforcement of rewarding such behavior.

Frankly... it's rather idiotic. This is why guys have VERY LITTLE, to no, smypathy about a girl being with a guy with the above negative traits, and being betrayed or emotionally hurt.

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Now THIS... is something that feminists should fight to change! Put all that militant energy towards something that is GENUINELY useful for the female gender!

[rjroy3]

Wanting to know what a guy is thinking about all the time, while being upset that he doesn't share enough. And at the same time wanting a guy to read her mind because she doesn't want to have to tell him, he should "just know".
Definitely not all girls, but I've dates a girl like that.. never again lol

[Imupforit]

I always counter that by asking her what she's thinking at random intervals. That pretty much eliminates it for awhile. :-)

[rjroy3]

Yea. I don't have an issue with that for the most part. But to answer the question. That's the only thing that really confused me

[Starsite]

I get confused when guys seem to be attracted and pursue you but once the chase is over they don't want you anymore. I'm not talking about sex. It's like some guys just want the thrill of the race but once they know they can have you they don't want you. I assume this goes for males or females. I just think it's mind games and immature to play hard to get... hope this makes sense ;)

[Imupforit]

This happens to both sexes once a relationship becomes comfortable. Relationships take work to keep them from becoming more of an obligation than something satisfying.

[Starsite]

I'm talking about the beginning of dating not relationships. They pursue and pursue but once you say yes and show interest they back off... yes happens to both sexes I'm sure.

[nert73]

The sudden changes. One minute, he's in love. Another minute, he hates you. Then sometimes, you're a complete stranger. Also, they are sometimes so freakin oblivious to a girl's feelings. My guy seems to have no idea when he hurts me.

[Findingmyway]

Mixed signals and when something painful in the past is effecting us his inability or willingness to discuss it when its a serious matter that does not warrant just moving on from and forgetting until its addressed.

[alphadoggystyle]

for me its when women want you to be able to read their mind, about what they want or how they feel. They dont want to tell you, they just want to give hints that often can be so subtle that nobody can know for sure what she means except herself, but she doesn't realize that and gets annoyed.

I guess its about them not wanting to get into a situation where there is a possibility of confrontation, many girls seem scared of that i think.

[Unit1]

True... true...

Ladies should listen to this one.

[ButterSauce]

What if she isn't afraid of confrontation? directness scares people off

[alphadoggystyle]

i disagree, because if a person gives a hint about something, then they ultimately want the other person to know what they mean, so if the person understands what they mean, they will react to it in a similar fashion to what they would if they where told in a direct way. And if they dont get the hint then it will become confusing and bad for both of them.

So if you have something really bad you need the other person to know, then its better to tell it straight but in a respectful way, rather than giving them a hint. Using hints and being vague only makes that person look immature and like a coward.

[luvme56]

They never mean what they say... which is really confusing at times... like
I girl says i wanna break up... she means

She doesn't wanna do it.. but she wants you to change for her!

[Imupforit]

Just say "ok. I don't want to but if you feel that way I guess that doesn't matter."
One way or another that'll fix that crap right away.

[luvme56]

Haha... thats smart!

[kill-switch]

One thing I don't get about women is that why are or why would they be so sensitive to a dude passing gas because human beings do that even women do that and I don't get why I never heard a woman pass gas out loud I honestly would love to hear a sexy woman to pass gas out loud.

[justbeinghonest]

Guys are afraid of commitment but bitch when they are single and have no relationships at all.

[Unit1]

I have attempted one of those. The girl burned rubber before I could open my mouth ;)

I am fine being single.

[justbeinghonest]

So many up votes XD

[aficionado]

Everything about women confuses me, so much that I usually feel men and women are not just different genders, but are totally different species altogether.

[Dragonfly23]

What confuses me about guys is when they seem to be hot and cold with their feelings. One minute they're into you and the next minute they're not.

[Unit1]

This title made me smile IRL x) Very interesting too! Let's see what THEY think about US to be weird so I can avoid being one of the mistakes :) :D

No disrespect ladies but here's mine: Their art of thinking and logic.

I know not all (both girls and men) are the same but it seems like the majority kinda are.

[Unit1]

About art of thinking and logic I am mostly referring to relationships.

> Will/does he like me?
> He doesn't pick up on my "signals"?
> Love = The one with the biggest wallet OR the confident douchebag?
> How do I make him notice me?
> Mindgames, mindgames, mindgames...

Hey, I may be wrong. You can correct me, you're welcome. I never had a GF before and am still single so I am speaking of being inexperienced with the strange thing called love AND from experience in the people in my locals.

[LittleSally]

Their ability to stare at a woman for the entire night but never doing anything about it.
Very strange...

[luvme56]

Haha... lol

[Imupforit]

I had this superpower at one time... lol
It just comes down to confidence and the ability to shake off the rejection that comes with it as the person that has to make the first move in almost every case.

[LittleSally]

Haha
When I see guys like this I give them a chance, I usually come and talk to them, but sometimes I just don't have the strength (and I mean physically - work all day, don't want to give up my chair)... xD

[Knitted123]

I'm confused when guys put a lot of energy into flirting but seemingly get cold feet when there is an actual chance to hook up.

[Imupforit]

From my side of that I might think I'd ruin my chances if I seemed like I thought flirting and some conversation were enough to get to the main event.
I always think that though... ha, ha

[ThatGuy98]

The "signals" that girls supposedly send out to guys are next to impossible to understand, please tell us it straight instead! ^^

[kopperheadroad]

Men do that too

[ThatGuy98]

@kopperheadroad Not nearly as much in my experience

[Imupforit]

Not only can you look forward to enjoying that the rest of your life but they will get mad at you for not recognizing the signals and they will often hide the fact they are mad at you within additional passive - aggressive "signals."

[Imupforit]

@kopperheadroad,
I think men do that too but in the reverse order from women.
I tell her what's bothering me and it not addressed or it comes up again I won't tell her that I'm mad. My "signals" are never covert though.

[ThatGuy98]

Well that sounds like a bright future.. :D

[thisGUYknows]

"I'm fine" means "you fucked up"

"I don't care, where ever" means "it better be a place I like"

"Which one do you like more?" Means "I'm judging your choices"

Mean what u SAAAAAAYYYY AARRGHHH

[SakuraChii]

How some guys are not straightforward and don't know what they want when it comes to feelings, like just tell the person if you like them or not theirs no need to string them along.

[NateInAk]

So hypothetically, I straight up tell you I'm interested in you, you don't feel the same way. Then what happens? Is our (hypothetical) friendship now over? Why would I risk a friendship by telling you how I feel?

[SakuraChii]

I don't cut people off for that, every girl is different and im talking about guys that you already have a mutual romantic intrest in.

[NateInAk]

I'm having trouble figuring out if there's anything about me girls find attractive haha
I don't understand much about girls, but luckily enough I have no trouble talking to them... So there's that :D

[CHARismatic110]

The wishy-washy behavior that a lot of guys have. One minute they like you, the next you don't exist.

[nat008]

well i think this might end up being wayyyyyy too long of a list to simply post here. haha

[apexalpha]

its hard to know when a girl likes you sometimes like I know the obvious signs, but things like smiling. is it a friendly smile or an advance?/ when she pretends you dont exist to hide that she likes you, Its hard to interpret those signals

[TageNiso]

Women who dump a guy who treats them well to go for a guy who simply treat them so bad and make them feel insecure. Why would one go from choosing the good to bad?

[Unit1]

Another part of female logic, that appears to be common (no disrespect dear readers): He is too good for me/ I am not good enough for him.

[Alexzktra]

Misogyny.. why do men hate women? Women are beautiful and wonderful. I love women (no homo)

[Alexzktra]

The bracketed bit is ironic.

[luvme56]

Who said that?

[Alexzktra]

Who said what?

[TheEmma]

(Super homo)

[Alexzktra]

lmfao yesss @TheEmma very very homo!! :P

[Anonymous]

Guys confuse me when they say 'we hate makeup' but, then they gawk at models. It's pretty funny.

[NateInAk]

"Gawk at models" Waaaat?

[Opinion Owner]

Wtf is waaat? @NateInAk

[NateInAk]

Who do you see gawking at models?

[Opinion Owner]

Where is this child from?

[zorro8888]

LOL I think what my younger male counterpart forgot to mention is that we do like make up, we just don't want it to be so excessive that we can't recognize the girl after she takes it off. I love the fact that a girl goes through the noticeable work to look more attractive to me and to herself. Just as much as I enjoy that she can relax next to me without makeup.
I hope that made sense :D

[Opinion Owner]

As a part time model, you'd be surprised if how much makeup is out on especially very big models... I've seen some with and without, they're almost unrecognizable. Sometimes I don't recognize myself lol. But, I agree with everything else you said
@zorro8888

[zorro8888]

Yeah I've seen how much lol sometimes it takes hours to finish the makeup and they still have to be photoshopped. The thing is these guys never bother looking up the models without the makeup so to them the real her never "exist" so they can't say how they feel.

I got mH for an answer based on female insecurities that relates to this hold I'll paste it :D

[zorro8888]

"Let's not forget the media and how women apparently think we like the girls we see in magazines. Women in magazines are photoshopped, have 15 pounds of makeup and overall are a work of art. Last time I checked no guy is trying to fuck a piece of art haha"

I think it got the point across LOL

[luvme56]

They.. hate insecurity!

[Opinion Owner]

Lol, perfect. I won't say that models don't have natural beauty cuz that's stupid but, they look nothing like they do in magazines.
@zorro8888

[zorro8888]

Haha I thought you'd like that xD
Yeah of course lol if they weren't remotely attractive they wouldn't be working as a model, just goes to show that everyone has imperfections :)

[Opinion Owner]

Yes, of course. I call them perfect imperfections (or I took that from John legend)
@zorro8888

[zorro8888]

Wow I wish I knew who you were John Legend is my favorite artist :D
"You and I" is amazing and I think I want "All of Me" to be my future wedding some :O

[Opinion Owner]

Haha, he sang at the Super Bowl! And 'All of Me' is every girls fave lol
@zorro8888

[zorro8888]

I meant wedding song** lol

Yeah I saw that, I was ecstatic :D Did you know he wrote it as a wedding gift for his wife?

[Opinion Owner]

Yes! I watched the music video, it was all about her. So sweet!
@zorro8888

[Anonymous]

That one minute they're into you and then they're not. So confusing!