What would you do if your boyfriend goes to a strip club and you don't like that idea at all?

[Anonymous]

What would you do or how would you deal with the idea/fact that your boyfriend wants to go to a strip club and you know he will love it there, but you don't like the idea of it. Or if a guy really loves a girl and he knows that it bothers her that he wants to go to a strip club, would he just forget about it and not go or will there be a point where he will go even if it's behing her back.? I'm going to be honest I DO NOT LIKE THE FACT THAT MY Boyfriend WANTS TO GO TO A STRIP CLUB. I DONT want another girl rubbing on him and I sure don't want him staring at another female who's half naked.

[meplusabeemer]

I feel the same way you do, but I have learned to relax more as I have gotten older. As long as he was honest with me about going and it wasn't all the time, I'd probably tolerate it. Part of a relationship is trusting the person you're with and his/her judgment in different situations. Sometimes, guys like to hang out with their cronies and have a "fantasy" fulfilled. But, at the end of the night he's going to return home to you and not the strippers.

However, if it truly makes his girlfriend uncomfortable and it creates friction in the relationship then I don't think he should go. If he truly loves and respects her then he should put that above anything else. If he is unable to do that then I would have to re-evaluate the relationship and him.

[Asker]

Thanks :) ...i don't think I will ever be comfortable with my man going to a strip club tho. Do you believe that if he says he will not go he won't? Before he told me that he wants to go and there was this really funny feeling in my stomach like I hate him for saying he wants to go...then he told me that all of his friends told him that it's a waste of money..Should I even be worried if he do goes to a strip club like for example what do they do at Deja Vu? ..

[meplusabeemer]

TBH, I cannot say because I don't know you boyfriend as a person. If he is an honest person and keeps his word then I think you can trust him.

[Asker]

Yeah you're right Thanks

[xxangel1990xx]

It depends whether he loves/respects you or not. If he does then he wouldn't go because the risk of losing you just would not be worth it. If he doesn't love or respect you then he'll eventually go behind your back hoping you won't find out or if he thinks it's worth losing you over. If he does go then get rid of him, if I had a boyfriend and I had a problem with strip clubs yet he went to one I would dump him so quick because he would have been completely disrespectful and everyone deserves better than that. But I also think the relationship can't be great if you don't want him going to a strip club, there is nothing wrong with them and you would see that if you was secure in the relationship and trusted him.

[Anonymous]

if he will pay money to see half naked women grinding on him/other guys, I would pay money go out buy a freakum dress and go to the club. if going to a strip club is not bad, then he can't say anything when you go out for girls nites. do you and live it up, because he is so why can't you!

[Asker]

Yeah thanks I was planning on that you are so right