Sexual tension between me and my boyfriend's dad?

[Anonymous]

My boyfriend and I have been together for over 3 years and I met his dad 1yr into our relationship.

His dad has an outgoing personality and is young at heart so we get on well.

I've caught him looking at me a few times, like at my butt or legs and breasts.

He tries to make me laugh all the time. When I visit him he puts so much effort into his appearance.

My boyfriend has told me that his dad had said I was good looking.

And when I was at boyfriend house he came out knowing I was in the living room with his fly undone and topless, putting top on in front of me and my boyfriend?

I like him but I'm so confused as he is my boyfriends father. Its wrong but I'm attracted to him. Is he giving me signals or am I just being weird?

[adenium]

Thank you so much for the posting this question. I have the exact same problem! I am very attracted to my boyfriend's Dad. We've been together for 2 years and when his Dad first met me, my boyfriend said his Dad told him that I "have a really nice rack". Of course that is very ego boosting, but I wish I didn't know he was attracted to me. Everytime we get together my bf's Dad goes out of his way to make me happy, my boyfriend even jokes that his Dad likes me more than him. We hug every chance we get, and I know it's just a hug but I feel something. He even calls me when his son is at work sometimes just to talk to me about life, etc. The problem is that he is married and I can tell his wife (my bf's stepmom) is starting to feel some animosity towards me because she's not dumb and notices her husband checking me out all the time, and us flirting. My boyfriend one time asked me if I was flirting with his Dad. I just said I was being friendly and trying to fit in with his family. I don't know what to do. His Dad is so successful and has his own business, but my boyfriend is really unmotivated and works retail. I can't help but feel like I'm with the wrong relative here. lol. I just wish he wasn't married. ugh. Do you think there's any chance he would ever leave his wife for me?

[KrisPW]

I'm flattered by my guy's flirty dad, but there is no wife in the picture to offend. My boyfriend is ok with it and trusts that it wouldn't ever really happen.

[Superstrength79]

His father is being very inconsiderate. If he had any respect for his son, he would keep it in his pants whenever you are over at their house. He needs to go out and get his own girlfriend and stop trying to attract you.

Just think about what it is you want. If you want a serious relationship with the son, you need to tell him about what is going on. And if he knows, tell him he needs to say something to his father and get him to stop. Taking the other road, and experimenting with his father, you'd be throwing away your three year relationship with the son for certain. Even if things didn't end, I doubt the father is looking for anything more than sex at this point.

You should try to fix him up with any single ladies you know.

[alpinestars-2002795]

X2 right on the money super.

[Suave-Man]

I like this question too, the moment I saw it in a list, I just had to click on it. Yeah he's giving signals. I stare at girls butt, legs, and breasts too when I'm interested call it what you will but it's not perverted. Hold on, his fly undone? I haven't seen this one, this guy must be horny as hell for you, he might as well hold up a sign. And putting his shirt on, ha, you can't tell me you were attracted to that, wasn't he a little fat and flabby? I don't know if he's wanting to get with you, that might be a little weird but you're definitely eye candy for him

[Asker]

No his really fit- body wise- his in good shape. The thing is, I feel this tension between us, but because of the situation being my b/fs dad and what not, its all hush hush and nothings been done about it. I am definately attracted to him but it feels so wrong and I guess I wanted you guys to tell me that its all in my head so I can get over it! Lol and yeh he came out cos he was getting ready and his fly was undone, so he done it up in front of me thus drawing my attention to his youknowwhat.

[Suave-Man]

I don't think it's wrong to be attracted to anyone of the opposite sex. Do you like the dad more than the boyfriend? Is the dad better looking than the boyfriend? How old is the dad anyway? Also, just because you're attracted to him that doesn't really mean much. It's if you actually know the guy and like him that counts.

[Asker]

His 45. And yes I like him as a person too. Ah I'm screwed. Lol

[Suave-Man]

45? Unless this guy is Brad Pitt I wouldn't take a chance if I were you. What's wrong with your boyfriend, is he not good enough? If his dad has a good body, I'm sure he has a good body too right?

[Asker]

I don't know what the attraction is myself. I just like older men. But ur right, nothing should come of it, it wouldn't b a good idea.

[Suave-Man]

Okay think about this---------in twenty years he'll be 65 and what are you about my age? You'll be around 40. Do you want to look under the sheets and see wrinkly prune sacks? I think not, he'll only be preserved for the next few year before he starts to whither. I don't know about you, but I would not want to be with someone who can wipe their ass with their own ass cheeks.

[Asker]

Wowowow that was graphic. Lol

[disfabioguise]

Suave-Man I almost choked after reading that hilarious description. Damn that was FUNNY!

[hippygirl]

His fly was undone lol wtf..... Don't get yourself mixed-up in a father and son triangle! Maybe it could help to speak to you're Boyfriend about it? But I wouldn't say oh by the way I'm attracted to him too... I would say something on the lines of I feel awkward around him?

[Anonymous]

I know where you are at. Im a minor federally but an adult state wise... My ex dad was funny and childish and gave me every indication to trust him w my vulnerable conversations and topics. As soon as i turned of age he asked about my virginity, he layed out next to me at the pool and asked to put on lotion on my back and butt. i said no thanks and ignored it. After 3 weeks it had been hugs, jokes, texts, calls, and facetimes consistently... i thot this is my second family my parents call me this much but what bothered me was his mom didn't call me as much as his dad did... As soon as school was in its last week before summer, his dad dm'd me his feelings and he fantasies about me.. So me being on wisdom teeth pain killers after surgery (he's not stupid he knew i was) I j went along w it... This led to over 2 months of demands of sex from him, DLS nickname, constant dirty texting on dm i always felt obligated to answer.. his dad was a narcissistic creep. never say ur attracted to his dad and want it.. cause it might be a joke or temporary feeling, but if he finds out he WILL act on it and u will be horrified. the man is 48 years old... im not even 18. And after i came put about what he did his son and him ran to everyone saying i wanted it and i started it, when in reality he groomed, enticed, and mentally minipulated me. Stay safe out there ladies

[Married-in-PA]

From a genetics stand-point, it's natural for you to be somewhat attracted to your boyfriends Dad. He's 1/2 your boyfriend, genetically speaking. On the other hand, it sounds like he's having a mid-life crisis. He's 1/2 your age!

In any case, be flattered. What this means is two things: 1. You are hot in your "dad's" eyes. And 2. Your Boyfriend must find you hot, too, since attraction is partially genetic.

[Nutz76]

Part attraction to you, part mid-life crisis. It's an awesome feeling and boost to the old ego knowing a younger hot woman is attracted to you.

Chalk it up to weird hormones doing their thing at that age and pay it no attention. IF however you break up with your bf, then consider the dad fair game. That will invoke some issues between him and your then ex-bf of course, but that wouldn't be any of your business.

[Guy__]

I know this is late but anyone else with this problem, just find an excuse to stop seeing the dad again, and DON'T even think of it being a choice.

[disfabioguise]

I don't have an answer for you but I really enjoyed reading this question. I just had to say it.

[Asker]

Thank you. =s