Do you care how many people your partner has been with?

[Anonymous]

Guy/girls do you care how many people your partner has been sexual with? Do you ask them for a list or questions about the other people?

I want to know all of there partners and everything about them!

Don't care at all

Want to know what they did with there last partner

[BushBabyBoo]

That's so obsessive to ask for a list. Chill.
Couples should be honest with each other, there's nothing wrong with discussing past flames, there's nothing wrong with caring. But the past is in the past, and in the end, it not your business.
If a guy I'm dating wanted to know my sexual history out of curiousity, so we could discuss our pasts and stuff, then fine, thats okay. But if a guy is asking me to test me, to see if im a "slut" or a "virgin", then he has no right to know because he obviously see's me as an object.

[justbanANNAz]

i totally care.
i don't need to know everything about the previous relationships. i couldn't care less. i just wanna know how many people they've had sex with.

the only question id ask is 'so are u a virgin or?' and that would b that.

[Keyspirits]

The question is.. at what stage of dating does it feel right to ask them that?

[justbanANNAz]

probably two weeks maybe? id look for hints in conversation or just for him to ask or say it first. if he doesn't mention it then ill ask. i don't wanna do it too late down the line because i ain't wasting my time. @keyspirits

[XRabbitHeartX]

Sexual history is important. It reflects how compatible we are on terms of sexuality and whether we have the same values. I can't be with someone who has been around. It's just not how I am nor how I want my partner to be.

[Anonymous]

I would just like to know that it didn't exceed a handful, lol :) Mainly because the person I marry will be my 1st so I don't want him to have insane experience while I'm a confused fool ahaha :)

[blabli]

I would want to know how many partners they've had..
and If i were to reunite with one past love I would definitely ask her about how many guys she had after me... Sometimes you don't want to know but curiosity kills you, plus, is good to know what are you heading into.

[Roostah]

Also what about whether she's holding out on you. Imagine if you found out from her past boyfriend that she was down for anal, swallowing, and threesome. Yet, with you she hates all these things.

[blabli]

@Roostah I say thats bullshit...

and thats why people tell you to move on, because if you were to reunite with a past lover and you are still stuck on the image of them then you can realize they are a whole different person with a lot of experiences that they didn't even want to do with you back then.

I don't believe she will find me and tell me that she hated it, thats bullshit , she did it because she wanted to, and she doesn't regret it, she just regrets im judging her for it.

[Taborlin]

Not really... if she's with me it's because she wants to be, so there's no sense in comparing me to her exes. I also dont see any sense in my opinion of her changing after I find out about her past sex life. As long as she's clean, there's no problem for me

[Jxpxtxr]

I do care, though it's actually only the number of people they've had sex with and whether or not they always used protection or not that's interesting to me.
That's not even because I'm such a curious person or anything but really just to make sure I myself stay safe...

[Bandit74]

Ideally I'd like to know before I get involved with them.

I'd hate to have dated someone for 6 months and then have a bomb dropped on me that they've been with 20+ people or had a threesome.

So I'd rather find out before I date them or to never find out and be blissfully ignorant.

Realistically most probably lie about their number when asked so my best bet is to just go with my gut and assign a past to them.

[PurpleT]

I really do not care. It adds to the experience. Besides, how would you feel if your boyfriend/girlfriend left you just because of the number of partners you had? That would be really mean and senseless

[Todiebyyourside]

I disagree, it's not mean or senseless at all.

[PurpleT]

@Todiebyyourside If you leave someone just because they had a lot of partners? It just gives that person more experience

[Todiebyyourside]

More experience at what? Sucking penises or eating out vagina's? Big deal, they have more sexual experience, great, they've also come into contact with people who have sexually transmitted diseases and people who are very promiscuous usually have some underlying issues.

[angbelles]

@Todiebyyourside
Pretty sure someone could sleep with one person and get an STI while another person could sleep with 20 people and not get one. Thats also why you're supposed to get tested for STI's. That way you and your partner are both safe and you don't just like a douche for assuming things about them.

[Laura2410]

Not necessarily
I would just ask if he's been involved sexually before or not
I would also want to know if he is healthy and std free though
Other than that, it's not very important to me what he did in bed and with whom

[xHoneyxBeex]

No, I don't want to know and I don't want to hear about a guy's sexual past. Knowing about all of that would probably just bother me, make me feel insecure, or be turned off. So, I just wouldn't ask about it.

[LittleSally]

I want to know how many people they slept with before I decide whether I want to be with them... A whore isn't going to be on my list of potential boyfriends.

[aficionado]

No, I don't care, as long as it's not a ridiculously high number. Besides, anyone can just lie about the number of partners they had. So I wouldn't even bother finding out how many partners she had.

[Mekkalyn]

I would just want to know the number, and if they were hook-ups or relationships. And if it was a relationship, I'd be curious how long they we're together. But that's the extent of my curiosity.

[chelseaxoxo]

Yes I really care... I'm weird but of course I prefer virgin guys like they're so sweet and innocent and since I am too it just makes me feel better. But everyone has their own preference :)

[ImNotASlut]

Absolutely.

1) I need to know I'll be safe from STIs and the likes and

2) If he's not had many, there's not much for him to compare me to. Sad but true...

[RachelBrigs]

I want to know how many people they've had sex with four sure. I wouldn't ask what kind of sex they had though. That's not a concern

[ThisDudeHere]

Well I would only be interested in knowing how big the number is if it's big. If it's not big then it's not really a problem much.

[Prilee1992]

Don't really. It will just create dramas unnecessarily. If i found her oftenly being in night clubs, i will encourage her to do an STD checkup

[AmandaLynn1930]

I like to hear all the dirty details :) I wouldn't mind if it was a lot of partners unless it was a really super lot. Haha!!!

[Anonymous]

The only things I've asked with my current boyfriend is how many girlfriends he's had in the past and that was just curiosity. Nothing else was necessary because we were both virgins.

[pavlove]

wow 22 guys (and counting) on here are psycho.

it's none of your business unless you think they might not be clean in which case insist they get tested before you have sex.

[93stepsawayfromhome]

If they wanna share fun past experiences, sure, they can go ahead. If it's an interesting story I'll listen. But I don't need to know all of their past partners. Their life before the relationship is theirs.

[umathurman]

if you really love your partner you shouldn't care about that stuff

[Betwyn]

Do I care how many or who... not really.

But.. I do like to know things about it/them

[swornfavorite98]

I think a couple should be 100% with the number of partners they had and who they were. Also they should both be std tested together before having sex.