He says he loves me - then why does he hurt me?
I really love my boyfriend.we been together for 9 months in a long distance relation before which we were friends for 4 years (best friends). He knew everything about my dating and my previous relationship. And now he uses all the mistakes I did with my ex to put me down in our relation. I try my best to not let my past come up between us but he just keeps doing it again and again. He says I'm manipulative ! I don't know what to say most of the times I keep quite when he screams at me and calls me horrible names ! I love him. He takes my silence as guilt and if I answer him back he calls me a manipulative selfish chic who doesn't care about his frustrations. I'm just so helpless ! I love him but at times I feel like going away from him,because he just makes me feel guilty for things I don't do intentionally and manages to convince me that I did something purposely when I don't even think of it.
He doesn't let me share my problems with him and when I ask him to share his he says I'm incapable. Why is he even being with me?
Is it possible to treat someone you love this way? I mean it's OK if he didn't care I love him and I was in pain but doesn't he remember he loves me how can he see me crying and begging him to stop and still think I'm a bitch.
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woah its like me too...everytime I get sad I get alll quiet and I really want my space so I lock myself in a closet so he can't see me...and he ends up getting p*ssed cause I'm giving him the "silent treatment" when in my mind I just wanted space
then he tell me if I want to break up cause I'm always throwing a hissy fit...why would I be p*ssed if he didn't do something? its because he did and he doesn't even know it
then he starts to yell at me and always say its about me and he's always the bad guy...
that when I'm mad I don't talk to him...and when he's p*ssed, I get p*ssed because he doesn't tell me what's going on
so its like not matter what nothing is good enough for me
the next day when he's still sleeping I just write it out on word and tell him what happened
its easier than arguing for me cause he can't yell back and hurt my feeling or make me cry anymore than I did
i always always tell him that I don't beleive him when he tells me he loves me and he cares...but he always told me that he does and he can't really show it because he got use to being a jerk cause all his ex didn't give a crap about him when he was affectionate and he doesn't wanna get hurt even if he knows I really love him...so he is trying little by little
and he told me that if he didn't love me why is he still with me going through all the hissy fits...it would be just easier if he left! he just wants things to work and as soon as he changes a btit he knows its gonna be better for both of us