Brian and I went out Fridays for 5 weeks. I was starting to like him and he told me he felt the same and he wanted to see more of me. He said, maybe twice a week. He has introduced me to his friends and we have not had sex yet (but he has tried). Last weekend, he asked me to come along while he took photos of a friend's new bar for her website and I invited him to go hiking with me and my friends that Saturday (he accepted). Then mid-week he calls me and tells me that his friend changed things and needs him to come on Saturday instead. So he canceled Saturday hiking. Friday we hung out at my place, watched a movie and he didn't even try to kiss me. He left early. I didn't go hiking w/my friends and called him mid-day. I had a couple hours to hang out. He invited me over. His place smelled like cigarette smoke. He said his buddy was over last night. I asked about this, because he left my place at 10pm. He then changed his story 2x's, then tells me it was him. He used to smoke, then quit, then started again when he broke up w/his last girlfriend. It still seemed like he wasn't being honest. After hanging out w/a friend I called him (Saturday night). He didn't answer & called Sunday saying his phone was on vibrate. We hung out all day doing things and that night he was all over me and wanting to stay, but I had to get up early so I had him leave (still no sex). That week we hung out mid-week, then I went out w/my friends the next night and ended up at his place afterwards. We went skiing all day the next day and I stayed again. We talked about seeing only each other. I told him I wanted to, but that if he wasn't ready that was fine too as I was dating other guys (but liked him). He didn't want me seeing other guys and he said he didn't want to see anyone else, but that I had to be OK with him going out of town for work and having female friends. I was OK with that. I told him that as long as I trusted him and felt good about things, that those things didn't bother me. He has friends in a group that snowboard together (including females I have met). It didn't bother me, but then he said he met another woman that he liked, but he wasn't going to get physical with her and he wanted to still hang out with her. I told him I wasn't comfortable with that. That weekend he canceled the hike plans again (it was embarrassing because my friends keep asking) and then ignored my calls that night (Saturday). I finally told him I felt he was being deceitful. He admitted to being out with that woman. I told him I was going to see other guys. He got mad and said no and told me he would break it off with her (he hasn't it's been a week). He also said we saw each other too much last week, he wants to go slow, not make mistakes, he wants to be sure I am the one he wants to spend the rest of his life with. He went out of town for work (for a week). He's called once. He wants to spend the whole weekend w/me. Guys, what is he doing and should I wait or date other guys?
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He thinks I am sweet, pretty, intelligent, down-to-earth and a lot of fun. He doesn't want to hurt me and he doesn't want to hurt her. If being together w/me means not seeing her, he will stop (but he wants take it slow). In my past my guys wanted more.
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