I think you should do what you think is right. You and him are just starting to know each other even though you been together for months you get to know a persons ways and the way they really are. You don't sound like a gold digger. That is good that you have your own place and a car. You sound determine and motivated. He shouldn't be bringing money things up. Real men don't mention things like that around girls. If it was a problem that he feels he spend to much money on you then he shouldn't be doing it if he is forcing himself to spend money. I think one mistake you made was telling him how much money you had saved and that you had a goal of saving 10,000 towards the end of the year. I think that made him jealous and he started calculating. I would say only tell guys about your finances if you guys are going to be serious or even get married. If he has had opportunies to save money then he has to work on that on his own and it's not your fault and problem that he eats out lot and spends to much on that. Everybdy knows it's cheaper to buy from the supermarket then go out to eat every time. If he is blaming his over spending habits on you then he is in self denial. I'm glad you cut your debt down and are trying to chance. Chance is hard and is never easy. I feel in order ofr the relationship to work then he needs to chill on how much money he spends on you. And if yo upay for every other date then he really has no valid reason to make a big deal out of it. He can use coupons to when he eat out at restaurannts. They have 5 dollar and 10 dollar off coupons for many places to eat. He needs to cut back on his over spending. That is the problem.
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it is always good for lady to put some money aside because guys are usuallay tend to waste their money. about hss beaving like that you seem to be a smart girl and just go on like that if he doesn't understand you then kick him out of your life. he is not for you...
I agree with you, it's a little off. Once a week is nothing, but you should offer to pay sometimes. My boyfriend is similar, he goes out of his way to pay for everything then whines about how he saves less money than me, meanwhile he's constantly making major un necessary purchases and buying lunch like your boyfriend.
Try to reason with him, and if nothing comes out of it then either accept that he's stingy with his money or break up with him over it. Nothing else you can do really. And congrats on getting close to paying off your debt!
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Well honey it's 2012. Look around. It's the Euro crisis. Barclay's inside trading. Housing bubble. I don't blame anyone who's feeling a bit strap for cash.
Well he may just be trying too hard to impress you...
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