I feel like he is using not being able to see his kid as a scapegoat for acting reckless. He hasn't seen him in 2yrs. They live in diff parts of the country. For about the last 6mos he has only been able to talk to his son about 1x a mo. When he calls his ex ignores him or answers and tells him to go away-shes busy. Now I fully understand how that hurts him but here's my issue... He takes his frustrations out on me. Either by ignoring me or by getting defensive as f if I say anything. He takes it to levels it doesn't need to go (all verbal not physical) and hurts me. I grew up rough and have my own baggage-he throws it in my face. Then points the finger at me because HE is going through a lot and no one understands. I have suggested he go to the courts where she lives and file for visitation. He makes excuses why it won't work. I have suggested he get a lawyer to help-he says he doesn't have enough $. I say he should look for a better paying job-he says he's already tried (I have never seen this-but new jobs become avail daily). He makes nothing but excuses yet uses this as his emotional crutch for his actions. I make 4xs more than him. I busted my butt 100%on my own with no family aside from my kid-who I raised alone to climb the ranks at my job and finally I'm financially I'm ok. He gives me $200/mo and says it's all he can afford. We haven't had sex in over 7mos. He isn't cheating-im confident in that. I have brought that up to him numerous times. We have only been together a year. He says he doesn't want me to get pregnant because he doesn't want to go through this with another woman or he says it's because of my attitude (I work 55hrs a week- cook-really well, house is spotless-i pay all the bills and he's a gamer-i let him do his thing and never complain about it.
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Also- For the record my kids "father'' wasn't around by his choice and I would go as far as to buy her Christmas and bday gifts from her father just to ease her heart. She had a cell phone at the age of 7-her father always had the number. Never used it. I'm not a petty woman and wouldn't rob a child of a parent because of my own bs. So My dog died on 1/2 and I was/am distraught. I came across a lady that had a 2yr old male dog that had been previously abused and was scared of everyone.
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He needed a home. My boyfriend was all for it. I took him in and he adores me. He's terrified of my boyfriend. My boyfriend does very little to change the dogs opinion and gets mad at me when I suggest he not pet him so rough or make sudden fast movements near him.
