ok. I'm going to give you the guy perspective on this.. a guy's first true love is never forgotten totally. they will have some feeling for that girl/woman for years.. the best way to get over them is to forget, detach yourself from them, completely remove any aspect of their existence from your life. but HE WILL GET OVER HER. but it does take time.. most women don't realize that while men may be big, strong and tough on the exterior.. we are very emotionally vulnerable and weak. being the girlfriend after the "first" is always the most difficult relationship. you are tasked with the "healing" and "repair" of his emotional state. I would recommend talking to him about her.. but not to the point that he sits and reminisces and wishes things still were... He may be a broken man right now... but once he's completely over her.. he will love you even more than he ever did her.
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Yes I cried myself to sleep a lot over a situation just like yours but my experience was with a. Guy whose wife was dead. I ended up just cutting it off completely. I felt really degraded that I was competing with a dead woman for his attention. I found myself remembering stories that he told me about her and trying to do better. Like for his birthday she took him to the park and they had a picnic. Well I took him to a really expensive restaurant. Then took him to his favorite rive to fish And all he could think AND TALK about was the picnic! He's still lonely. No one will ever be as good as her to him, so I would say step back,
Well, I know how you feel I have been with a guy for almost a year and for little more then half the year he was still in love with his ex. I know you like him but I would just find someone new and let him deal with that on his own. Because I don't know how many times I was with my ex and I thought he would see the good in me and see the light. But he never did and our relationship end up ending on his dumb accounts, and actions and when he finally decided he didn't love her anymore I didn't even love him. I was always second best I was never first and it hurt everyday.
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