Boyfriend putting me down so much? (Page 2)

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My boyfriend always tells me the bad things about me and he never says anything good. We've been going out for a year and he never used to be like this and now he's changed, he's really mean and says hurtful stuff. Yesterday I went over his house and I wasn't feeling good and he was doing stuff to make me feel uncomfortable so I started crying and he got p*ssed. He said that I cry for stupid reason's and I like crying and that I'm no fun because I get upset to much. Then he started saying stuff he hates about me so I'm like whatever I'm leaving so I grabbed my stuff and walked upstairs. His moms like "awww are you guys fighting again?" and I'm like "yeah, I just wanna go before he says anything else" and she asked what happened and I told her. She started screaming at him to get upstairs and she told him to give me a hug and apologize and he wouldn't he just stood there saying everything's my fault and a lot of other stuff. So I started walking and he wouldn't even come after me, I was locked out of my house so I had to just walk around outside, alone, at night when it was freezing out and he didn't care. I texted him and told him I didn't have any where to go and he's like "that sucks you shouldn't have left, your making yourselg look stupid" then his mom had me come in and sh made me something to eat and he just ignored me the whole time. we eventually worked things out but I don't want to have to keep going through this. What can I say to get him to change back to how he used to be? Would there have been a better way I could've handled the situation? by the way he said that he thinks he's changed because we've been going out for a year and haven't had sex yet. I told him I'm still young and the way he treats me I don't know if I'm ready. The main reason is because I was raped when I was 11 and I'm scared to. Some one please help me and tell me how I can deal with this? I love him and I don't wanna end it, I want to fix it. thanks

Reeses-pieces777 · Answer

hey then get a new boyfriend who doesn't diss you . a boyfriend should be there for you, not diss you. isn't that emotional abuse? be with someone who cares about you.

i don't date guys who diss me. if they diss me, I tell them not to mess with me. you should find someone who supports you

don't stay in abusive relationships. personal experience. please get a better boyfriend or heal at least from your ordeal

Anonymous · Answer

Leave him, I ain't like you married to the guy. True love would never put your self-esteem down, cos love by nature seeks 'the highest good' of a person. If you were married I would say try to make it work, but you ain't so leave him before you do get hitched and regret it

Anonymous · Answer

wow, yea he seems like a complete jerk. tell him you don't want a a repeat of that night, tell him if he keeps acting the way he's acting its over and you don't wanna have sex till your ready and to stop pressuring you, relationships aren't all about sex. there's much more to it.

AQT4SHO · Answer

Why do you choose to be with someone that treats you like this?  Would you want any of your friends to be involved w/a jerk like this?  No - didn't think so.  Break up with this asshole.  You deserve better.

AmyHelen · Answer

His behaviour is awful and he does it because he knows he can.  You don't need that kind of person in your life. I think you should end it otherwise he will just keep on hurting you. You deserve so much better.

Abbie-10 · Answer

sounds like he's a jerk and he doesn't want to make the relationship last.

stop letting him hurt you and end the relationship. someone else will love you more than you could ever hope for.

you deserve better.

Kattrain · Answer

You may love him but the best way to do it is break up, no matter how hard.

After awhile you'll see that you feel better without him, even if he begs you back just keep your head highl

Don't have sex just for him, does he know you were raped?

dark-fox · Answer

So...He's verbally abusing you because you won't have sex with him?

He sounds like a jerk...I can't believe how mean some people can be =(

You should dump him, unless you think you can work this out...

dude_0001a · Answer

not gonna read the story.. but just based on the question, if someone is constantly putting you down, then they are lacking something in their own personality.. so f*** em.. and move on.. gl!

Anonymous · Answer

going through something similar the woman i love changed a great deal in 2022 changed for the worst. i known her since September 2017 i even told her flat out she changed and not the same person anymore that she changed for the worst. the people she's been hanging around with (not her old friends but her new ones of recent) shows how awful how bad she's become as a person and she doesn't care doesn't give a shit one damn bit

Anonymous · Answer

clearly you seem to love him more than yourself so whatever we tell you will not change ur mind but in my opinion "leave the bastard" he is no good because after all that you have gone through he should know how fragile your are right now and he has no respect for you...so if you want to stay will go ahead

EpicSnail · Answer

Run as fast as you can. This guy is either just an asshole or not mature enough to date you. There is no excuse for the way he treated you.

fluffylala · Answer

He's an ass, go find someone else Take a p*ss in his bed before you go.

Paul09 · Answer

Remind why "bad boys" always get women and get away with treating women like crap? Dump his as, what is this point?

curious81 · Answer

I had a boyfriend that did the same thing. I'm not saying all guys are the same...but if I were you I'd run.

marwuzcraze · Answer

Girl, if I were you, I'd dump his sorry ass.

Anonymous · Answer

because he's abusing you. I would move on

msdede · Answer

hes an ass whole brake upp with him

Anonymous · Answer

thats not cool, don't stand for that

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