How do I stop reading too much into my boyfriend's behavior?

[Anonymous]

It's been driving me crazy and it's stressing me out! I am starting to feel like he doesn't love me as much as he used to.

When he says something, or does something, I analyze it too much and we end up fighting. Even if I get clarification from him, it doesn't make everything better.

I want to stop this. It is really damaging me inside.

He is not a bad person. He is trying his best to make this work. I know I am making it harder for him. But I don't why I make it hard, and I don't know what to do to stop.

I feel like a clingy annoying girlfriend, because I am always all over his business, and his space. I went out the other night to give him space, and he didn't get mad about it. He didn't even seem to miss me. And that hurt my feelings. See, little stupid things like that bother me, and I don't know why!

I just want to know how I could get myself together, and stop analyzing too much.

I stayed at my mom's place so I could give him space. We were apart for about 3 days. He came over and picked me up. Asked if we could fix this at home instead. He says he had a hard time sleeping because I wasn't with him. But I'm reading it as, if he really missed me, then why didn't he call, text, or come over earlier?

[honeybabykaka]

i had the exactly same problem as you !

since 4 weeks ago me and my boyfriend started arguing a lot

n I almost lost him because of my emotional !

i did stupid things like pretend to be drunk to get his attention and this make our relationhsip even worst !

n I firgure out , I have given his such a hard tme and the reason its

i had my own stress !

i was so stress with my coursework and exams ,

therfore I pick on his littel thing and judge him ,

and also pick on little things and think he doesn't love me no more

i have also packed my things go back to my room as well like you move back to your mum.

i figure out sometimes when man feel comfortable in the relationship , they will relax a bit and need their own space and time .

It;s not because they changed and not love you anymore ,

but we are living together 24 hours a day already ,

sometimes they need some private time.

sometimes, maybe with our own stress , we have been picky to them as well

so maybe think about what we have been acting wheile we are having fights.

maybe we did some stuff really really get on their nerves !

like what I did !

luckily my boyfriend and I made commitment now and back to honey moon ~

i m over the moon to have him back and we have such a nice time!

ur boyfriend come and drive you home and said he want to fix it , its a good sign ,

at least he care ! if he doesn't care , why would he make a move?

dun think about why he didn;t call before head

man's thinking will never be the same as us ,

they think tht the woman need to claim down and they need time and space to think what to do.

n yeh I understand what you feel , because before my boyfriend call me back

i went emotional break down as well

cant eat , can't sleep , can't stop crying !

we need to be tough and take care of ourselves !

tht make our man love us more !

hope you are ur boyfriend fix things up

sorry my written English is not too good ~!

take care

[Asker]

Wow I really liked your answer. Thank you.

The problem is, we've been fighting so much, and now I feel like I'm waiting for him to leave me. I had a dream the other night he looked so happy w/another girl. It broke my heart. we are not talking again. and I asked if this is going to work. he said, if we keep this up, we will not work out anymore. I am so heartbrokened right now. we are still together, but it doesn't feel right anymore. I'm miserable right now, and I'm so hurt. I don't know what to d

[honeybabykaka]

I knew it was hard time and I had tht before as well

u need to ask yourself

can you put everything down and start again ?

i mean can I fogive and forget that you guys have been fighting and what he have done to you ?

seriously

my boyfriend did such bad thing to me when we fight !

i tested him one day and want a lift from him

he got it and ignore me !

i was so upsad after that !

but I figure out I love him so much and I need him.

so I forget it !

and we are back to Hoeny moon these days

are you ready to forgive?

[Shlei3]

Oh wow, it's as if you are never happy. This is something to do with you and yourself. Honestly, how is your self esteem and how much do you trust the relationship?

[Asker]

I know. I don't know what's wrong with me, and how to stop this. My self esteem is really low. I feel like I'm not good enough for him or anyone. I don't know what happened. I lost my job a few months ago, and ever since, I have been an emotional wreck.

[Shlei3]

What's wrong is that your self esteem is not intact. If you don't feel good about yourself you will have a hard time feeling good with someone else. Try to work on that.