When a drunk guy says I love you, is it the truth?

[Anonymous]

So I have this on and off again relationship with my ex. He broke up with me, and we keep going back to being FWB. He hasn't been with anyone else since we were together, and he broke up with me because he says he needs to be selfish. He needs to figure out what he wants in life, and he doesn't want to treat me poorly as a girlfriend. He has refused to become exclusive FWB, even though he says he's not looking and doesn't want anyone else. He did say I love you while going out, and he has said it since then-although he says he means he loves me as a friend.

So last night we were hanging out (me, him, and another friend). We had a nice time, went out to dinner, drank A LOT of wine, and I went home with him. We were cuddling in his bed and making out and it slipped from me that I love him. He then said he loved me too. Then several times while we were cuddling/kissing he told me he loves me so much, and that he wants to be with me. I asked him if he meant it or if this is him being drunk. He said he meant it. So then I asked if he wanted to get back together, and he said no. This morning I asked him now that he's sober does he still love me. He said yeah, but it almost sounded sarcastic.

How much truth can be found in what he said? I understand if he doesn't want a girlfriend, but does he still really love me? Is there hope of getting back together? Thanks for the responses

[ladsin]

Ok here is the truth of alcohol it releases inhibitions, so something a person might normally think but not say can come out. At the same time however it lowers their standards meaning that he could just think of you as a friend or friends with benefits in this case but because of the alcohol and sexual attraction he simply called this emotion love instead of something else

[222fallguy2]

Your first paragraph is code for backburner girl stick around when I can't get other pussy.

[Asker]

but he's not even trying to get with other girls. He says he doesn't want anybody else. (Sober)

[222fallguy2]

There is a 90% chance he is courting or banging other women. Choose to believe this or not. This guy is full of shit clear and simple.

[222fallguy2]

Happiness is when what you think, what you say, and what you do are in harmony. Leave him and his lies and find your harmony...find the love for you.

[Anonymous]

He probably loved you and anyone else or anyTHING else because he was drunk. You should not have aske until he was sober.

[TangerineFire1]

NOPE, men will say all kinds of crap when they are drunk. Take it with a grain of salt.