Hot girl turned old woman story: I was a former super hot chick, and now older woman. I can tell you a few things of what it is like from the other side.
When I was 25, I too was into running and lifting weights and my body was spectacular and I had six-pack abs and a naturally large chest (36F). Everywhere I went, men of all ages stared at me. It was really annoying that most didn't even try to hide it. The ones that were the worst were the creepy middle aged men who would hit on me, thinking that they could somehow fool me into going out with them.
No matter how grounded you are, you get a skewed perspective of the world. I truly believed that men were genuinely nice to women as a matter of course. I believed that most people were nice and accommodating and liked people. This was because most of my friends were hot as well, and guys were falling all over themselves to help us, so this is all I knew. I simply didn't realize that some men are deeply hostile and only nice to women they want to ****. I did not realize the weird code in society which equated beauty with importance. Such a thought never occurred to me that the world might be a different place than I had experienced.
I can tell you that men now are neither hostile or overly helpful. In fact, I feel pretty much invisible. And that, by itself, is okay. I can tell you I am equally ignored by females as well. It could be the age, or it could be a combination of old and not attractive. Who knows, except that I am no longer hawt.
There were a lot of privileges you don't realize as well, like making great money, getting preferential treatment, or being dealt with respectfully. It blew my mind to realize that everyone is not entitled to this as a matter of course, but it is reserved for those who are physically desirable.
I think the biggest shock to me was realizing that my entire worldview had been wrong FOR DECADES. That was the most shocking.
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That the shitty treatment other people whined about was indeed true, and that just because I didn't experience it firsthand did not mean it wasn't a reality. I would think to myself, "Well, if they would just project a more positive attitude, people would respond with positive attention." I was very naive about the depth of the beauty privilege until I experienced both sides.
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It wasn't losing my attractiveness that was the biggest mindfuck, being ignored or even being treated badly. It was the idea that I really didn't understand how the world worked for so long. It was the idea that I believed you could overcome this enormous force around you everywhere you went -- all day, every day -- by simply being more cheerful and charming.
Mostly, I feel badly about all the people who complained about how poorly they were treated that I simply dismissed."
I feel bad for teeny boppers who look 1000! seriously though, whats old? beautiful women still look young regardless! not everyone ages like ur people! and unless ur nejamin buttons.. ur aging daily! u can't stop the clock!!! u will always be OLD to someone
She was my biggest crush back in the day. It's sad how father time can take a toll on someone's looks.
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So I guess your view changed from "well, if they would just project a more positive attitude, people would respond with positive attention," to "well, if they would just project 36F boobs on a tight frame, people would respond with positive attention!" lol!
So it doesn't seem like your question should be "do you feel sorry for hot women that got old" but rather, "do you feel sorry for people who were never hot, no?
Ugly women also gets old Hot and ugly and average guys also gets old We ain't wolverine And i don't actually understand what ya trying to say But are you a girl?
Its copy&pasted from tumblr. Quick google-search makes it obvious and people throw a sissyfit over it about "beauty-privilege" and "that only happens to whites because society only thinks whites are beautiful" and some other mimimi from socially stunted kids.
I mean, whoever wrote this doesn't even understand basic female physiology. "Six-pack abs" on a woman are already vanishingly rare (and usually require performance-enhancing drug use to obtain)... but, six-pack abs with a 36" band size? Ahahahh she'd have to be like 8 feet tall!
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