Is it weird that my boyfriend added his exgirlfriends bestfriend?

[Anonymous]

He was inlove with his ex, she left him, and got married, she's currently pregnant with her husbands daughter. Recently my boyfriend dumped me for a week, and while seperated he added a lot of women, some of which dont like me, most of them being friends with his exgf.

My concern is why one of the first people he added was his exgirlfriends bestfriend. He was all over her fb, and she on his. she's been calling him old nicknames and over all it makes me uncomfortable since he still looks up his ex girlfriend on fb. When i asked him why hed add her or all people he ignored me, when i told him I've been having dreams of him leaving me. He immediately got defensive and told me hed dump me again. That there is nothing going on between them & sorry thats not good enough for me.

she's still on his fb and he's stopped talking to me. Im 20 weeks pregnant with our daughter and incredibly insecure about what our relationship even is. he's hot and cold about wanting to be a family and marry me.

Am i being insecure or am i valid to feel like he isn't over his ex. And added her bestfriend to keep tabs on his ex and or stay relevent to his ex. She left him for" not having enough money " He finally got a good paying job and now he's adding her friends on fb, not only just her bestfriend. She left him 8 years ago. We've been together for 6, going on 7, why is he just now begining to add these friends of hers?

[Rei13]

I’m sorry that you will forever be tied to this man due to you both sharing a child together. I am excited for you to have your daughter tho regardless of that statement, you will be a great mother. That said I do think you should leave him. It doesn’t have to be right now, but build up your support network. I don’t feel like he values you and you deserve someone who does. It is a horrible feeling when you’re stuck in a situation with someone who doesn’t value you and you’re putting more of yourself into the relationship. I can’t speak for the whole ex portion of it but I don’t like that he has already broken up with you and has said he would do so again. That isn’t healthy and that doesn’t sound like a supportive significant other. It isn’t good for you. If you are both willing to work on the relationship and overcome both of your problems then that is one thing and do that. But generally if you’re feeling a certain way you should trust your gut and do what is best for you and your child

[arodriguez664]

I really think you should move away from this guy. He doesn't seems to care about you at all or even consider you. It seems all he cares about is himself. You should really start asking yourself if the "relationship" you have with him is really what you want to model to your child? Your child will look to you for guidance and your daughter will look to him for cues on how a man is supposed to treat her. Ask yourself would you really be okay if your daughter came home with a man like him? If the answer is no, then it would be better to leave him out of the situation. Leave him to chase after the past.

[Gent207-2]

Better question:
Why the hell are you still with him?
To have him in your life is an insult to a better version of yourself, regardless of the history or how good the relationship was; if this man was any more of a walking red flag he would litteraly turn into a flag pole.
Seriously RUN!

[OlderAndWiser]

He is probably stirred up by the reality of becoming a father but that does not excuse his behavior. His threat to leave you again suggests that is under consideration.

[Avicenna]

It's very concerning that he would do that at this time

[Finchie40]

I only read the first couple sentences and stopped , My question to you is why did you take home back after he dumped you for a week? and you noticed he was adding all these girls’? that should of been your answer right there that he doesn’t value you, he just likes the convenience of you , He clearly was banging other girls or trying to bang other girls ‘ that week he was separated from you , So Why you took him back is beyond me? Never stay with someone that can’t stand by your side period , If someone needs space from you for a long time , they do not love you, they like the convenience of you , Never give your heart to someone that can’t give their heart back to you , you are just wasting your time holding on to something that clearly isn’t there

[Finchie40]

Wow you are having a baby with him as well? I just SMH at you girls for falling for guys like this , I know most girl’s love the bad boys but you girls need
To evaluate way better
Than you tend to do, All I can tell you is I pray after the baby is born , He gets a wake up call and stops being a piece of shit for you and the Baby’s sake , Cuz what he is doing is clearly disrespectful as to why he is holding on to his ex for whatever reason , so yes you have every right to feel the way you are right now cuz he is clearly being a selfish piece of shit , if it’s his first child he might be nervous and scared and feel like his freedom days are coming to an end , Most guys go through this stage where they feel like their social life is coming to an end especially if they know they having a baby on the way that they really didn’t plan , because they are now going to be a Dad and take on a huge responsibility of raising a child so most guys tend to get scared and lost and do not know which direction to turn , so I am going to give him the benefit of the doubt that way , So was the baby planned or did it just happen? That can be an indication right there to be honest. Again you have a right to open a can of whoop ass on him as well because he is clearly being selfish and disrespectful, Make it clear to him you will not be in a relationship with someone that is holding on to exes and secretly talking to other girls’ Tell him , How would he feel if you were doing that to him? , if he doesn’t stop my advice to you is to kick him to the curb where he belongs , once the baby is born and he sets eyes on his child he might snap out of the funk he is in , another thing that tends to happen when a girl gets pregnant is her hormones are all out of wack , She might be coming off mean and distant to him as well without realizing it , which is leaving him constant question marks if you truly love him or not. I became a Dad at 23 years old and I honestly was nervous as shit knowing

[Finchie40]

I was going to be a Dad , even though I was excited I was still scared of knowing I had a huge responsibility on my hands and knew my freedom days were pretty much coming to an end lol , I did go through a faze of latching on to friends and mingling with girl’s cuz my girlfriend at the time was being a huge bitch to me and treating me like dirt mainly from her hormones being out of wack , I didn’t cheat on her but I was talking to other girls mainly for advice and the crazy thing was those other girls were starting to hit on me which I always wondered why? knowing I had a baby on the way with another girl, My ex girlfriend reached out to me as well when she found out I was going to be a Dad and was crying to me that she always loved me, I just SMH and said well it’s too late now , you had your chance and I hung up the phone on her , so there is a chance this is happening to your boyfriend,, so my. advice is to clearly tell him what you will tolerate if he wants to be in a relationship with you and if he wants to be part of his babies life , More than likely he will have a wake up call.

[DermalPunch]

Recently my boyfriend dumped me for a week,

she's still on his fb and he's stopped talking to me. Im 20 weeks pregnant with our daughter and incredibly insecure about what our relationship even is. he's hot and cold about wanting to be a family and marry me.

You have every reason to feel insecure.

[strateguy632]

if "added" in question means facebook friends, ss wrote "fb" that is a very shallow type friendship not a threat. if that worries you you are in the category clingy which scares away "us boys.".

[bobalife]

Sus. Red flag. Disloyal. Time to leave him cuz he’s not being honest and respectful. I’m sorry :/ he don’t sound like a good fella and you deserve better …

[midnightmoon05]

Don’t look back.
move on.
didn’t read the rest. It’s not important. Just know you got rid of someone who is immature.

some time to heal and find someone whom will love you

[molonski2]

I dont think its that bigger deal , give things more time , keep all in your mind and move forward with positive thoughts , see how it goes.

[Twalli]

Maybe he's over the breakup and trying to reconnect as friends. My sister did that eventually with her ex, and they were all but married before breaking up.

Probably him getting married helped, though.

[Danny_dan92]

Looks like he wants to marinade his meat with his ex’s friends pussy sauce

[Bklynbadboy12]

Listen you might as well move on he dumped you and went out and had a good old time and I guarantee you he's sleeping with his ex's best friend

[Nightmoon83]

My wife did the same thing but she F***** her EX boyfriend 4 times and yes I’m still with her

[krin_m]

It depends on their level of friendship TBH.

[elizamichale1]

U better move on darling

[Wise4myage]

He might be doing that to get revenge on his ex.

[Iron_Man]

Find a good man for yourself

[Awantika03]

What a situation

[Anonymous]

Nope, what is weird about it?

[LovingJo]

Er, yes 😂

[Anonymous]

Hmmm

[In_Trance]

Yeah