How to get my boyfriend to unfollow a girl I dislike?

[Anonymous]

A while ago, my boyfriend added this girl on Instagram. I’m not sure how he met her, but he did. When i asked him he said she was a girl he met at College. When i asked when/where/how, he could never really give me an answer. Eventually, he told me (like a few months later), after i asked again, that they met in the library. And she must have remembered his name and found her (this sounds so weird). Anyways, time goes on. I tell him i dislike him following her because he was suspicious about it, and then he followed her friend too, who he never met. He eventually unfollowed the girl, but still followed her friend. This girl, she clearly is interested because, when she noticed he unfollowed her, she unfollowed him, and then would add him back. She did this a few times with a few months in between. Eventually, she stopped following him all together.

My boyfriend and i got into a huge fight. And he “ended the relationship” and then went and re-followed her. I told him, when we got back together, i disliked that. He said “ok, I’ll unadd her”. Turns out he didn’t. He just said that to see if I’d use a friend’s account and check. I don’t want him to follow her! It makes me feel uncomfortable. Because, my friend follows her too. And after my boyfriend followed her, she posted to her insta story “snap me” and posted her snap.

[Anonymous]

Your way to handle things seem too immature from my POV. You don’t win wars and battles telling the enemy where you’re standing. You got to be more subtle, don’t ever let him know you feel insecure with another girl around. You see, first try to find out her real interest and intentions, then his interest... if you have found proof of something, you bring that bitch straight down face to face, when she least expects it! If your boyfriend finds out what you did, just tell him you’re damn jealous...

Anyway, since that’s not the case... the only thing you can do now is talk to that girl (like a lady, not like a hood girl ok), show her who you are and how much of a cunt she’s been. Good luck 👍🏼🍀

[tigbaby22]

One thing I’ve learned. If you keep on him the way you are (which I completely understand) he’s only going to cheat. When you constantly accuse (which judging by the post I’m assuming). Let’s just say when you constantly accuse it’s only going to make that person push away and possibly want to cheat. Trust the man you are with, my boyfriend has made many mistakes and so have I. I don’t mean cheating wise, he had tinder at one point. And I talked to my ex at one point. You need to keep communication and trust. If not thinks will go haywire for no reason. To me, it’s not that big of a deal.

[Wonderer89]

You’re making a huge deal over what is pretty much nothing. He hasn’t proven he’s unfaithful, and rather than trusting him to remain so you’ve continuously lost your shit over a minor thing which has gotten him defensive because he’s done nothing wrong.
So, you don’t get him to concede to your unreasonable demands... you end your relationship and be with someone who is willing to live within them because this guy isn’t. And you don’t sound willing to grow up. So separate and find people more on your levels then you can both be happy

[Asker]

Turns out he was trying to cheat on me with her

[Wonderer89]

Uh huh. I’m sure

[Asker]

He did. I have the proof.

[Wonderer89]

If you’d had proof before you behaved the way you did I’d have more sympathy

[Asker]

I did. He updated tinder a few months ago and lied about it. I tried to look past it

[Wonderer89]

Yeah... he’s using tinder yet you’re here complaining about him following a girl on Instagram. Sounds totally legit 😊
As I already stated, each of your finding other partners more on your respective levels is going to be far more successful

[DaChillCookie]

Dude, it doesn't matter who he follows. You're getting paranoid over nothing. If you keep this up, the relationship will become more and more toxic.

You need to trust him, if you don't, then what's the point of the relationship if there's no trust involved?

[WhoDatGuy]

This all sounds massively pathetic. Maybe you should focus on real life and not this online waste of time

[74hrbryd6e]

Stop caring if he follows someone, jelousy is annoying as hell and its not like he's trying to fuck her

[Asker]

No. H was trying to cheat with her

[74hrbryd6e]

Well shit, I'd be worried then. Once a cheater always a cheater

[MsMusic]

Relationships are about trust. If you can't trust him, why are you dating him?

It's a follow on social media. Don't let that mess you up. If he starts seeing her and meeting her, that's when I'd get concerned. Or if he has hearts by her contact number, like my ex did, I'd also be concerned.

[Anonymous]

No don’t listen to these people giving you shit for caring about who he follows on social media. Girl listen to your gut. This exact thing happened to me and it turns out he was adamant on following this girl because he had a crush on her.. he ended up cheating on me with this girl. He later on admitted to me he followed her and would follow her again after I had told him to delete her because he liked her.

[Asker]

Turns out, he did cheat on me with her.

[RuneScimitar]

Happened to me too. Social media gives a lot of hints

[Opinion Owner]

I’m so sorry this happened to you, but you’ll be okay

[Asker]

Social media really does. My ex-bf insulted my intelligence so much. I knew what was going on, and i eventually found out. He tried to blame me when i found out too.

[aestheticsofty]

He clearly likes her or something cause he wouldn’t unfollow her... he is also a liar, and you took him back. Just dump him

[RuneScimitar]

It's okay to be suspicious. If he doesn't respect your wishes fuck him he should make you feel secure. My ex followed tons of random girls while we were dating and I'm pretty sure he met them through tinder

[ciitruskiwi]

He probably lied just to get you to stop. How about you try trusting your boyfriend and not put so weight on social media?

[Cornchipuniverse]

You're obviously one of those types that are overly jealous and extremely controlling. Stop giving a shit about who he follows.

[girl2034]

Are you a scorpio by any chance? I would freak if my boy was adding random girls too. Ur not overreacting

[Milandoingthings]

Just ask him nicely. Tell him you dont like her and thats it.

[Asker]

I did tell him this. He wouldn’t unfollow her.

[Milandoingthings]

If you want your man to pay attention to you more then to some random girl, you have to make a fuss about it.

[Asker]

I did make a fuss about it.

[Milandoingthings]

And nothing?

[charrann]

Why are you watching your boyfriend's Instagram so closely? Wtf?

[reptocarl]

Shame on you for taking a proven liar back

[themon09]

that's too controlling

[Asker]

It turns out my suspicions were right. He did. Cheat on me with her :/

[themon09]

he's in college... of course he did. that happens in like 99% of distance relationships

[Asker]

He’s not in college right now. He is taking online classes. Also, he is 25. Also, i never cheated lol

[themon09]

never said or implied that you cheated. people are as loyal as their best option

[Asker]

What do you mean?

[themon09]

whatever is perceived to be the best option gets preference. whether that's shoes, clothes, a car or girls/guys

[Asker]

So cheating seemed to be his best option 🤔

[Asker]

I remained loyal because it’s what i believe for relationships. I don't know if it was my best option after learning he cheated *im saying this in spite :( *

[themon09]

if you want to talk it out more PM me, happy to answer or help with whatever you may need or want to talk about

[Asker]

It says you need to be following me to message.

[themon09]

PMed you