Why am I so attracted to White men?

[Anonymous]

I am South Asian and I'm still living in South Asia.
I am really really attracted to White men. I love the way they talk, the way they look, they are often courteous compared to South Asian guys. I am not bashing South Asian men. It's just what I observed.
I went on dates with a White guy who was an expat in my country. The best time I ever had.
I don't see myself marrying a South Asian guy. I sometimes feel guilty about it because I feel like I am neglecting my own men and being a "self-hater".
Why am I so attracted to White men?

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I don't know why people answer questions without reading it thoroughly.
I am a SOUTH Asian.
Many people have answered blindly assuming that I am Asian (which means East Asian for most of them). I am not. I am a South Asian, which is also Asian but way different than East Asians.

[Rawrzz]

Probably because we dominate the world and are a symbol of success and power. Mostly. For now, anyway. You might change your tune when China takes over as the world leader and the biggest innovations come out of Asia. Like, in 50 years. Asians are smarter than white people on average. Or maybe because we're typically more colorful than other races with the varying eye and hair color. Could be anything.

I learned racial preference can change over time. Mine changed in middle school, though it's stayed the same since then.

And I suppose Asian men tend to be less romantic and more shy, just because that is what is culturally appropriate. At least, that is a reason Japanese women give when some of them say they prefer Western men. Or, they might at least mention those qualities as being preferable to the shy, uncertain demeanor of Japanese men. Expressing affection is typically not done overtly in Japan, and they don't have pet names like "baby," "sweetie" "honey," "darling" etc. Though I don't know if it's the same where you live. Though it seems to be a theme in Asian countries: excessive politeness and lack of directness, lack of expressing affection.

In any case, there could be any number of reasons why. That's something you would be more ready to answer than I after some introspection. You shouldn't feel guilty about it. One cannot control what they are attracted to. That's like feeling guilty because you were born a woman instead of a man. It's not in your control. Guilt is the most useless emotion.

[aficionado]

It's not just you, almost everyone who is non-white is attracted to whites, irrespective of gender. You are just another victim of the media's brainwashing of people, projecting white people as the ideal standards of good looks.

[Asker]

If that is the case, why I don't see other girls around me going gaga over white guys?
Why me? :(

[aficionado]

Perhaps they haven't given into the hype about white people, or they simply hide their fascination for whites for the fear of being judged. There can be many reasons.

[Rawrzz]

Jelly much?

[Anonymous]

Because they are more attractive in the same way than white women but it's forbiden to say the same about the men because the men of the other races want to feel better while the women of other races don't care for white women in the propaganda and the men of the other races only hate the white men but want to see the white women in the propaganda, all their excuses are only against white men but not against white women, because they want the white women and they want to see white men related to bad things and the women of their own race against white men to protect their ego while they want to have fantasies with white women to increase their ego and think in themselves being the dominant men against white men.

[Anonymous]

Maybe you're attracted to them because they look different. And as you said you love the way they talk, the way they look and their behavior.

"I don't see myself marrying a South Asian guy. I sometimes feel guilty about it because I feel like I am neglecting my own men and being a "self-hater"." I used to feel like that way. So, I know exactly how you feel.
I'm not South Asian but I'm also attracted to white men. But I realized that there's nothing wrong with being attracted to them. And people are free to date or marry whoever they want.
Plus, keep in mind that there must be South Asian guys who are attracted to white women, and not to South Asian girls.
So, you shouldn't feel guilty.

[Jxpxtxr]

Haha trust me white guys, or us white people in general, are soooo overrated.
Not saying they all suck but they are in no way any better than guys of any other race.
But what can you do about it? I don't know I guess it's just a preference, as long as you don't exclusively date only white guys (which would be a pretty good indicator that you fetishise them) you're good.

[MaryJaane22]

Why you white women hate white guys so much? I see you worshiping ugly Asian boys and always trying to give opinions against men of own race. What's the problem of white women and this American and European culture against white guys and for white girls?

[MaryJaane22]

I don't get why white women always want to put the men of their own race down and are always seeking for other races, i remember you worshiping some Asian boy called gao, have thousands of white guys who are so much better and hotter than him. And white men does the opposite of white women, meanwhile white women are always against the men of own race, the white men are always trying to defend and promote the white woman. It's weird this culture and how white women behave in comparison to women of other races and countries about the men of own race.

[MaryJaane22]

My last comment, i just wanted to see white women being humiliated, attacked, mocked and put down with the same racial things recorded, made, invented, promoted against white men instead of being pampered only to see the behavior and actions of white women having the same racial things who are made against white men instead of being pampered even by the own white men who still defend white women meanwhile white women produced thousands of things against men of own race and are always trying to make them look bad and shaming them.

[MaryJaane22]

Sorry, only my last comment, if women is attracted to white guys, you say because of some ulterior evil motives in the narrative of American anti-white male education politics, if the women here in latin america think white men are more attractive, some Asian women think the same, is because of evil motives, but if the men of other race are attracted to white women is because the white women is attractive, why the racial propaganda and education is not made in the same way against white women? Why don't have more scenes, movies, education to remove the value and destroy the white women, boycott their relationships, relate white women with bad things, say that men attracted to white women are because of opression and all the things who are said only against white men

Looks that the culture of Americans who are globalist and put on Europe too, is that white men are the inferior and white women are the superior, the white men is submissive and loser and white women is the dominant

[MaryJaane22]

What's the problem, have many Asian boys who created videos with jealousy and hate against white men on youtube and fake blogs and accounts on internet, have many blacks who invented all kind of hate entertainment and fantasies against white men in media, scenes of movies, commercials and everything trying to create a ego fantasy and Americans trying to please them because of their effeminate non-dominant unmasculine loser culture trying to please the men of other race and living for white women racial propaganda status instead of care more about white men and replace white women with women of other race.

The whole political and racial social engineering culture promoted by Americans seems to be made to desperate make you hate white men, try to create brainwash to you don't date them, and in the end of the day, in the preference of women in all statistics white men was their preference, meanwhile in the preference of men white women was considered inferior to Asian women in statistics

[MaryJaane22]

I just want to destroy the hipocrisy of white women, but it's hard since white men are dumb and still worshiping, being submissive and licking the ass of white women after everything who white women produced against men of own race for years and the whole American education, media, who the white women is right, the white men is wrong.

I would love instead of white men be only with the own white women in the media, movies, tv shows, meanwhile white women are with other race all the time in the porpaganda, media, tv show, while white women are trying to put the men of own race demoralized, worse, shit, make propaganda against men of own race while white men are losers making propaganda for please white women, i would love see white women being replaced with Asian women and women of other race in the media, i would love see white men and Asian, black, women of other race in a movie, tv show, anything with this couple against white women, white women being the demoralized loser jokes

[MaryJaane22]

I don't get why white men still defending and dating white women, white women are disgusting and represent everything of disgusting even worse for the own white men, white women are just the women of own race who were to represent humiliation and shame for them and they can't compare nothing made by white women with women of other races because white women are champions of being disgusting, and the whole American racial social engineering against white men but for please the white women.

Don't matter the behavior, the looks of white women, white women were by default to represent everything of disgusting for white men and they would need to replace white women with women of other race to have a better life and less disgust. Maybe this is why only the relationship of white men are attacked and they are forced to be only with white women in the media, movies, tv shows and everything while white women are 90 times more in the racial propaganda with other race, explicit against white men

[MaryJaane22]

If white men was showed being the most desired in the statistics, if Asian women was showed as being the most desired in the statistics, why white women are so promoted, white men are so attacked, white men being the dominant men and with women of other races is forbiden, white women are always making more explicit hate scenes, comments, videos against men of own race, white men are more submissive for everything. I don't underdtand this American culture.

I wanted a change, i wanted to see white women being racially attacked, demoralized, mocked, lowered, replaced and more things against white women, but white men still dumb defending white women or maybe is just the American social engineering

Maybe have people in the power wanting to please the fetish of men of other race with white women to pretend to not be racist, you want to please the men of other race who don't want to see white men with women of own race, and you need white men only with white women for white supremacy

[MaryJaane22]

And the white women status, white men being handsome, the eyes, their qualities were attacked but they keep the racial whiteness status of white women protected instead of work to destroy the racial image of white women in the same systematic social engineering way. Don't matter the real life, the facts, what matters is the racial social engineering manipulation and if is possible to make white women feel like shit and create more things against white woemen life, would be perfect.

I just wanted to see white women being trashed in the same way than white men in the same racial social engineering politics and manipulation, remove the status of white women, replace the white women, white women are so pampered and i fucking hate how white men are dumb to defend white women instead of create the same racial social engineering to destroy white women.

Why never have nothing promoted against white women, why white women is sacreed, protected, even worse now when want put Hillary Clinton

[MaryJaane22]

I'm brazilian, and i don't understand why only the white male is attacked but white women being white in the same way than white men have nothing made to destroy the image, propaganda, looks, status, relationship, life, nothing is made against the sacreed white women even white women being one of the worse women of all races who produced everything against men of own race in every way possible. I just wanted to see white women having real pain and really being demoralized, attacked and removed of the propaganda

Even statistics showed that white women was considered less desired, more men wanted to have Asian women instead of white women, and more women wanted white men, why in the end of the day the white women is promoted like the official god of earth? White women have the highest divorce rates, why white women aren't called gold diggers and have more official media and social engineering marketing everything propaganda against white women in the same way was made against white men?

[MaryJaane22]

Instead of white women feel superior, pity and see themselves in another standard against men of own race, white women would need to be really demoralized, attacked and destroyed to destroy this white women arrogance who are horrible, i don't know if this is part of some American education schools, the behavior of white men being submissive losers for white women and praising white women even white women shiting in white men, the white women wanted to be viewed like some sort of gift, the white women trying to shaming and create lies who help attack the relationship of others because the status of white women is important.

It's the collegest? Have many white male teachers who are losers, many white women teachers who think in please themselves, i wanted to understand this kind of culture and Why the white women is something sacreed and why white men is so submissive for white women after everything made by white women against men of own race even having better lives than other women

[MaryJaane22]

I'm Brazilian

Why white men still dating, defending and with white women? Dating white women is not boring for white men? White women is just the women of own race, don't have contrast, you're not dominant men with women of own race because they are just the women of your own race, and to be worse white women are one of the most disgusting race of women against men of own race, white women promoted and make everything possible against white men for years, and white women always had one of the best lives in comparison to women of all other races, and in the end of the day the white women only attack and blame white men for being something who the men of other races are worse or maybe even are lies and bias against white men, sexism, racism, hate, look at the black men, look at Asian boys making accounts and saying to Asian women make videos against white men, look at how the men of other race are horrible in many things and only the white men is attacked in racial social engineering.

[Asker]

@MaryJaane22 I think you should write a separate my take instead of writing comments here.
It's my humble suggestion and request

[MaryJaane22]

I'm brazilian, i don't understand this submissive culture of white men and why they are so attacked but white women aren't attacked

White men, if you're handsome and have many choices, why you would date white women? Don't matter the personality, looks of white women, they represent everything against you. And white women make propaganda even against the looks and everything of white men to try to boycott you, the whole racial social engineering is biased for white women and against white men, you are so stupid, white women are shallow and horrible and mix this with American racial social engineering politics and you are in the hell, worse because Americans have the power of globalism so the white men of other countries will be attacked by this loser emasculated submissive stupid racial social engineering of americans meanwhile the white women will live in another world who have nothing racially made to destroy the white women even white women being white in the same way than whi men

[MaryJaane22]

And this happens only in America and maybe in Europe, in Brazil the white women aren't haters of white men in the same way have many white women who promoted thousands of things against the men of own race in America and Europe who copy the American propaganda because of American influence and globalism

It's a social engineering manipulation culture because is not the same thing here, and is weird see these things made by americans

Have a strong social engineering for white women and against white men in your country.
Look at the scenes, media, words, videos, politics, news, jokes, movies, everything

It's incredible countries who have the best kind of white guys, these who are attractive, have good hair, eyes, face, body, being put down, and their qualities being attacked, while white women who are of the same race than white men, don't have nothing to destroy their image in the same way, why don't consider the face, eyes, hair and everything of white women disgusting too. Propagand

[Asker]

@MaryJaane22 please stop your rant

[MaryJaane22]

And the women here would be attracted for the handsome, blue eyes, brown, green, white guys, good looking, the difference is that Americans and Europeans tried to attack the white guys but keep the white women racial image in the propaganda without nothing racially made to boycott, demoralize, remove, replace, shaming and put white women like shit in systematic racial social engineering. It's weird the social engineering of Americans and maybe europeans who have more influence and control of America in their countries, media, propaganda, education, is weird.

I just wanted to see white women being demoralized, shamed, replaced, boycotted, humiliated, nothing of common white girl and friendly talking, i wanted to see more things who could humiliate, remove the value, replace and put white women being shit instead of being pampered.

Sorry Americans, i think you lack have social engineering masculinity of latino countries, instead of live to be submissive and dominated by white women

[Jxpxtxr]

@MaryJaane22 omg are you okay? 😧

[Jxpxtxr]

Oh she deactivated..

[Asker]

Thank God
I blocked her but it didn't work it seems

[Jxpxtxr]

Haha someone was obviously very mad at white women..

[skaikrasha]

Just a preference. They're more exotic to you I guess and that makes you drawn to them. But you should keep your options open to guys of all races, you never know, your Mr Right may not be white.

[FakeName123]

People are more often attracted to their own ethnicity than to others. Asians in a lot of times are very attracted to whites though. Especially Asian women to white men. Why is that? My assumptation is that whites aren't too far away from Asians in skin-colour and other attributes, but are generally a bit more distinctive in looks. The men simply do look more masucline than most Asian guys.

That is just a theory though. It could also simply be that you equate your experience with that one guy and to all white guys.

[Asker]

I think you are talking about East Asians
I am a South Asian. We are far away from whites when it comes to skin color.

[FakeName123]

Apparently I did. Missed that part about south Asian. My bad.

[Asker]

What do you want to say about South Asians then?

[FakeName123]

No, not really. I said already that it could be you equating your experience with one guy to all guys. Or it is simply your preference that you find certain features of white men more attractive. Taller, brighter colours, etc.

[Asker]

Probably
Sadly many white men aren't into South Asian women :(

[FakeName123]

I think it depends, but yes - its not the typical go-to for most men.

From my experience with south-asian its kinda hit or miss. Some are really cute and attractive and others... well not so much.

[Asker]

I don't think so. Most South Asian women are attractive I think. It's because most of them dress traditionally which often doesn't fit into Western standards of fashion or aesthetics

[FakeName123]

South Asian is a wide term, so I dont exactly know which country we are speaking of. But yes, very traditional clothing can be off-putting - though I think partly because its unusual or for fear of being too traditional / of different religion and less about the traditional clothing itself.

[Asker]

Umm let's say Sri Lanka?

[FakeName123]

So pretty close to India. I see.

Well, I would assume appearing to religious-traditional might be an issue.

[Asker]

Hmmm.. funny how people think that if someone dresses up in traditional clothes, he/she is religious. I do dress up in traditional clothes sometimes. I am not religious, neither are many people who do so. I have been to India as an exchange student, I noticed that many women wear traditional clothes (like here). That doesn't mean that she's religious. It's about fashion and culture.
Muslims are excluded from this tho

[FakeName123]

That might very well be the case - but you need to understand that its not as obvious to outsiders. Most people aren't aware of your cultural workings and thus rely on the little information they have. It's not ill-intended, but just the nature of things. You can't have infinite knowledge ;)

[Asker]

I do understand that😃

[FakeName123]

Additionally you have to keep in mind that there probably aren't that many white guys around where you live - so its not like there are tons of opportunities for something to happen.

[MakeShiftThug]

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You just answered your own question...

"I love the way they talk, the way they look, they are often courteous compared to South Asian guys". Which shows you are attracted to traits and characteristics some white men display. You may also like the advantages expats have over insidious south Asians.

It could simply be a preference or your attraction could be a result of Eurocentric standards of beauty, imperialism and the British conquest and colonialism.

[Berethor]

Asians are known to be obsessed with white skin, much more then even white people themselves, so there is nothing new about it, but it's hard to blame you, white people are truly having the best looks.

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[lericah]

Everyone has their attractions nothing is wrong or weird about it. To be honest it's kind of common for people to be attracted to the "exotic" If you go to the states there are plenty of people attracted to Asian, or Africans or, Eastern Europeans. It's because we enjoy new and interesting things and sometimes we decide it's more attractive.

If you were a "self-hater" you would regret being born South Asian and you would reject your entire culture simply because it's "South Asian"

[HeWhoPonders]

Umm, because we're sexy as fuck?

In all honesty though, you like what you like. Maybe you find them interesting because they're not like you. I know that many Asian women are attracted to the stereotype of the "white gentleman" so that could be it as well.

Now if you excuse me, Imma just sit back with a bottle of cream soda in my hand and watch as this question gets taken down for being "offensive."

Pip pip cherio!

[HeWhoPonders]

Oh and one more thing. Don't ever tell yourself that you're betraying your race by dating someone of a different ethnicity. We're all humans regardless of place of origin. We all were cut from the same cloth. people who act like interracial dating is wrong baffle me. I don't think humans should be divided by race to that extent. This is the 21st century, we are all homo sapien. Imagine this, there is a wolf pack and in this wolf pack there are pure black wolves, pure white wolves, black and white wolves, wolves that have some grey, even wolves with hints of brown on them. No matter what combination of colors mate, they will always be wolves. Do you think that they would divide each other by the color of their coats? No. So why should we?

[Riggers]

Just a personal taste?

For instance, I'm white, And, I'd think i could say Asians/Blacks are more attractive to me then White. (And im white lmao).

I don't know, Each to their own.

[Asker]

I am sure you live in West, where there is a fair amount Asians or Blacks. The place where I live, I don't see many white guys. Still I am drawn to them.
You all are so cute 💙

[Riggers]

Nah, I live on a little British Island, There are very very few Asian people and next to no black people, I have honestly only seen a small handful here in my life.

[Asker]

By Asian you mean East Asian (Chinese, Japanese etc), right?

[Riggers]

Well, I meant all Asian.

[Asker]

Oh I see.
For many people here, Asian=East Asians

[Riggers]

I suppose when one say's Asian here, many people would automatically assume Eastern too.

But nah, I think all Asian looks equally good, Haha.

[Asker]

:) 😃

[Riggers]

Anyway, I wish you good luck finding a white dude matey!, Haha.

[Asker]

Aww thanks mate ;) :)

[LaFemmeFatale]

Who the hell is not attracted to the white men?
No offence to other races, they are still very attractive but as a white girl myself, living in a country full of them, white men are my #1 preference. :)

[Supersonic_Sex_Ninja]

No idea, But there is a very pathetic sub-group of white women prowling around these questions.
Self-haters are a sad lot. You can always tell someone suffers from deeply ingrained internalized racism when they jump on a question that has nothing to do with them just to bash their own race.
This question didn't even insult other races lol

[Asker]

Who did that here?

[Azgeda]

lol "neglecting my own men" , you don't owe them a dime. Just do your thing.

[Asker]

You look East Asian to me.
I am a South Asian. So you don't fall under category of 'my own men' lol

[Azgeda]

That's why I say "them" , as in "your own men".
I'm not one of your people.
DO your thing as in what you want to do.
You are misunderstanding me.

[Asker]

Awww I am so sorry. My bad :(

[Azgeda]

it's okay.

[abundantlyrich]

Indian ppeople some are mixed race and has a tint of white blood, not surprising.

[Asker]

I am not Indian

[Red88xxx]

I'm White and I love Black Women because I think their so beautiful and no your not a self hater and I love Asian Women too very beautiful

[Asker]

Does that include South Asians?

[Red88xxx]

Yeah that includes them too your probably a very beautiful lady (: I wanted to ask can you send me a follow I want to talk to you more

[chintita]

k, go dive into a pile of white men over in Europe. ur future awaits :P

[Fearless_banana]

I don't know.. seems like every girl likes white guys.. Feels good maynee.

[Asker]

Yea. They are adorable.
But not many white men into South Asian women :(

[ConsultantIsBack]

Move to SF bay area, tons of white guy Asian girl couples

[Asker]

I am South Asian
I'm sure you are talking about East Asians

[Thrifty]

I think that you like white guys because you want to be white.

People are attracted to what they are or would like to become.

[Thrifty]

Michael Jackson wanted to be white so bad that he had surgery on his nose and took meds and his skin turned white.

It's okay to like white guys. More than enough to go around. Look at it this way, if you have kids with a white guy then your kids will be half white then you're stuck with them forever. But at least you can continue to like your kids who will also become half white guys/girls.

[davesmit]

its our white cocks that drive you crazy.. just looking at a pic will get you off

[Asker]

So logical
So sensible
So Wow
Not obsessed with cock size. I'm a virgin

[davesmit]

i didn't say anything about size, just color..

If i sent you a pic of my dick you would lose control!

[Asker]

Sorry but I don't like looking at cocks.

[davesmit]

hmmm so your into girls? thats cool

[Asker]

Nope. Just little prudish

[davesmit]

well if you want to see a picture of my white cock all you have to do is ask lol

[Asker]

Thanks, but no thanks

[abundantlyrich]

Its pink or beige, never white

[davesmit]

@abundantlyrich mine is pure white

[JCT666]

It's not really something that anyone can answer for you. It's just your personal preference.

[Asker]

Umm OK
You have nice eyes by the way
:)

[jwhit]

You like what you like, but if you're feeling guilty then there has to be more to it and only you know exactly what that is.

[MaLifeBeLikeOooAaah]

Because white guys are hot! :p
It's just personal preference :)

[Asker]

Yes they are 💙

[zacmcain]

Nothing wrong with that. You have your attraction level and you should not feel guilty about it