Am I racist I'm only attracted to my own race?

Question

So I'm actually bisexual and have no racial preference when it comes to guys. I'd date a guy of any race as long as I was attracted to him.

It's different for girls for some reason. I'm only really attracted to black girls (I'm black myself). I can definitely say when a girl from any other race is pretty and I even complement them many times, but I've only been sexually attracted to black girls :( She doesn't have to be completely black either. Even a mixed girl could do it if she's partially black.

Am I racist for this? Also, is this even normal? Why don't I feel this way about guys too?

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

No, you're not racist. You aren't acting as if a certain race is inferior or superior and acting on it. Especially since you only seem to have this situation with women and not men. When it really comes down to it, it's just a preference. It's like finding brown hair more attractive than blond, type hair style, eye color, etc.

The reason that you don't only like black men is probably because you just find that black women are more attractive than black men. If this is the case, then you would need more choices for men (I know this probably sound really idiotic but it's the best i could come up with).

For the thing about you liking women that are even partially black, well, i have no idea. You could just like some of the facial features that a black woman has that another woman of a different race couldn't.

These are just some of my thoughts on this, I could be way off.

XRabbitHeartX · Accepted Answer

It's not racist. You do not choose who you are romantically or even sexually attracted to. It's who you are. Just like how I'm attracted to guys with darker hair and darker eyes naturally a lot more than blonde blue eyed guys. Or how certain personality traits excite me more than others. We all have our own attractions and things we don't have a answer for. You cannot force to feel something when you just don't.

Ciawat · Accepted Answer

No, that's just your preference :) That does not make you racist. Racism is hateful and has nothing to do with sexual attraction. Black women are beautiful and it's okay to prefer them lol

The_Kitchen_Sink · Accepted Answer

Its called preference, not racism. Completely normal...
On the other hand, i could never imagine being with a black girl. Now thats borderline racist but hey thats me and I'm from a country where people dont give a shit and there are no black people so meh

godfatherfan · Accepted Answer

no. you can't help what your attracted to or not. I am only attracted to white women. I would never date any other. My son dated a black girl for a while. That is great because that is ok for him. but never me.

Hannah591 · Answer

Do you think your race is superior to others and do you treat people of other races like crap, purely because of their race? If no, then you're not racist.  It's called a preference and it's normal.

popsickle · Answer

you're not a racist person, but preference can be linked to your own personal racism of attraction which honestly is not a big deal in the grand scheme of life so keep on keepin on

Rissyanne · Answer

Absolutely not... I am only attracted to white men. But on here I am called a racists. In this world of political correctness... that is the way some ignorant people see it.

Anonymous · Answer

No, I don't think so. That's just your preference. It's not like you hate other races, you are just attracted to black women and not the rest. I'm not sure why you don't view it the same with men, but I still say you aren't.

Phoenix98 · Answer

No lol racism is hatred of another race or a superiority mindset over them, viewing them as below you because of their skin or because of your skin. That's racism.

Anonymous · Answer

That's not racist. Racist would be that you are being mean to them or called them ugly. You can't really control sexual attraction. It's a personal preference. Now some people like meat over veges. That doesn't mean they hate plants.

Spiorad_Aisce · Answer

It is a preference not discrimination that is like saying preferring brunettes is bigoted.

ElissaDido · Answer

Racism is believing your superior to someone else because of your race.

iAMNirvana · Answer

NO you're not. one who spreads hatred against a specific race is racist. you are free about your sexual orientations.

sailorjupiter · Answer

nah... I guess everybody is like that, rarely people attracted to others but they do

SleepingSnorlax · Answer

you're not racists  Even tho people tell me im racist for only dating white girls, i 100% believe that they are idiots for saying that Having preferences woth who you date isn't racist

ManOnFire · Answer

Nah, that's not racist. You can actually be called racist for dating OUTSIDE your race.

NYkid27 · Answer

No. You can't control who you're attracted to so having a racial preference doesn't mean you're racist

Anonymous · Answer

I think that preferences aren't racist, it's when people say that a certain race as a whole is unattractive that it becomes racist.

ifegenia · Answer

No that is just your personal preference. As long as you view all races as equal than you are not being racist.

abundantlyrich · Answer

No you like their booties

Anonymous · Answer

Go for white girls they are super awesome <3 Soo attractive they are, i wonder why you are not attracted to white girls?

EllieLexis513 · Answer

No, that's called 'preference'.

zombiebabe · Answer

hmmmm no.. just preference

This_is_my_username · Answer

nope just called personal preference.

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