Should I let my boyfriend know that I'm jealous?

[Anonymous]

My boyfriend has a friend who is a girl who he is very close with and has been friends with for a long time. There have been things that he's done that have bothered me but I haven't said anything to him about because I didn't want to come across as jealous or insecure, but now it's come to a point where it's really starting to bother me. He lets her spend the night at his place in his bed (while he sleeps on the couch), he called her "babe" which is what he usually calls me, and he talks about her pretty frequently. I worry that maybe he has feelings for her. Should I tell him how I feel, or am I really just being insecure for no reason? I'm afraid to bring anything up because I don't want to feel like I'm trying to control him.

[jules808]

I don't think you should worry about the "babe" thing cause my best friends boyfriend calls be babe all the time.it seems weird but trust me some people don't use babe the same way. Guys and girls say babe to each other all the time now. I call my guy friends babe and all my girlfriends babe too. Now the whole letting her sleep in his bed and stay over.I don't know it I would be okay with my boyfriend doing that. I think that this girl should know her place for sure. Its difficult becuase she's been friends with him for a long time but if you are his girlfriend and if you guys are really serious then he shouldnt be doing that because its just not right for a guy in a serious relationship to be doing that. Is the couch in the same room as the bed? why is she spending the night.does she not have her own place? Good things to know before you say anything though. Because maybe she doesn't have anywhere else to go.I don't know. Investigate and see what's up first.dont jump to any conclusions. it really depends on how serious you are with this guy. YOu guys need to talk about it calmly and tell him how you feel. Don't tell him that you never want her there.just ask questions and see what he says.

[kazine]

You should definitely tell him how you feel. He shouldn't be calling her "babe" or asking her to sleep over. Been in a similar situation but I'm not going to tell the whole story. But be careful he doesn't lie to you about her.

You don't need to act like you're trying to control him. You just need to tell him you're upset, not start yelling at him telling him he can't see her again or he can't do this, he can't do that. Let him make his own decisions. If he loves you, he'll choose the right one.

[993099142]

You have every right to be upset. She slept her in BED! And he calls her babe. Tell her to stop doing that. and that you want him to spend less time with her. You set the boundaries when your the woman, if you dont', then there are no boundaries for him to respect.

[boyfriend-help-42]

if this is serous then you talk to him but tell him that's just what it seams like that

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