Why would an ex call randomly sometimes?

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My ex boyfriend still messages me every week And calls me randomly sometimes He ask many questions like: how i am, what I've been upto, my work life, family life, my current dating life, etc Then he tells me what he's been upto and all that We never talk about sex or any sexual innuendos though Why would an ex call randomly? Boredom? To actually know what I've been upto? Or just to hear my voice /misses me?

guyhenry · Accepted Answer

Never look at words in a relationship. Actions speak louder than words. He misses you and isn't manning up to it. And honestly you are not taking your chance to take power and control this relationship. Never ever answer questions such as how are you? Where are you? Those questions are always looking for you. Ignore them, don't worry you won't lose him he'll be back with a phone call or message. If you feel the need to message him just say hey seen your message, been occupied 'doing something good/interesting hope your well (show no interest, don't ask how he is, close it off) Also never answer a call immediately let it go to voicemail. Wait for the correct message from him.

noahchoudhury · Accepted Answer

It could be he misses you but it also could be he doesn't want you to move on secretly. I had an psychotic ex who first didn't give a crap about me after the break up but then after a month randomly kept calling me every other day just to tell me how much she is enjoying life and how she really likes this one guy and would tell me 'hey dont worry you will move on' and then after all that bullshit also tell me 'you know i miss you a lot right' like basically be confusing as fuck. You guys broke up for a reason, dont text him or pick up his calls, he may be just stringing you along. If he wants you to back he will just directly tell you that.

Mickey9999 · Accepted Answer

It’s a little confusing but there are people that just genuinely just care about other people. My thought is he cares for you. Probably not to get back together type of thing but he cares about you as a person and is just keeping in touch. Wish more people were like that rather than all the drama and hate! If you don’t want to be friends then don’t answer. I’m sure he will get the idea eventually and stop calling. He may quit once you say you have a new man so be prepared for that...

Moonchild714 · Accepted Answer

You needed option All The Above. He's bored thinking about you the good times more than likely, misses you and wants to hear your voice and know what's going on with you. The fact that he wants to know about your dating life also indicates he wants to see if there's an opening for him... It's best to remember an Ex is an Ex for a Reason. But some situations can be resolved.

streetmonkey · Accepted Answer

It depends if you dumped him or he dumped you. If you did, means he wants you back. If he did, then don't think it's because he wants to go back to what you guys had. It means he wants you to be available for him if and when he decides to go back to you while he explores the sea of women around him. Or because he's having some existential crisis. I don't know.

Anonymous · Answer

Maybe trying to get back with you or seeing if he still has a chance and maybe he's trying to wait to make the right move. The ball is on your court. If you like him then keep talking to him like you are. If you don't want to get back with him, I would just stop talking to him, I wouldn't lead him on. Or if you truly just want to be friends. Make sure he knows that in your conversations.

unknown-creature · Answer

The most common options are A and C, he could be curious about your life, maybe he wants to know if you moved on and forgot about him. Maybe he wants to know if you still love him. And finally maybe he misses you.

Anonymous · Answer

My ex and I decided we really want to stay friends, and I message her sometimes, from my experience it can be from old habits. I found it really hard to not message her goodnight every night and ask her what she is doing etc. But I also still like her and miss everything from the life we had. Moving on is just very hard and I think he has trouble dealing with the changes.

sparklefairy · Answer

Because they were a significant person in your life. Are you just supposed to drop the person who was the most significant in your life just because the relationship is over?

TwinCKI · Answer

The amount that he's contacted you just goes to show that he still caress about you and probably wants to get back together.

hitesh07 · Answer

Because he still cares... If he wouldn't care, he won't be curious about your life

EarthyGirl · Answer

Me personally just to see how they were doing bc not only were we lovers but also friends. i missed our friendship. bc overall they were a great person

TallGuy96 · Answer

A B and C , he actually still care about you and likes you

Browneye57 · Answer

He's just hoping he can get back with you. Duh. It's like rooting through the trash... no matter what you find it's still trash.

HereIbe · Answer

Wants to try to rub in how wonderful her life is and how you're a total loser who never recovered from the breakup--oh, you've got someone else and are having a wonderful time. Click. No more calls from the ex.

Anonymous · Answer

The better questions is why do you let him... People need to stop living in the past and fully move on ffs.

Mrblueballs42 · Answer

he misses you but also probally to see if your dating someone. If it bothers you dont answer.

Anonymous · Answer

Well I call my ex sometimes and that's because im not over her

Phule · Answer

He either misses you or what he had with you.

CoffeeWC · Answer

looks like he misses you

SanchoFields99 · Answer

Refuses to let go.

Geeky_Bunny · Answer

Could try to be a friend

Hannajenky · Answer

All of the above

Anonymous · Answer

He misses you.

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