I took the break up terribly hard while he immediately started dating someone new.
I reached out and we had a discussion about how the break up was badly handeled, than he told me he doesn’t want to keep in touch because it “keeps reopening the wound”. I thought he was speaking about my wounds exclusively as I was suffering a lot and I told him, and he was having fun with his new girl. About his handling the break up badly he said “what’s done is done I can do nothing about it now” (apologize maybe?).
I honestly find it weird that he didn’t want to talk anymore as he was the one who insisted he wanted us to remain friends. I wonder if maybe he was talking about his wounds as well not just mine, which by the way never healed so there isn’t much to “re”open. Was he implying that he suffered too? Because it doesn’t seem so to me.
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He means that when he talks to you it reminds him of all the happiness he had in the relationship with you, and knowing that is now over hurts him. That's likely why he immediately looked for someone else, to take his mind off of you as it just kept hurting him to think back at everything that is now gone.
I'm the same, it hurts me to just think back at all the happy moments, knowing they're gone forever and will eventually be meaningless, and the best way to get over would be for me to find someone new, but I personally would rather feel the pain, as replacing my ex that quickly (like my ex did) would feel like I don't value what we had, which would make me feel terrible.