Boyfriend doesn't care if we break up?

[Beckyboo03]

I have been in a relationship for over 3 years. My boyfriend criticizes me for everything, I'm always doing something wrong, I can never say anything right. I finally said enough is enough, I hate how you make me feel please stop as what you're saying hurts my feelings. The answer I was hoping for was "ok I'm sorry I will try not to do it anymore" trying is all I can ask for right now. But instead I just got criticized more. So I said fine I can't do this anymore I want out also hoping that maybe he would see that I mean it then say sorry, but no he said fine good for you. What the hell? Does this mean he just doesn't care anymore, and wants out? I would like us to stay together under the circumstances that he can try to stop hurting my feelings. This whole conversation was a fight, did he just say that cause he was mad?

[bestill]

I know your hurting right now so my advice will be kept soft but still direct.

I've been in his shoes before. He's a acting like that because he really does not want to be with you. Does he love you? in a way, yes. Is he "In love" with you? probably not so much anymore.

I'm sorry. But you need to hear this, if you want a good future.

Leave him NOW !

Trust me on this. When I did that to my girlfriend, it was because I though I could be happier with someone else, that's why I criticized her so much, she was a good women but nothing she did was "good enough" for me, that was because I no longer wanted to be with her.

The reason he is still around is because he does actually care about your feelings deep down, and doesn't want to hurt you--but I guarantee you that internally he is daily breaking up with you, he's just not man enough to go through with it in reality.

I've grown up a lot since I acted like this, so I hope my experience helps you.

Now here is the kicker...If you want to keep him, you can because he most likely won't initiate the break up. But get this, VERY IMPORTANT- if you stay, he will continue to disrespect you, lower your self esteem, break you down mentally, physically, and spiritually, and look for other women, if he hasn't already.

He's not just mad, he has disconnected with with relationship. What women fail to realize is that when men do this, it is near impossible to bring us back. Cut him loose if you want to save yourself. I can not stress that enough!

Because I was like your boyfriend and couldn't pull the trigger, I pushed and pushed my girlfriend until SHE broke up with me. That way, I didn't have hurting her on my conscious, because she made the choice. (sorry, but the truth) Did I still care about her? Yes, but that is not enough for a healthy relationship.

I don't thinks she's dating at the moment, but still, she is so much better off after leaving me.

You will also be so much better off after leaving him. I promise you that:)

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[Purfectkitty08]

I agree with you...he doesn't want to be in the relationship but doesn't want to be the bad person by breaking up with her.

[anna76]

Sorry I don't agree with these comments. My man treats me like this but I know he loves me. It takes two people in a relationship. I use to put my man down and disrespect him because I was partly scared and there thangs he didn't do right in the relationship. Have you taken a step back to see your own faults.

[elliesaur]

I agree with you.I've been there too,and tried everything to make it work.I broke it off once I realized he just doesn't care enough.

@anna76 - exacty,it takes two people.If he stopped caring about her feelings,he's emotionally out of the relationship.If you can accept being treated like that, then good for you.

[MissMarvelous]

I'm going this right now. Did you two break up @asker

[Dessstinnny]

Guess what tho... u did hurt her as a matter of fact u had been hurting her already by treating her like crap just so she could leave u. Maybe after she left u, she did get over u, but I can guarantee that she hated u and that's not what she really wanted. What she wanted was for u to run after her and when u didn't u hurt her even more. if u really cared ab her and loved her in a friend sort of way, why would u want her to hate u? Ik exactly how it feels, because I'm under the same circumstances with my boyfriend and actually I don't even know what we are rn but he sorta called it off just a couple of days ago saying"Ight. I'm about to talk to this girl right here.✌️all u do is talk bs"so I didn't text him back for the entire day and the next day he texted me asking if I was still mad. Not sure if he does what u did for the same reason tho, but if he does I'm certainly done with him and he has hurt me very much. It would've hurt less if he had just been honest ab why he treated me that way.

[Anonymous]

I don't think he actually care,because he thinks your bluffing about leaven him.

Regardless of what the fight was about, he shouldn't act that way it's an asshole move.

I say get yourself together and show him you expect nothing but respect.If he's acting like that now think how much worse it could be down the line.

[Anonymous]

I'm sorry hun but I have to tell you...I don't think he wants to be in the relationship any more but doesn't want to be the "bad guy" by breaking up with you.Unless,he's been that way all three years? I think he wants out...

[Ainani]

when someone shows you there true self believe it.. he's only wanting to make him self feel good.. it means he never cared in the frist place... there will be someone else who'll love everything about you good and bad