Ah well people sometimes form bonds with somebody so even though he split up from you there can be sometimes residue of that bond which can then turn back into attraction or it could be because he's having a nostalgic phase were you miss companionship or friendship with a particular individual. I feel like he may be torn with his feelings which is why he asked about your relationship status but didn't go full way as he's seeing another girl but may still like you. Personally only if it continues for a long period I think maybe you should ask what's bothering him as he may want to get certain things off his chest. But if he doesn't constantly ask about you it may have just been a phase that he went through were he was having self doubts! Hope this helps!
He sent me pictures of himself and asked could we meet Friday
@messinessB what kind of pics?
Pictures of his face
u It could be any one of these:
1. He wants to know if you are available because he wants to reconcile.
2. He wants to goat over the fact that he has moved on and you haven't.
3. Maybe he broke up because of some flaw he perceived in you and he wants to confirm that no other guy had found you to be desirable.
4. Maybe he is genuinely concerned about you and wants to know that you are doing well.
5. Maybe he is feeling guilty about the breakup and will feel better if he knows you have resumed dating.
Then he asked me out for lunch after that
Sounds like he might think he made a mistake breaking up with you. What do you want?
I don’t want him back
@OlderAndWiser Agreed or he just wants sex :p
If you don't want him back, don't be foolish and think you can meet up and just be friends. As much as you don't want him, a meeting will trigger memories and old feelings and before long, you're in bed with him.
If you are serious about you don't want him, them all him to stop all contact.
@Inbox. The old "in and out" is certainly a possible motivation here.
I would tell him that now.
He doesn’t want me back but i don’t want to be friends either
Text and tell him you want no contact after this text and that you are going to block him all social media, then block him. Don't look back!
I bet he's not happy with his new girl and realized what he is missing...
I had the same thing happen to me and fell for the trap but realized it wasn't worth it very quickly..
At best he wants an ego boost from the thought of you miserable without him. At worst he wants to use you... you don't need that type of energy.. block him and move on ok? In cases like this, exes cannot be friends... some things must be left in the past.. anyway, a friendship with an ex feels super cringey. I promise 😂❤
there could be several reasons he is doing this to you ! maybe he realizes that he made a mistake with you and wants you back ! he wants to keep an eye on you so he can show you how your break up has lead him to ( in his opinion ) a better woman and so forth ! when you act like you are fine with the break up then that makes it worse on him and his ego for you should want him back because he feels that he is really great ! thanks
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You should just tell him that it's none of his business. He's probably still a bit interested in you and wants to know if you're single. Things might not have worked out as well as he thought they would with the new person. But you shouldn't allow yourself to be anyone's backup. If he really cared about you, he shouldn't have left you in the first place.
PREACH!!!❤
He broke up with you, but he doesn't wish you any ill. That's kind of how I am with my exes. The break ups were horribly painful. In the more recent one, I ultimately decided to leave when she tried to relegate me to only being a friend. Despite all of the pain she caused me; I don't wish her any ill. I genuinely want her to be happy and succeed in life. Ironically, even though I only wish her the best, I get the distinct impression that she failed out of grad school because of our break up. I tried to reach out to her and see how she was doing, but I was met with complete silence. When I asked her friend if she could let me know how my ex was, the friend didn't answer me, but simply asked if my ex and I had dated (which is significant because my ex got angry at me for telling my closer friends that we were talking. It sounds like she was telling people that we were romantic).
But i was never mad at him from the beginning
It sounds like that's even more compelling evidence that he wishes you well. I saw that he asked you to lunch. I wouldn't do that, if I were you. There's just too much opportunity for things to get weird,
He sent me pictures of himself thot
Though
Okay? Now you know not to meet him for lunch without his girlfriend or a guy you're dating.
Sounds like a dickhead, who gets with a new girl, then decides a few weeks/months into that relationship, that he wants to be friends with his ex? Surely they should still be in their "honeymoon" period, were being friends with his ex is the last thing on his mind? Maybe if he focused his energies more into his current relationships rather than his previous ones, he wouldn't have so many ex's!..
Because his relationship is souring and he’s wondering if he can crawl back to you telling you everything you want to hear so he can use you as a backup till he finds someone else. Why are you communicating with him at all?
I don't think none of us own an explanation to our ex's to tell them
whose new partner or romance partner we are talking to that is our
business what our relationship status is, sure he misses your friendship
it's your business if any new guys talk to you.
Maybe whomever he dumped you for left him and he realizes the grass wasn't greener on the other side.
Or maybe she dumped him and he is lonely. Saying he wants to be friends sounds like he needs someone to talk to and you are his comfort zone. Which wouldn't be a bad thing.
He wants to fate you again. Anything else about being friends is a lie. He wants to know where he stacks up against other guys. Time to just cut the cord with that ex.
It seems pretty common for the dumper to attempt to crawl back after a certain amount of time, typically after their next relationship prospect fails. He’s probably trying to fit himself back into your life for an opportunity to rekindle your relationship. I would suggest not entertaining his messages if you’re not interested.
He’s curious and wants to test the waters before saying anything compromising. He’s also regretting his choice to leave you right about know, because it took him 4 months to process the break up. The ugly truth is that no matter if you’re the dumper or the dumped you’re still going to mourn the relationship. The process is just different for some people.
I swear the exact same thing happened to me. My ex texts me after 6 months, saying "I miss you a lot".
I'm like what's the point now. You're the one who left me on your own accord.
To me it feels like she regrets leaving and now she's feeling empty and missing the moments. It's probably the same with your guys as well.
I could only speculate, and others have already given a pretty exhaustive list of possibilities.
What I can say is that I know from personal experience that it is possible to care deeply for someone but find it impossible to remain in a relationship.
I broke up with a fabulous woman, and regret it daily (whilst knowing it was the right choice).
What friendship? He’s an ex, there can’t be any friendship. Block him and don’t respond. No reason to care why he contacted you because he isn’t going to bring any value to your life now or in the future.
My ex called me last night at 3:57am
Ex's want to still be part of our lives once they realize we only made their lives better
He wanted to make sure if he were to try and go back to you, you weren't tainted by other men
Wow... that’s sad
He's a retard. He loves to juggle with girls and can't stand to be bored. So that's why he wants to come back to you.
You should have told him it is none of his business. But if he really wants to know, tell him that many guys have asked you out and you are confused as to whom to choose.
Move on. Dont let him create drama. He probably realized he made a mistake or he wants to get two birds with one stone. Regardless, he's the one who broke it off. Go date other guys. Perhaps, you will meet the one who truly wants to be with you.
⚫Breaking up with my girl, and after 4 months I call her asking, if she has found someone or talking to someone.
That will in most cases be my troll, wanting to laugh at her not moving on most probably.
So if he truly missed you as friends rather than lovers, then it is lije he was only after your p🐹y.
Just tell him that you guys cannot get back together as lovers.
BT it is never bad to be friends with an ex.
Yeah tell him me and a bunch of guys have been talking to you and you can't decide which one to pick. You are thinking of just dating all of us. 😂😂😂 kidding aside he probably wants to know if you are still hurt.
I was never hurt
Even better lol
Because he wants to get back into your panties or his relationship isn't going the way he thought it was so he wants to go back to you. Either way I don't think you should respond to him or do anything with him, ignore him.
All He said was misses us being friends nothing more I’d not think it’s that. Then he asked could we get lunch on Friday
Trust me he says friends but he means more :-) just letting you know
A mans ego (whether he wants you for himself or not) will be greatly affected when another man enters your atmosphere.
It is clear to me he isn't over you and wants you back.
Curiosity. Friendly conversation, showing an interest in your life. Possibly a chance to feel less guilt if they hear you're doing fine.
Why did he send me pictures of himself?
What was the context of the pictures? Was he alone in the pictures or with people? Were they normal pictures you would share with friends and family or were they intimate? Is he the type who normally did like sharing pictures? You know him pretty well. Trust your instincts. I don't think sharing pictures automatically means there's deeper meaning, but for a particular individual it might. It's a case-by-case basis.
They were selfies. Then he asked me could i send him a own pictures and asked could we do lunch this Friday
He wants you back. I guess he dumped you because other chick seemed to be a better option and something went wrong. Now he wants to creep back to you under the cloak of friendship.
Curious if you are still a dating ir option for sex. It doesn't mean love. Just that they might have you as a 2nd place option if better things fall through.
I would tell him he ended the friendship when he ended the relationship
He thinks about you and maybe wants you back (or at least stay close), although he may not say that.
He thinks about me?
Maybe he is feeling you out to see if you are in a present relationship because he realizes he screwed up and wants you back.
Either they regret leaving the person or are just asking out of curiosity with the hope of getting back together.
Al he He said was misses us being friends and he still loves me nothing more I’d not think it’s that. Then he asked could we get lunch later this week
I don't know. It's weird when the dumper comes back trying to be friends. You're best off just keeping well clear from it.
He’s just being curious so he knows if he can have you as a back up
I would tell him you are dating someone even if you aren’t , and wouldn’t even talk to him anymore
Cos they want to treat you as an option. Not a priority. He is using the reconciliation thing as a way to show off his new relationship to you. Don't fall for that
It could be one of multiple reasons.
He wants to get back with you.
He's trying to show he's better off.
He genuinely cares.
It depends on the guy
Well obviously he wants to stay in touch with you so that’s about it for now. Now it’s your decision to take him back as a friend or see where it leads or dump him
Wants to know if he still has his hooks in you. Creepy dude. Block him.
He moved on but wants to know if your ok, he's a good guy watching out for you think.
He sent me pictures of himself and also asked to go out this Friday
He must be really weak. Maybe he misses you. I would tell him to FUCK OFF.
Honestly his intention are clear just by asking if any guy talked to you... he is childish, so love save yourself the energy and DON'T get back together or give him attention.
He said he misses us being friend nothing more I’d not think it’s that
Either he’s checking about the ongoings in your life or he’s thinking of getting back to you.
I'd just ignore him. Block him and refuse to communicate with him. No need to dwell in the past. Move forward always.
If he ask exactly this "has any guy tried to talk to you yet" it could mean that he expects someone to contact you and just check if that person did contact you or not.
Well I’m single so of course I’m dating
My ex did because he felt lonely and since he had me once upon a time. He still wants to check if I got over him or he can enter my life again.
He found that you were better than the girl he left you for and is lonely.
He said “i miss you as a friend”
@messinessB That would depend on his definition of " Friend"!
Same thing happen with my ex.. exacly.. they just wanna see if u are still available
Well why did he send me pictures of him
They are playing games.. my ex hide her stories from me then unhide after 1 or 2 months she did that like 3 times.. soo i would react to a story of hers.. she would want to meet to give her stuff back.. i told her to text me soo we can say time and place she said ok. 1 month and more has passed and still not text.. she would send me pics of her new dog and update me about her life and she was asking about my life but i didn't said much.. they just want attention and to know that u still want them soo when ever they want they can run back to u. Just do fall for this.. he may like you. And my ex like me but they are playing because if someone really want u and love u they wouldn't leave u.. she had tons of flaws tons of red flags she would make me cry almost every night she would treat me like shit.. lie to me and i was still there because i love her.. you see if someone really loves u they dont leave u no matter what.. unless u cross the limits of course.. at least my ex admited that she was treating me bad and now she does all this to get my attention and likes and everything.. but i know same things will happen and i will get hurt even more soo i dont react to anything.. u should do the same.. really
Why are you both still talking is the real question? What you are doing is none of his concern and Visa versa.
He texted me out of the blue
My guess is he wants you back and isn't into the other girl he's dating.
Cuz he wants a chance to get back into your life if he is lonely an not admitted it to you
He doesn't miss your friendship, he's trying to get it in. Send his ass packing and block them
Probably he left you for someone else got then person they left you for didn’t them but come back to you.
Just tell him to mind his own business and dont try to contact you ever
Ex's shouldn't talk
Why you are, I don't know
Forget it. Draw what you think Birdvant would look like, then show me.
Most of the times I hear this.. bored, lonely, horny, etc.
Cause he didn’t know what he had now that’s it’s gone.
But he’s the one who left me
Yes he didn’t realized until after.
Stop taking drugs. Dumpsters shouldn't ask questions.
He has realized that he made a mistake and wants you back.
He said he misses us being friend nothing more I’d not think it’s that
Actions speak louder than words.
Maybe he wants to know if you’re doing ok like him since you didn’t leave on bad terms
He may regret leaving you probably.
Be told me he missed his “friend” so i took that as he misses us hanging out nothing more than that
He sounds like he may want to fall back on you.
Still kinda likes you
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