I'm so confused, he loves me but doesn't want to be in a relationship?

[Purplemonkey242]

My ex broke it off because he wasn't ready for a relationship. We decided to be fuck buddies. Id still text him and check on him and I jokingly said, "... cause you don't love me anymore." He said thats not the case. We haven't slept together in 4 months. I asked what we were and he just said right now nothing but fuck buddies and he's been weird since.

[Anonymous]

I don’t think it’s healthy for you to keep hanging on to someone who isn’t hanging on to you. No woman wants a relationship that she’s had to push for or ask repeatedly about, because that isn’t natural or genuine. Sex and all that isn’t going to change his mind and you’d basically be waiting to get disappointed again and again. When you say your confused, I don’t really understand that, because he has told you where you two stand and it’s not like you’re playing a guessing game. It’s normal to love someone but recognize that you aren’t good for each other, or that you just don’t want a relationship in general. What’s happening here is you don’t want to accept what he’s telling you and your hurting yourself by keeping hope alive, or treating his rejection as some sort of obstacle to surpass. What I’d advise you do is come to terms with his decision, and work towards healing. Who knows, maybe somewhere along the line, things will align for you two to get back together. But you can’t stick around based on hopes for the future that as of now aren’t going to happen. You only have the present. Fortunately he was honest with you and wasn’t that guy who strings you along and lies in order to get laid, knowing in the back of his mine that you two are done. You got the closure that so many men and women don’t get. So be grateful for at least that, and work towards moving past this.

[Gwenhwyfar]

He loves you but isn’t ready to be in a relationship with you.

[varan69]

Ok i say this guys wants freedom and no one to report to or I mean to stop him from doing what he is doing out there. Like I said freedom to flirt, have sex, with no strings attach I knw. If he cared and loved you then he would be there and as a boyfriend. I dunno how u can not see that. Sorry, and with all respect to you. Just giving my opinion

[Purplemonkey242]

Thank you for being respectful

[varan69]

Thank u. Ur welcome and if u ever wana talk or need anything feel free to message me

[newfreshstart]

No disrespect i don't think he loves you if you love someone he would want to be with you

He could just have said that for sex

[Cowboy6666]

He doesn't love you. He is just there only for sex.
Move on you deserve better guy :)

[computer_guy]

he is not right for you