Why do they ask this question: why do you stay with me after all I’ve done to you?

[Anonymous]

When people say they don’t deserve you or ‘why do you stay with me after all I’ve did to you’ so often? Are they scared you’ll find someone else? Or they need constant reassurance? My ex use to do that a lot. Even in the past when he would mentally and verbally abuse me I still came back because I loved him so much. But he often say ‘I don’t deserve you’ and it was weird because why would they think that?

[IMuser]

Some of the reasons (which may or may not be conveyed) are as follows
1. Because I still hope we can stay together and make it work
2. I would get lonely and something is much better than nothing
3. Because i am using you for sex
4. Because you were at a tough stage of your life and maybe what you did was a "venting out" thing. I still trust you

[Aakash_Hangargi]

Postive note he his guilty of his actions but cannot change himself and doesn't want to hurt you anymore

[Anonymous]

Probably needs reassurance. Him saying that could be just a manipulation tactic or he’s genuinely questioning why you’re still staying with him despite all this crap he put you through. He might be feeling guilty about what he did butttt if he’s still not treating you right then obviously he’s not that guilty

[Apulu_3]

Because they knew their worth or mostly they thought that you are too good for them. Either they are being honest by saying this or they have a lot of insecurities.

[Apulu_3]

Thanks for the MHO

[Uptowngirl88]

Move on he don't want you sis read between the lines. He's dropping hints for you to go away and is wondering why the heck you won't after he's treated you like basura

[Uptowngirl88]

The real question is why won't you go away? He don't want you around yet you keep being clingy?

[Anonymous]

Berate, insult and abuse you, then say they're sorry and not worthy of you.

You leave, but come back, or reconsider leaving. And they do it again.

Are you familiar with the term yo-yo or master manipulator?

[rinx91]

What if he did that to get rid of you... Thats why he ask that.. ( no offense)

[Uptowngirl88]

Exactly!! Like what don't she get? He's wondering after treating her like trash why she just won't go away. He doesn't want her.

[Jamie05rhs]

They're fucked up in the head.

[sheikalana]

They probably think they don't deserve you.

[jahaims]

It's a form of manipulation