Guys, Why would he "break up" with me when his mother is dying?

[CNoelle22]

So, we were only together for 2 months but it was so amazing because our love languages meshed and he honestly treated me EXACTLY like I would want to be treated. The entire time we were with each other his mom had terminal cancer and he got news of her declining health and ended it with me. I understand that that is obviously devastating news but I don't understand why he wouldn't want me to be there and support him. We haven't spoken in over 35 days but he randomly unfollowed me on Instagram but kept me on snapchat (still views some of my stories) so I am just really hurt and confused about what to do. Any ideas about why or what any of this means?

[Anonymous]

Maybe he just feels he doesn’t have enough time for you right now. That he wants to devote his time entirely to his mother while she’s still alive. He may feel as though that would be unfair to you to not be able to spend more time w you, like he’s neglecting you. It’s possible you’re putting too much pressure on him as far as nagging him. I don’t know. Most people only tell their side of the story by trying to make their self look good. Hopefully that’s not the case w you. It’s possible he wanted to breakup to begin w so he’s using his mother as his excuse to get out of that relationship w you.

[NamerOfStars]

As you might imagine, he's devastated. That can manifest itself in some very strange ways. Many people, especially guys, are prone to pulling inward in times of great stress and strain, and that may be what he's doing here. Sometimes the means of support that you need to show is accepting someone's desire to be alone, as contradictory as that might sound.

[Guy13]

YOu are to new to see his deep emotional crap...

[Guy13]

Firstly, I'm sorry because there is not much more distressing than not being able to be there for a friend, I've been here... we all have been here. You were talking about love languages... Women are emotional then physical. Men are physical then emotional. "Men/Women Venus/Mars".

Men give Emotions last while women generally give physical last. Do you see the incongruence in your perception of the situation. You do not have the right to know him as well as you want too from his perspective. He has to get over the first lady (Mom) before taking on a second Mom. Make sense?

[Avicenna]

Maybe he can't deal with her dying so is retreating from the rest of his life

[Iron_Man]

Hard to tell about his emotions ask him