What on EARTH are these mixed messages? HELP?

[Eliza12345]

ok just looking for some outsider take on this situation, ill break it down cliff notes version:

- dating 2 months, very connected/happy together

- he did a lot of loving, commitment minded things

- suddenly ghosts me for a week, then dumps me for these reasons: "I was ready to be serious and commit to you fully, but I wasn't sure where you were at. Therefore I am afraid of losing you, So I cannot commit. But maybe we can revisit this later, I just kept thinking I couldn't get dragged into this"

- the following week after dumping me, he continues going out of his way to do couple-like things, IE sending me songs I'd like, deciding he is going to give me an expensive new computer, 'I think about you all the time, I still care about you', offer to help me with things.

- Continues to say 'I am just so scared of losing someone I am head over heels with' 'I dont know if im doing the right thing'

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HOWEVER - its been a month since he dumped me, hasn't changed his mind, hasn't asked to talk about it. I told him the mixed messages were too hard on me after being dumped and he had no response. WTF is going on in this dudes head? Commitment issues? Did he lie about his feelings for me to ease the guilt of the breakup?

[DoctorSex]

The way he is behaving is a very extreme way of him saying, "there's something about your actions, the way you're behaving, maybe even dressing, that is giving off signs that you're still on the market, still searching for another guy." He may feel as though you are using him as a stepping stone.
Sadly a lot of guys have an issue with being assertive, telling a woman exactly where your lines are. He will need to develop a backbone.

I personally stay away from women who are afraid to loose me, it puts me in a place where it's a slippery slope into corruption of the spirit. I'd warn you to be careful of this. Do not accept his gifts. They will begin to erode at your character below the surface of awareness.

Kind regards,
DoctorSex

[RiseofArtemis]

Try finding out about his past. It May give a lot off answers to you. A persons past maters more then you think as it shapes what you are. If you can, ask him directly so that he opens up his past to you but warning guys rarely do that and he might think you are controling and completely leave you. Tell him you are worried about him acting like that maybe it will help.