Boyfriend ended things with me through a text message?

[Sydneygirl91]

My boyfriend ended things with me through a text message then when I tried calling him, he said he will call me tomorrow I’m going to sleep in which he never did call me the next day. Just 2 days before he was telling me he misses and can’t wait to see me. All the while my mum was about to have surgery to remove cancer just a few days later and he knew I was worried about my mum and he still ends up being so cruel to me. I’m really struggling with this and I just feel so hurt. He was also playing mind games with me, he would say he still likes me then he would say he doesn’t know but then says he misses me. How do I get through this? I’m honestly so sad and confused by how he has treated me. He was once so kind and respectful towards me and then he became cruel to me.

[Anonymous]

Honestly, walk away from him and focus on you and your mom. You have a lot on your plate right now, and the last thing you need is your jerk of an ex putting you through additional pain. I know really leaving is easier said than done, and maybe you’re afraid to ignore him because you don’t want to lose him. But right now, what makes him worth keeping? The past is irrelevant and the future in nonexistent. You only have now, and in present time he’s being really shitty. Even if you must dip a little bit into the past, he’s been shitty for a while. So maybe it’s a good time to wash your hands of that drama and realize that you are also the prize. Knowing your worth saves you so much time, because you wouldn’t even tolerate that no matter how much his absence hurt if you really put yourself on a pedestal. Let him go, give him what he wants and move forward. Let him be the one who lost something good, rather than convincing yourself he’s the loss.

[Sydneygirl91]

We aren’t in contact anymore. He said we would talk about it in person then he went back on his word, after telling him how much he hurt me I stopped texting him after that and he didn’t reply back with anything. I’m just still hurting a lot. I feel powerless, it’s like he kept playing mind games with me and to end things with a text message, it’s disgusting behaviour honestly. I don’t want to be with him anymore. I’m just hurting by how he treated me. I was thinking of confronting him and telling him what I think of him. I know he won’t care but he’s a coward. He ends things with a text and then goes back on his word about seeing each other to talk about it in person. I’m just so angry by the way he’s treated me.

[Opinion Owner]

I’m so sorry, I can relate in a way. I had a boyfriend of 4 years end things with me by me seeing his other woman’s name pop up on his phone that said “my ❤️”. It’s really shitty, hurtful and just devastating in general when someone who is supposed to love you and care about you, hurt you without a drop of remorse. But as someone who’s gone through harsh pain, let me just say that you will get through this. You don’t need closure or an explanation from him, because you already know it will be insincere, maybe even harsh and you don’t need to put yourself through additional trauma. He will reap what he sows, even if you don’t get to see the karma first hand. But if I were you I wouldn’t say another word to him, and focus on healing from this. It’s gonna keep being hard for a while, but it gets easier and then before you know it, you won’t even care.

[Anonymous]

I went through something similar the guy told me he cared about me and even told me he was falling in love with me but when my mum died he wasn't there for me. Now I am pregnant with his baby and he told me he hates me and he wants nothing to do with me or the baby. He even said he won't be paying child support.

I know it hurts right now, as time goes on you will realise you are so much better off without him. He showed you his true colours when you needed him and his support.

[Sydneygirl91]

I’m so sorry you had to go through that, I truly am. You are so strong! Like I said above he said we would meet in person and talk about things and then he goes back on his word. I literally did nothing to him too. He went away for work, so he said I don’t know. I don’t trust him anymore and it was his birthday and here I am waiting for us to video call because he said we could and I had a cupcake and candle for him so I could sing happy birthday to him. I was waiting for over 1 hour and I texted him what was happening and his response was I’m having dinner with workmates, can we chat later? No apology, nothing. I just want to confront him and tell him what I think of him.

[Opinion Owner]

You can confront him but chances are you will be wasting your time and you don't need any more stress or heartache. Focus on you and your Mum. Your Mum needs you. I promise with time you get through this and you will meet someone who will show you what real love is

[Sydneygirl91]

Thanks I sure hope I do someday. Wishing you and your baby all the best and I hope someday you too will find someone who loves both you and your baby.