My ex asked me to block him…?

[Stinemart22]

My ex broke up with me over a year ago. He hasn’t left me alone but doesn’t want to be in a relationship. I’ve asked him to stop contacting me. He texted me tonight and I said to pls stop contacting me and he said block my number please.

Why does he do this? ….. if it’s that hard to not contact your ex shouldn’t that be a hint

[Anonymous]

Maybe he wishes for you to put an end to his own misery. Like me too. Mine blocked me like on fb and chat on gmail because I taunted him with resentment but I am the one who split and won't be anymore ina relationship. Block him. Pls.

[Opinion Owner]

Thanks. x

[Chris_Morgan]

I guess he might be having trouble moving on.

Some people (Especially when they drink) end up texting their ex, it can be a difficult habit to break. If you block him, he has no choice but to stop.

[Chris_Morgan]

It is weird that he doesn't want a relationship, but yet he won't leave you alone.

[Stinemart22]

This has been over a year. Even the times when I blocked him he still found away to contact me. I thought it was bc he was drinking but he has an alcohol monitoring device on his ankle right now so he can’t even drink… so this is sober. I don’t get it. And he just told me 2 days ago he has feelings for me…

[Stinemart22]

I still love him :(

[Chris_Morgan]

There's a few red flags in your situation.
1). He broke up with you and doesn't want a relationship, so what does he want?
2). Even if you block him he will contact you.
3). He has an alcohol monitoring device on his ankle which says to me that he's been having some issues.
Obviously the situation with him isn't healthy right now.

[Stinemart22]

I know :( I wish I knew….

If he has feelings and can’t control texting me I don’t understand why he wouldn’t want to be with me. That would be a strong indication to me that I wanted to be with someone if I couldn’t leave them alone.

[Chris_Morgan]

Yeah he's sending mixed signals.
I have no idea what your conversations with him have been, or why he wanted to break up in the first place. I'm sure there's a lot more to this story.
Did he give you any explanation for the breakup?

[Stinemart22]

He said I was attached too fast and it was fine in the beginning but then he got cold feet. So I am guessing a decline in attraction? Even the times he’s been blocked, he emailed me or called on *67 so I don't know what being blocked does for him… maybe he’s testing me? I don't know

[Chris_Morgan]

Another red flag to me is that he broke up with you, but doesn't want you to be with anyone else.
That's very manipulative behaviour. Is it possible that he has other women who he does this to?

[Stinemart22]

He doesn’t want me to be with anyone else? He hasn’t explicitly said that. I don’t think any women at the moment but I do think he’s had a hard time letting go of people before..

[Chris_Morgan]

Oh sorry, I must've misread that. Okay, maybe he isn't a player, he's just very indecisive and I understand your confusion.
I'm a person who got back together with my messed up ex many times because I loved her, so I get how you feel. Unfortunately, if the problems you guys have are never fixed, there's just gonna be a pattern of this happening over and over.

[Stinemart22]

Yes I mean he has no problem asking for Sex which I’ve learned not to give him however he will still try to hangout with me and such. He said he enjoys my company. I asked him if he had feelings for me and he said “or course I do, I know you have feelings for me” … it’s like ok….

[Chris_Morgan]

I don't know what to say.
I mean obviously alcohol must be a problem for him or something if he has that monitoring device. Also him breaking up with you because you were too attached, then him asking for sex later on, and just kinda contacting you when he's lonely isn't very loving or consistent.
I don't get it, but you deserve a man who shows you that he wants you completely. Your ex seems to have major commitment issues just from what you've shared about him.

[Chris_Morgan]

He has a fear of getting trapped, lol.
He just kinda wants to keep a safe distance, still have sex with you, still talk, but still able to be free.
Now you just have to decide what YOU want.

[Stinemart22]

Thank you for the help and insight. He did say He thought I was the one but I made him “uncomfortable” . Whatever that means. Maybe he is afraid of commitment but I always thought that was just a bunch of bologna and it’s just means. Guy lost attraction

[Chris_Morgan]

I just go by people's actions mostly.
If he still wants sex, but he doesn't want a commitment it appears as if he's looking for a friend with benefits.
The alcohol monitoring ankle bracelet and him ignoring you blocking him and contacting you anyway are concerning, not gonna lie.
Good luck with everything, stay safe.

[Stinemart22]

Thanks! He texted me last night after I had told him to stop so I I said again to stop and he said “block my number please “ …

[Chris_Morgan]

Yeah, sometimes addiction issues are an overall problem for some people. If they aren't drinking then they're losing control in other areas. the mixed signals you're receiving from him must be seriously confusing and stressful. My ex was nice one time she messages me and very hurtful the next. Over time she was able to control how I felt and keep me down just by sending a random text that she knew would irritate me. Confusing people like that are so toxic.

[Stinemart22]

It is so confusing and so stressful! Bc if I couldn’t stop texting my ex, I’d just get back together with them. I wish he could see me in a better light again and want to have something healthy. Especially if says “of course I have feelings for you”

[Chris_Morgan]

Anything can happen, but usually an ex is an ex for a good reason. I wanted my ex to act normal and love me like she used to, but some people just can't be fixed. It's almost tragic to waste time on them, but I hope the best for your situation because I'm a hopeless romantic, lol.

[Stinemart22]

Ugh I’m sorry I know the feeling obviously lol 🥲😢 thank you so much !!

[melnc]

At some point, he's trying to make you feel guilty... mind games. He's not smart.

[Danny_dan92]

He’s calling your bluff

[Stinemart22]

Well Danny Dan Dan, you may have a point. However…. If he doesn’t want to be open to dating then I actually would like him to stop. But buddy doesn’t seem to be able to. So I’m wondering if he’s going to be able to draw any kind of conclusion from that.

[Danny_dan92]

Then tell him

[AsaKyo]

Then block him

[sifat10shahriar]

Maybe he is getting a new girl