Sudden feelings for ex in the past, why?

[Anonymous]

I broke up with an ex boyfriend six years ago. About eight months ago, I started thinking of him and then realize I actually have feelings for him. Back when we dated I think I tried to protect my heart from him because I knew he wasn’t gonna be good for me. Im just confused as to why all the sudden I learn I have feelings for this person after all this time went by! Its been way too long! Makes me feel like I’m crazy and I’m not. I looked him up on social media and it looks like he definitely got a relationship going on. I acknowledge my feelings and just want to move on. I’m really not sure what this is that I’m going through.

[Guy13]

Sometimes we remember the best things, focus upon our current status, and forget all the 💩 and pain that B- caused you and others around you 🤷🏻‍♂️

[Asker]

So you’re saying I might not have feelings for him but just remembered the good times?

[Guy13]

I’m saying that those good times, in retrospect and from a distance, have grown larger than the realities of reasons for break-up. You have a positivity that is attractive even to get to this mindset. You are quite healthy and people are missing out…😎

[Asker]

Interesting answer! Now I’m just kinda pondering on what you said😆 see this is why I need to see other thoughts/prespectives

[Guy13]

Great…I love win-win (s).

[Pleaznhim4me]

You are bored or there is something else that you are upset about that you need to fix and you just are focusing on your ex as a way to avoid the issue.

[Asker]

Ugh I don’t know! I can’t figure that out right now. Why is it that I’ve been thinking about him for nearly a year though? Omg I’m not sure what it is that I’m distracting myself from 😳

[peterrezeeek]

she is not asking for pig's opinion... you shut up.

[On_cloud_wine]

It’s been happening to me the more I meet new men.. I keep comparing them to my ex and it’s been making me think of him more.

[Asker]

I'm sorry... that sucks.

[On_cloud_wine]

I wander if it’s a sign though.. I don't know.. when you start comparing them all.. I’m just so mad at him.

[Asker]

No matter what my emotions/feelings are towards him, there are good reasons why we broke up and I try to not met the “good times” fog my decisions. No matter how I feel about him I keep my self accountable to never look back. Maybe you need to forgive him, make a decision to forgive him, which also means letting go of the negative things he said or did to you. This is for your sake, l.

[athelete_7]

👀no use thinking of past

[Asker]

I’m really trying not to… lol

[athelete_7]

👀i guess its easier said than to be done. Must be feeling hurtful but u can't change the scene lol. Unless u wanna see the other girls life get destroyed.