He broke up with me why is he still texting?

[Anonymous]

I have been with this guy 11 months. We have had ups and downs. Mainly because I have bipolar and I have really been struggling with my treatment for the good half of our relationship. He broke up with me yesterday saying he can't hurt me and him anymore by being together and that it's best we end this now. He said he csnt emotionally deal with my manics. Last night the night of the break up I rang and asked him for him back and he said no he never goes back once he's done he's done. So he text me this morning and has been checking in on me a couple times a day. The first one was 'I'm hoping your okay I'm hurting a lot". I then replied with a text apologising for my behavior lastmight and thanks for looking out for me. I then said that I accept his choice and that I wish him the best. He then replied saying he's so sorry he was doing this as he thought it was for the best. That he's hurting just as much as I am and that if I ever need to talk or need him that all I have to do is message him. I left him on read and I got a message this evening saying "I hope your okay I'm not" to much I never replied. The text came around the time I deleted my social media images and I started posting positive vibes with friends. What should I do? And why would he keep checking in.

[CelticCrusader]

Sometimes even when a relationship doesn't or won't work out you still love the person even if you're the one who broke it off. 11 months of affection goes a long way to getting into someone's heart. It might be that even though he loves you he might not be able to handle the stress that comes with bipolar. I get it I'm bipolar too and I really can be a bit much at times and it stresses people out so I understand. I know it sucks when I lost my second love even though I'm technically the one who ended it I was devastated by it. This was over 2 years ago and I still miss her even though I know we never could have worked.

[Asker]

Thank you for your opinion and sharing your experiences. Would you suggest I reply back to him?

[CelticCrusader]

I think so yes but thats my two cents

[Asker]

Why do you think I should reply and what should I reply?

[CelticCrusader]

1rst question, because both of you are gonna need closure on this or its gonna tear you up on the inside for a long time. 2nd question I can't answer since I'm not you and I didn't date him you're on your own but in relationships one thing is key, Honesty. So in short be honest with him about your feelings and make sure he feels heard and free to be honest in return and just talk like two people who care about each other are supposed to.

[OlderAndWiser]

He has strongly ambivalent feelings about the breakup.

[Asker]

Do you think he regrets breaking up with me?

[OlderAndWiser]

Partially. . . but that doesn't mean that he is wanting to reunite.

[Asker]

I see, then why does he keep messaging me? I find it odd

[OlderAndWiser]

In his head, he knows that the relationship won't last and it is bad for him, but he misses the fun times and doesn't want to be lonely, so he reaches out to you. . . but when he does, he also reminds himself that the relationship didn't work.