My ex called me to humiliate me, how to get over it?

[Anonymous]

Long story short. I know drunk people always let their true feelings come out. My ex and our mutual friend were drinking and they called me. My ex told me that he makes more money than me , doesn’t like me as much as he used to, he saw me with another guy drinking, the mistakes I made, and finally when he’s new woman arrived they were laughing at me and she was asking who’s that? And he told me in front of her I’m with my new girl and they both laughed 🥲 I told him you have the right to be with whoever you want to be and hanged up and blocked. Then he called 3 times from his phone. I blocked them. I didn’t even ask him anything. He didn’t have to tell me because I don’t chased him and I only wanted to have a respectful relationship because we’re neighbors. He didn’t have to laughed or accused me of being with other guys. I’m by myself that’s why it hurts more because I have no one.

[Guy13]

Hey, she gets the Prize 🏆 boy 🎉. And, she ought to recognize this phone call one day in the near future.

[GoodManDave]

A. Drunk people don't ALWAYS let their true feelings out, they're generally less inhibited, so they will be more likely to say what's on their mind at the moment, but it isn't the truth. And it isn't always "the truth", even from their own point of view. People can lie while drunk.

B. Did you recognize the number? If so, why did you answer that first call? He's an ex for a reason. Unless you have kids together, you shouldn't be accepting any call from him - at least for a while. Maybe look into changing your number if he keeps it up... or worse case scenario, look into getting a restraining order of some kind. Now, if it's just annoying, keep him blocked. Maybe screen your calls. It works better to create a case against him if you have recordings and voice mails, but don't answer live, no matter what he says.

C. Several girlfriends of mine have no doubt "dated" other guys after me. That doesn't make them better (I've heard from friends that some have had other dating issues with other guys and broken up). That doesn't make my exes any happier.

D. Those that brag the loudest seem to be the same ones who are single soon after and many who brag the loudest have the most relationship issues (domestic violence, etc). So if I stayed single, but didn't have extra baggage from someone new, and they have all been in relationships, and they have so much extra baggage from those relationships that weren't really working... in many ways, I ended up happier and more successful than the exes who got into unhealthy relationships.

E. Let's say you had a job, a job that you needed to leave for whatever reason. Now, your boss (or even just a former coworker) calls you up repeatedly just to say how successful the business is, and how much better its doing without you... would you care? Would you let it get to you? Would you laugh and say "Ok... ummm... what was the point of that?"... and probably go about your day. Wouldn't some part of you say "Boy, I'm glad I don't work for THAT place any more. What a bunch of weirdos."? Personally, I'd be like... "Weird flex, but alright." Whether I had jobs after or not doesn't have anything to do with them.

He's trying to prove he's doing better than you (probably because he wonders if he is) or trying to rile you up. Neither of which is an issue you have to give him power over. He's not worth the head space. He's living up there, rent free... or at least sneaking into there, and not paying anything to "squat" in your head. You don't have to give him the keys to take up all that space in your mind. Don't let him be a freeloader. Move on.

[In_Trance]

Stop answering the fkn phone