How do I forget him?

[Fwcheerios]

Me and my boyfriend broke up recently. And I tried so hard for a year to help “fix” him. Our relationship was 80% arguments and fights, and 20% happiness. I was just so tired of being manipulated and gaslit in my relationship that I hit my last straw recently and i cut ties with him. I genuinely felt that he was changing his ways and then within our last argument he disrespected me and it was like we were back to square one. I know I’m not perfect but i tried really hard to make us work because i loved him so much. I feel that he has a lot of growing up to do and I’ve lost all patience to wait for him to change. But now that he’s gone it’s so hard not to think about him. I hold onto that 20% with my life bc I felt that we had such a beautiful and genuine connection. And I miss him but we’ve been on and off for a whole year.. I know that I can’t take him back because it’s going to be a never ending cycle of pain on my mental health. How do I forget him.

[SnowedIn]

I'm really sorry you're going through this.

One minute, one hour, one day, one step at a time. Keep your mind busy and off of him. Remove stuff from your life that makes you think of him.

Fill your life with little bits of happiness. Find those simple little things that make you happy: a fresh cup of coffee, petting the cat, going to the library, a cold beer -- whatever. And then very intentionally fill your days with those things.

Go to work and do your job but don't fill your time with work. Sleep. Work out. Watch movies -- but pick a different genre than you and he used to watch.

You can and will get past this. It is tough. It's going to suck. And there's going to be days when you're doing great and standing in line at CVS to buy Tylenol and you'll hear a song on the radio and it'll stab you in the heart. But you move forward.

[Alex8736]

block all contact and focus on your needs and goals without any toxic people holding you back

[Anonymous]

unfortunately you can't. how long have you known him? how long were you with him? how old was he?

[In_Trance]

get with someone else

you can't fix people