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My grandparents and my parents and all my aunts and uncles except one stayed married and did not divorce. But all of my cousins are divorced or half divorced except the ones who never married or the ones who married PhD students and Chinese Ivy League graduates, people who are the top among 10,000 or 20,000 others. Or the ones who marry PhD professionals and professors.
back in the day most woman either stayed at home or had part time jobs ,, I know this to be true in my moms large family.. so people often stayed together out of convenience , so they stayed mostly through thick and thin woman had no place to go other then stay home , which is really sad,, people cheat and get divorced for many reasons non of them or most of them not a good answer if you ask me other then being cheated on or being battered and beaten your or your kids etc,, people dont tell each other way they want and are afraid if they did what the other would think of them ,, eg when it comes to sex ,, we fight about money communication sex kids and religion lots of times we get married to someone way to young ,, if we dont know ourselfs how are you to know about another person to look after and to care for and to love, . ,, people should be open when they meet someone talk about the things that matter to them , sex religion drugs drinking communication is key and honesty is the only way ,, I can give you eg if you need time i have too many to put down here right now.. look at yourself first and then others..
Cheating is lacking integrity. No matter the circumstance, if you're unhappy and have talked to your significant other about why and you've tried everything to fix things, you can end it. It's a contentious decision to be selfish.
Love takes work, often more than many people are really willing to give.
A relationship and as a consequence a marriage is two people building a bridge each day to meet in the middle.
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Lack of intimacy and affection is primarily the reason cheating occurs , when a relationship becomes one sided , When a partner feels they are constantly giving without receiving in return , When a partner acts like they are always right and are never wrong, They don’t know how to wear their partners shoes like they expect their partner to do for them , it’s ok for them to do something but not ok for their partner , When a partner feels like they aren’t receiving what they are giving, they will more than likely be drawn to someone that wants to give them those things, making them more accepting of that new person. It comes down to selfishness, Cheating is a selfish act period , but people do it because they feel like they aren’t valued or appreciated by their partner and feel like their partner doesn’t really care about them , but this other person does. Not realizing the damage they are doing to someone that gave them their heart. When people learn how to remove their inner selfishness for someone they commit too , that’s where love grows , if you can’t do that for someone, then don’t get into a relationship period , you are just wasting your time and theirs , if you just want sex , stay single and be honest t someone that you don’t want a commitment I just want a FWB’s , it’s better to be honest within yourself instead of lying and being selfish
Cheating is a character flaw plain and simple. You can't control what someone does, but you can ALWAYS control what you do. There is no excuse for cheating, PERIOD!
Divorce is another matter. And I'm not going to try to weigh in fully on this because the reasons are so vast. But I will say this. Operating from the assumption that 2 people truly love eachother and they married for the right reasons. Then I would say COMMUNICATION is the biggest factor.
Men and women are NOT operating from the same playbook. This makes it very hard if a couple do not communicate well. Because they make assumptions based on how THEY see things then. Which can be completely wrong. This is how feelings get hurt.
Also I think it's important to remember that people change. Being my age I've seen it repeatedly in my age bracket. 2 people marry, raise a family, and become so focused on that goal they lose track of who THEY ARE as a couple. Then when thier kids turn 18 and leave the nest thier marriage crumbles because they've become 2 roommates. The only thing that was keeping the marriage together was the shared goal of the kids. Understand this is not malicious. No one is at fault per se. But this is why I'll tell any couple that will listen, always make room for date nights. Yes, your kids are a HUGE part of your identity. But there was a time when there were no kids. Always keep that magic fire burning. So you always remember what brought you both together in the first place. Because we change as we get older. That doesn't stop at 18. It happens ar every stage on life. And when a couple doesn't grow and change together, they will likely grow apart.
Cheating is not usually due to promiscuity. It may be 20-25% but the majority are unhappy in their current relationships or don't want to fix it.
Our society has an "anything goes" mentality, and people don't see it as "their fault" if their boo/spouse isn't working out.
The top ten reasons for cheating are:
1.) Poor communication 2.) Financial issues 3.) Bad sex life 4.) Hedonistic attitude 5.) Narcissistic tendencies (not the actual disorder) 6.) Some women are interested in his $ and use cheating as their sex life 7.) Psychological issues 8.) Want love and promiscuity simultaneously 9.) Some women rather cheat than end the relationship for a myriad of reasons 10.) Abusive relationships
Worst offenders:
#6 & #8: I can't think of anything worse to do to a person (sans violence)
This goes for guys also without #2 and #6 even in today's world. Some thing don't change for those interested in empty relationships filled with a big house, car, and lifestyle (usually miserable people).
Who actually gets cheated on: conversational narcissists
A conversational narcissist appears to be considerate, kind, and supportive. But in reality, they only care about what happens in their immediate lives. So while they might focus their energy on their partner, they only care about their partner as it relates to their own happiness.
Conversational narcissists will react negatively to anything you bring up that does not directly affect them. Try talking about history, science, politics, etc. and their reactions will be something along the lines of: I hate that kind of stuff. That kind of stuff bores me.
They talk primarily about themselves, their family, their friends, their work, and how you relate to them. They have no interest in your own work, family, or friends unless it affects them directly.
You’ll be right in the middle of talking about something or other, so either interrupt you or clearly not pay attention, and then suddenly they’re talking about something completely different.
They believe that intent is everything. They have no idea that being in a healthy adult relationship means having a duty to act and behave in a certain way. Need to be “yourself”? Go ahead, but you’re gonna be single for the rest of your life.
In the end, conversational narcissists have no respect for anyone. So why wouldn’t a partner cheat? Also, they’re are simply too easy to cheat on. They are clueless and oblivious to reality. They have no idea that their partner is cheating on them.
Respect is mutual. Disrespecting your partner - regardless of intention - will get you cheated on. Simples as that.
I don't think there's one specific thing you can say "this makes someone a cheater"
Everyone is different and every situation is different. To me it's like cancer, we all know there are things that will increase the risk but that doesn't exactly guarantee this person will get cancer.
Mental state is huge for everything. There's some key things that I think will "increase the risk" of cheating. Are they someone you can really trust? Can they talk about their thoughts, needs and desires even if their partner might not like it? Are they passive, or aggressive? Do they have commitment issues or self-esteem/insecurities issues? But again, this doesn't guarantee they will cheat. So don't start going through their phone cause they are insecure or something, have a conversation.
I think if cheating has already happened, it's super important to figure out exactly why. From there you BOTH need to decide if this is something that can be worked through or not and if there's anything salvageable in your relationship.
For the person who was cheated on they need to take some time to themselves to figure out if this is forgivable or if too much damage has been done emotionally.
There is never a ever a good reason to cheat. Leave the relationship first.
Ultimately cheaters cheat because the relationship doesn't satisfy them and they had an opportunity with someone else to feel the way they want to feel.
in my opinion it's silly to think that won't happen. Love doesn't exist and everyone is impulsive and fickle. Don't get into a relationship in the first place if you're not able to commit or at least break it off cleanly to avoid potential years of depression and hurt.
My brother's ex wife cheated on him like three times about 2 years ago. He took her back after she said that she wanted to be a family with her daughters and had to get it out of her system, the cheating. Last year she served my brother divorce papers after five years of marriage. Honestly I think it was my brother having to take care of the house and kids while his wife literally did nothing after coming home from work. Either that or my brother and her drifted apart and no longer loved each other and wanted to live separate lives.
Unfortunately It’s the wave of the future…..
These days it’s all about me, me , me…. There are far more takers than givers…. And few know how or are willing to compromise and an even fewer could ever end with an agree to disagree outcome.
And finally, Tolerance is only given (by many) if you agree with my view of the world….
Remember, marriage used to be thought of as "for life," and many stayed married due to religious and sometimes financial reasons.
Cheating happens because people feel dissatisfied with their marriage and don't want to work on problems, or don't believe problems can BE worked out. When people have reached that point, divorce is the usual choice.
Because it doesn't have the stigma that it had in the past, people avail themselves of it more easily. It's pretty simple.
The main reason for cheating and divorce is lack of attention. That disconnection between individuals over time weighs heavy on marriages.
The next criteria is outgrowing your spouse where your interests are not longer aligned. This happens when you marry young and 20 years later, your not married to the same person, or your own interests have changed.
Money would also be in the top 3.
personally i think, when we lose trust and commitment in our partner, and start to trust just in our opinion
A persons character.
If I truly care for and respect my partner I won’t cheat
even if we aren’t having sex as much as I’d like to
my desires don’t trump my responsibilities to her as the person I’ve chosen to pursue a long term commitment with
Dating is the problem. In dating we've learned how to play badly with another's feelings such that we become serial dumpers. The concept of disposable relationships is then carried into marriage producing the results you describe.
Money , conflict of interests , lack of communication , a partner who isn’t affectionate. Or if your partner doesn’t feel appreciated
Poor communication and a poor moral compass. sometimes, the cheater can be the victim. My uncle was a good man. My aunt kept putting him down and bashing him with talk of her ex's. I don't condone what he did... But, as someone who heals every single moment that I'm not doing something... I know what it's like to break. He is responsible for his actions... But, she's responsible for creating the toxic situation that led to the affair.
Many women in this generation are just ungrateful and don’t want to be in a committed relationship with a sweet and loyal man. They get bored easily. Therefore they cheat. It’s that simple really. It’s the hard truth people are afraid to talk about.
Usually Inability to adjust with partners behaviours or modern mentality of conditional love or sex addicts
I think it comes down to values.
One value is that people should never divorce.
The second is that people can change and if you don't like that change, then you should leave.
This is puerly speculation, but I think it's due to unmet needs, lack of communication, letting yourslef go and not putting effort into maintaining the relationship.
I could be completely wrong. But that's my theory.
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