Okay, so I really liked my boyfriend, and then he suddenly broke up with me, without even telling me why. (our relationship was a secret, except for a few people who knew) I NEVER tell my feelings or show my feelings to others, so in school I acted completly normal even when i interacted with him I was fine. I was smiling and I laughed at jokes, no one knew I was sad or anything. I actually did miss him a lot and wished he would take me back and litterly cried all the time at home. His friend told me that my ex didn't like that i didn't show any hurt feelings (i didn't cry infront of them or seem sad at all). I wanted us to stay friends at least if he didn't like me after the break up, but now he's mad at me.
Am I the asshole? Should I tell him how i feel?
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It's difficult to predict whether or not your ex-boyfriend will come around on his own, as it ultimately depends on his own feelings and actions. However, it's important to remember that your behavior when you were drunk was hurtful and disrespectful, and it's important to take responsibility for your actions and apologize sincerely.
That being said, it's also important to consider whether or not this relationship is healthy for you. If your ex-boyfriend is controlling and makes you feel like you can't joke or be yourself, that's a red flag. It's important to be with someone who respects and values you for who you are, and who doesn't try to control or manipulate you.
If you do want to try to work things out with your ex-boyfriend, it's important to communicate openly and honestly about your feelings and concerns, and to establish clear boundaries and expectations moving forward. However, it's also important to prioritize your own well-being and not to settle for a relationship that is not healthy or fulfilling for you.
Remember, you deserve to be with someone who treats you with respect, kindness, and love.
It's understandable that you didn't want to show your emotions in public, especially if you are someone who prefers to keep their feelings private. It's not fair for your ex to be angry with you for not showing your hurt feelings, as everyone processes emotions differently.
However, if you do want to salvage your friendship with your ex, it might be worth having an honest conversation with him about how you feel. Let him know that you were hurt by the breakup and that you did cry and feel sad, but you didn't want to show it in public. It's important to communicate openly and honestly with each other if you want to move forward and maintain a friendship.
Ultimately, it's up to you whether you want to try to mend the friendship or move on. Just remember that you're not the asshole for not showing your emotions in public, and it's okay to process your feelings in your own way.