I’m seeing this amazing guy who’s a chef and he was showing me his food he cooks like the dishes he dishes out in the restaurant and he was saying he wanted to cook for me and I started thinking about my ex cooking for me how he used to make the best dinners and then I got sad. The new guys food is amazing what he makes but it’s the fancy kind where it’s like two dots on a plate and a leaf while my ex used to make mash and chicken and veg and it be massive on the plate and to me that was the best meal ever I’m not into this fancy crap. I think that’s why I got sad too as I think once the food fills u that’s the best thing not how it looks ye know. Im not into 5 star restaurants I just like basic things.
Is this normal? we’re broken up over 2 years.
But I’m just afraid what if I keep seeing this new guy and everything reminds me my ex.
I don’t want to think about him but it just pops into my head the memories.
My ex was the one who dumped me.
I just wanna know has anyone else experienced this?
It’s not even about food but with this new guy things are so different and I liked things with my ex.
Is this normal? we’re broken up over 2 years.
But I’m just afraid what if I keep seeing this new guy and everything reminds me my ex.
I don’t want to think about him but it just pops into my head the memories.
My ex was the one who dumped me.
I just wanna know has anyone else experienced this?
It’s not even about food but with this new guy things are so different and I liked things with my ex.
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It's not uncommon to think about past relationships when starting a new one, especially if the new relationship is triggering memories or emotions related to the previous one. It's normal to feel sad or nostalgic about certain aspects of your past relationship, such as the meals your ex used to cook for you.
However, it's important to remember that your new relationship is a separate entity from your past one, and it's not fair to compare the two directly. Each relationship is unique and has its own strengths and weaknesses.
It's okay to have preferences in terms of food or other things in a relationship, and it's important to communicate those preferences with your partner. Perhaps you could suggest to your new partner that you enjoy more home-cooked, rustic meals rather than fancy restaurant dishes. It's possible that he may also enjoy cooking those types of meals and could accommodate your preferences.
If you find that you're constantly comparing your new relationship to your past one and it's causing you distress, it may be helpful to talk to a therapist or counselor. They can help you work through your feelings and develop coping strategies for moving forward in your new relationship.
Thank you so much 😊
I always thought that was common?