How can I be supportive to my crush when she just had her heart broken?

[Anonymous]

We both just got out of a relationship so her and I been going out and not a single second is wasted. Lately I’ve moved on from my ex and focus on my goals but she’s still hurt, she is truly a remarkable woman and I know she needs time to heal but I don’t want her to think I’m her therapist

[Anonymous]

In other words you don’t wanna end up in the friendzone forever. I can understand that fear but it’s not something for you to worry about right now.
At this moment, she’s going through a breakup and a very hard, confusing time. I don't know if mentally you had already checked out of your last relationship, if you fell out of love with your ex or what the state of that situation was, but just because you’re ready to move on quickly doesn’t mean your friend is.


She’s seeking a real friend right now, not a rebound or maybe not even to date. So if you’re feeling like a therapist and worried about losing a shot with her then please leave her alone and stop acting under the guise of friendship. That’s very unfair and deceptive, and you’re not the person she needs right now. Even if you’re hoping for a reward after being a shoulder for her to cry on and you’ll feel disappointed if nothing comes of this — again, that’s disingenuous and you should leave her alone.


If you’re really trying to be a friend though then act like it. See how things unfold and if there’s an opportunity for love in the future with her. Not at this sensitive time though.

[Anonymous]

Crush?

Are you still in high school? Something doesn't add up here.

[Asker]

I’m 26 she’s 22 and I feel we both feel each other but she needs to heal but I want her