My husband and I have been together for almost 5 years, we've been married for 1 year. We're both 22 (very young) I love him to pieces, but I sometimes question if I got married too young or if I married the right person for me. He is the total opposite of me, he's loud, outgoing, & very affectionate. He also needs a lot of reassurance. I experienced abuse/trauma in my later teen years. However, as a young child my parents always fought and never showed affection so I am terrible at being affectionate & giving reassurance. I feel like sometimes he doesn't truly understand that or what I went through. Both of my parents had anger issues and my mom was severely depressed. I also have a low sex drive I assume due to birth control because I had a high sex drive prior, but I cannot afford to have a child right now. He gets upset if I don't have sex with him if he wants to have sex. He also says we should have sex at least once a week I sometimes give in just to shut him up so I don't have to hear about it later on. I also, sometimes find him unattractive, but other times I find him very attractive. I don't really know how to explain it. He however, doesn't have very good oral hygiene which is a turn off for me. He says he brushes his teeth once a day, but I believe sometimes he doesn't brush them at all. He also wants constant hugs and kisses from me and I am not very affectionate as I said so I struggle with it. He's also very messy. He said he'd help clean our home, but he doesn't. I do all of the cleaning, dishes, & laundry. I even have to pick up clothes off the floor and pick up trash he leaves laying around. In addition, I am feeling tired and depressed myself. I work all day to then cook, clean, shower, go to bed, & do it all over again. I don't know if my marriage was a mistake or if I made a good choice. He's a very sweet person and he does a lot for me, but I am feeling overwhelmed.
How do you know when it's time for a divorce?
