AITA for breaking up with my boyfriend while he’s temporarily unemployed?

[Kervybear]

I (35f) have been dating my boyfriend (24m) for about 6 months and I've come to realize we are just not compatible for several reasons. I feel that it's time to break things off and have been planning to do so for about a month but we had a big vacation trip that was already booked and paid for and we were both looking forward to it, so I wanted to wait until after. While on vacation boyfriend found out there was a fire at his place of employment (a restaurant) and it would be closed for at least the next 5 weeks if everything went as scheduled. He will not be paid from his job during this time, he is eligible for unemployment and is going to apply today. Should I wait another 5 or so weeks to breakup with him or just get it over with now? Added background info: We live together, he was living on his sister's couch when we got together and before he moved in. He does not make enough money to live on his own at this job so he would most likely be going back to her couch or someone else's.

[SueShe]

Pardon my ignorance, but what is the signification of "AITA". Please realize that not everyone is fluent with acronyms, abbreviations and other modern day expressions. You can use the update box to clear that topic.

Now, the longer you wait before saying anything, the more difficult it will be to get the message across. However, one bad news at a time for your boyfriend is hard enough to overcome without the need for another one, provided he would consider separating to be bad news.

My opinion is that you should take care of yourself and your wellbeing before his and therefore, let him know as soon as possible what he has to expect. Since he can sleep with his relative, it is not the same as if you throw him out and he has nowhere to go.

It is a difficult decision but you should not wait too long to tell him otherwise YOU will find you in a more delicate position.

[_Maya_]

Pretty sure AITA is "Am I the Asshole?"

[SueShe]

@_Maya_ That makes sense. SBIALBTMWICTTNE!

[Unit1]

IWWSUTA

[SueShe]

I expected that you would dish out this one 😞

[HelpfulWoman]

nah. if you found a excuse now, you'd always be finding excuses to not break it up. No point in postponing the inevitable.
That said, you can break up with him and live together for 5 or so weeks so he can get himself organised depending on how amicable you are.

[Kervybear]

The only complication with that is my ex-husband also lives with us… long story but mostly for financial reasons… Even though it’s not TOTALLY awkward now, living with 2 exs would be.

[exitseven]

He is going through a really tough time. It really would not be very nice to pile this on him at the same time. There is no perfect solution to this but dumping him right after coming back from vacation and he is unemployed and having to move back with his sister would be sort of mean.

[exitseven]

Thanks for the MHO😎

[Anonymous]

Pretending that everything is good - when, in fact, it is not - is deceitful. You should have broken up as soon as you decided that was your desire, and not waited for the vacation. That was just a selfish move on your part.

[jahaims]

Nah, you were going to do it anyways and it's not like he is going to be homeless if he can crash at his sisters. It is weird to go on vacation and then leave him though. Seems a bit mental to be on vacation with him while the whole time you know you are breaking up.

[Simslover92]

You should just get it over with. Like others have said no need to prolong the inevitable.

[AmeerX]

What's the reason you don't find him compatible?