Why does he still answer his ex?

[Anonymous]

The guy that I’m dating has an ex (they broke up about a year ago) and they apparently agreed to “keep in touch”. But she still texts him every few months and He responds. Is this a bad thing? I think she might be having a hard time moving on, because it’s always her reaching out. When they text it’s just updating eachother on eachothers lives. What do you think?

[Oliverlogan263]

Hmm that's kinda weird that his ex still hits him up like that occasionally. I wouldn't be too stoked if I were you. A few things could be happening:

- She may still have feelings and is hoping they'll get back together if she stays in his life. That would annoy me.

- He may still have some feelings for her too and isn't fully over it, so he likes the attention. Not cool.

- He just feels bad completely cutting her off so replies to be "nice". But it's sending mixed signals to you.

I'd have a chat with him and let him know it makes you uncomfortable. There's no real reason for them to stay in contact like that after a whole year. Ask him to set clearer boundaries - maybe only replying if it's an absolute emergency.

His responses should be keeping you as his girlfriend in mind. See what he says. If he blows it off or doesn't make an effort to distance more from her, then I'd be wary of sticking around long term. You deserve someone fully invested in you!

[Gent207-2]

Hard to say

It's possible to be friends with your ex. But only after all trace of feelings have been processed and are rendered innert. I would just keep an eye on it