u Well don't take the dating advice from the person that doesn't date would be a start. Would you take advice on how to do your taxes from a homeless person? No I don't think you would. To answer your question though we all make mistakes. Don't beat yourself up over it for one. You are human. So am I. All we can really do is learn from our experiences and try and be a better version of ourselves. I can see you are down about dating. Don't let the past cloud what could be your future. Take what experiences you have and put what you have learned into your next relationship. Even if you were the cause of a breakup don't think that you will be again. You might meet the perfect girl... for you.
I don't date, never have and don't plan to do and therefore I don't have the feeling that I will ever be that problem.
However, people tend to put the faults for a failed relationship onto the other party because they don't want to realize that it takes 2 to get together but also 2 to separate. It is never just the fault of one of the parties but both have their share in this mishap.
I believe that the most common reason nowadays why people separate is because of lack of compatibility. The one or the other starts cheating but nobody is really interested in knowing why the cheating has occurred in the first place. I believe that sex/pornography is the main catalyst for a separation. It is sad to realize that sex/pornography takes the precedence over anything else in a relationship.
Yes and no. I realize now I wasn't aggressive in my youth, and that cost me relationships. I didn't get the memo. I always assumed that if a woman was attracted to me, she'd say something. But young women don't do that (at least in my generation). The women of today are much more aggressive and kind of a mixed bag. But at this age if she's a decent woman she's already married. So yes, I realize the mistakes I made but it doesn't really do anything for me now as now it is too late to do anything about it.
I donāt know if I can say I was āthe problemā but I think it took a few years to mature and settle into some more positive behaviors. I certainly did contribute to the problems I had in some previous relationships and had to learn to change my ways of thinking on some things. I think the key for me was to be open to growth and to getting to a headspace where I was open to learning what I was doing poorly.
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Yes. I had a toxic first relationship where I was treated badly and cheated on as a teenager. It definitely left some scars to do with trust issues and jealously issues.
My second partner didn't really address them, but my boyfriend now made me aware that my jealous behaviour was an issue, as I was communicating angrily and rudely, and wasn't treating him right.
I've done a lot of work on myself in the past 3 years, including self help books and trying therapy. I'm a much better communicator now and can control my feelings a lot better. We are happily together still.
Well, let's put it this way: I made a huge maturity development in my twenties as well and was quite content with the confident person I became after an eternity of dealing with a lot of difficulties. So, overcoming them was a big deal. After meeting my last ex, who caused the majority of issues in the relationship, I lost a big amount of my progress and turned into someone I don't want to be. In the end, we kind of enabled each other to derail the relationship. I couldn't deal with this and decided that it was best to end things before there would be more regrets and resentment from my side. I know that I could have handled things much better, but I also understand why I said and did the things I did in that situation. All I can do is do better. Since then, I gained a big amount of my progress back and hope that I won't fall back into those patterns again.
I never been in a relationship thank God.
In my 20ās I was an obese creature. Thankfully.
Now at 25-26. I think a relationship sometImes sounds ideal. And for companionship.
But I also donāt like the idea of cheaters and someone undesirable/ ugly / gross next to me in bed. EW. I refuse. Cheaters: Ew 🤢. Ugly: Ew 🤢
I rather die alone with my cats / dogs that sounds better. Unless I get into a poly relationship with Hot Alpha Male. And I can have another Chad on the side. 🤷🏻āāļø That would work for me. Otherwise NO!
ABSOLUTELY NOT!! 🤢🤢🤢🤢
I rather just serve in the military, get Soldier dick for as long as I live.
Yes, I was to benevolent and too lenient. Thought cooperation and equality is the key to happy relationship, but I was wrong. Someone needs to be the hard leading hand in a relationship, he was weak and couldn't reject his parasitic nature. I rejected reality and wanted the daydream of love that overcomes all obstacles, despite deep inside I knew it's against human nature. But i hoped I'm wrong.
Yesā my first serious relationship. I was already in a low place with self-worth and I didnāt always believe that he loved me or could be faithful to me. He worked hard to show me and it was still misunderstood. After we ended things and I went through some healing, I realized that I caused some hurt for him.
If I could go back in time, Iād have done some things differently to be softer for him.
But heās in a great place and has a wonderful relationship and beautiful children.
All I have to do is read the chats, I notice myself missing obvious hints and signs of things, a lot would have been different if I was more careful but no regrets, I grew through it
I think I have the problem of thinking I was the problem but maybe I really wasn't.
Iāve been causing problems that I feel bad about but I think the relationship is ok
The way I see it is I'm always the problem because I have a choice to be there or not
OH IM ABSOLUTELY THE PROBLEM AND WHY IM SINGLE
What @_Maya_ said basically.
u No I didnāt feel Iām a problem
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